The old man becomes bad or perhaps psychological disease
Everyone in our daily life, have encountered overbearing old man, they will not consider the feelings of others, at the same time will still put their own feelings in the most important position? The following is my recommendation to the elderly become bad or perhaps a psychological disease, I hope to bring you help.
Have you ever encountered such an old man in your life: regardless of whether you like it or not, in the evening in the garden of the neighborhood loudly playing music and dancing in the square; on the bus, you do not give him a seat, he could not wait to hit you; obviously he walked accidentally bumped into you, but loudly reprimanded you:? Why don't you let me on the network, the elderly, especially the bad old man? Spitting? Stretched over several years, endless. Some people say: the year wearing bell-bottom pants, permed with explosive hair? Bad people? Become old; some people say, now the elderly do not know the etiquette, no manners, no culture, the elderly have become bad.
Society? bad old man? How come there are so many? Liu Yan, a psychotherapist in the clinical psychology department of Beijing Huilongguan Hospital, said, ? All ages have bad people, and all cities have bad people. As a whole, individual? bad old man? It doesn't mean that the elderly as a whole have become bad,? Bad old people? There are not many of them. According to Liu Yan, it is more young people who are complaining that the elderly have become worse. Therefore, this kind of? Bad old people? or? old people have become bad? feeling is more likely to be? generational? differences. Just as older people are uncomfortable with younger people, younger people are uncomfortable with older people. If you find that the elderly, especially in their own family, suddenly become bad, children and relatives should be especially careful, ask the doctor to see if the elderly is sick.
Bus? Story? much
? Tales? One of the main places where older people have gone bad is on public transportation. There are reports that a girl from out of town was happy to find a seat on a bus ride to work. An elderly man who got on the bus afterward asked her to ? demanded? the seat. The girl felt violated and did not give the seat to the old man, not expecting the old man to first mouth profanity, and then sit on the girl's butt.
Wang Min is a pregnant woman. Before she got pregnant, she looked thin and thin, and did not look pregnant when she was 3 months pregnant. One day she took the bus, sitting on the love seat. An old man who got on the bus after her asked her to give up her seat, and Wang Min didn't. She wanted to explain to the old man that she had to give up her seat. She wanted to explain to the old man, I did not expect, the old man not only did not listen to her defense, but repeatedly accused and abused, and even hit her head.
The 28-year-old Li is thin and looks like a middle school student. One day, she fell asleep while riding the bus. Just when she was in a daze of sleep, she was woken up by a beating, the one who hit her was an old man, who knocked her on the head and woke her up for good because he didn't get a response from Xiao Li when he asked her to give up her seat to him.
These bus seat-grabbing seniors are really doing all the more ? powerful? But Liu Yan believes that the misbehavior of a few older people can not represent all older people have problems. Moreover, if you look at it from a different perspective, you will also find that there are a lot of older people to the young people to give up their seats: once there was a senior citizen in his 80s, a trip on the bus to the young people to give up their seats three times, ? Young people work all day, it's not easy, let them rest. Many times, the bus is the lower age of the elderly to the elderly to give their seats, more than 60 years old to more than 80 years old to give their seats are not few.
Liu Yan said, the traditional Chinese concept that? The old man should have the old man like? For the elderly those very friendly behavior, everyone will be accustomed to, think it is ? Should? ; For some of the elderly inappropriate behavior, on the contrary, will cause widespread concern, this selective attention, there is a loss of justice.
? Bullying? Elderly people have more? Growth deprivation?
Are there older people who are really worse? Of course there is. Liu Yan said, some older people really do not know how to consider the feelings of others. A lot of people say that the square dance mom nuisance, in fact, there are outside factors such as poor coordination of property, but does not exclude a few older people really more? Overbearing?
? We occasionally encountered the overbearing elderly, they will not consider the feelings of others, but also will put their own feelings in the most important position.? Liu Yan analyzed that the elderly nowadays, in the process of growing up, especially in the early stages of growth, many things are scarce. Some older people did not even have a full meal when they were young; the vast majority of older people grow up in multi-child families, in multi-child families, parents pay relatively little attention to each child, they are also spiritually deprived. Catching up with the ? Cultural Revolution? Older people who didn't study properly when they should have? They have grown old after so many years of turmoil, and although they are now materially and spiritually satisfied to a large extent, they have psychologically formed a? hole? This hole of deprivation has been created in their psyche. hole? needs to be filled. Therefore, when they grow up and become old, they will still maintain the same kind of? Robbing? spirit, and subconsciously retain the ability to survive for their own sake without regard to the feelings of others. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots.
Everyone has a deep or shallow, big or small hole in their psyche because of their different upbringing. hole? Liu Yan said, if the person responsible for raising the child, especially the mother can give the child enough love, the hole will be smaller; if the mother did not give the child enough love, the child grows up to self-study, self-improvement ability is not enough, this? The hole? will be difficult to be repaired.
Different age groups should tolerate each other
? When we think about it, it is mainly young people who say that the elderly have become bad.? Liu Yan said, if young people can think objectively, ? What they have not done enough may also be quite a lot.?
Now a lot of the '70s are not happy with the '80s, and the '90s are not happy with the '90s.
Now many of the post-70s are not used to the post-80s, and think that the post-90s are not good enough.
Nowadays, a lot of people in the 70's don't like the 80's, and think that the 90's are the 90's.
Nowadays, a lot of the '70s don't like the '80s, and think that the '90s are all brain dead. also dislike the post-70s. They call them all? The Post-90s also dislike the Post-70s, saying they are all "ashes". They're the ones who have no responsibility. Post-70s? and the Post-80s. and even the post-90s. Most of them don't like older people. People from different generations don't see eye to eye with each other," Liu Yan said. Liu Yan said, the elderly also think that the young people a bunch of problems,? Unreliable and irresponsible, people of different generations don't appreciate each other when they put each other's shortcomings? Exaggerate? The expression of the time will be in the? It's hard to see the difference between the two. It is difficult to be objective and fair. People of different generations should be more tolerant of each other. After all, who is young, were once more old people look bad; now the young people will one day become old people, but also by the future of the young people look bad.
People do change when they get old
It's not good to say whether people get worse when they get old, but people definitely change when they get old. The old saying goes: people over forty do not learn. Nowadays, the standard of living of the society is improved, the average life expectancy is prolonged, therefore, the age of not learning the art is also appropriate? Delayed? : Usually, a person after the age of 50, will not be willing to learn again. Liu Yan said that relevant research shows that this characteristic of the elderly is related to physiological changes. As they `grow older, the personality of the elderly changes.? Some people will find their grandparents, dad uncle personality change, the original quite open-minded a person, old instead of becoming a ? The old man is a strange old man. This personality change is related to the increase in their neuroticism level. At the same time, as the elderly grow older, their sense of responsibility declines, their emotional control weakens, and their ability to make others happy declines. Your elderly family member who is grumpy, angry, or chokes on his or her speech? These are normal.
This change in the elderly actually goes hand in hand with the changes in their bodies.? People get older, their health is not good, the sense of responsibility decreases, which means that they no longer take the initiative to take on more responsibility, which is consistent with the decline of their physical ability.? Older people's cognitive ability becomes poorer, therefore, their openness declines and they become less inclined to learn,? because they have a hard time remembering even when they love to learn.? Of course, not all older people are like this, and there are some open-minded older people with whom even young people like to spend time, and these older people are exceptionally strong learners.
People will change when they get old, to what extent is not normal? Liu Yan said, if the family has become particularly different from the usual elderly, children and loved ones should be vigilant.? There was a patient, usually good relationship with her daughter. But the old man suddenly changed, and even ran to the daughter's company to make a fuss, saying that the daughter is unfilial.? Subsequent examination proved that this manifestation of the old man was caused by Alzheimer's disease. Many diseases can cause the old man's temperament to change drastically, for example, some intracranial tumors will affect the old man's personality, and some psychiatric diseases such as Alzheimer's disease and depression in old age may make the old man? turn bad? This serious? change for the worse? Maybe he is sick, do children's best to take the elderly to the hospital for examination.
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