Confidante, confidante literally means a woman, confidante literally means someone who knows himself! It can also be directly understood as knowing your own woman!
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B. Who are Su Shi's three confidants?
Su Dongpo, an affectionate genius, had three wives all his life.
Su Dongpo's wife, Wang Fu, is the daughter of Jinshi, and her personality is "sensitive and quiet". When Su Dongpo was studying, she didn't go for a day. If something is forgotten, she will remind her. In ancient times, few women could read. Only after the test did I know that my wife knew books. Su Dongpo was pleasantly surprised and impressed. When Su Dongpo talks with visitors, Wang Fu often stands behind the screen and listens. Her summary and views on human nature and people are correct, and she is an excellent wife.
Love didn't last long. Wang Fu died of illness in Beijing at the age of 27. Su Dongpo was so sad that he planted 30,000 pine trees on the mountain where Wang Fu was buried (compared with these 30,000 pine trees, 999 roses were negligible. One night after ten years of witchcraft, Su Dongpo saw Wang Fu in his dream again, and he woke up sad, so he wrote the famous "Jiang Chengzi O Dream":
Ten years of life and death are two boundless, disapproving and unforgettable. A lonely grave thousands of miles away, desolate and nowhere to talk about. Even if we don't know each other, our faces are dusty and our temples are frosty.
At night, I suddenly dreamed of going home, and the window of Xiao Xuan was being decorated. Care for each other without words, only a thousand lines of tears are expected to break every year at the heartbroken place, and the moonlight night is short.
I became friends with the pillow mat and wanted to hold your hand and grow old with my son. Unexpectedly, it was abandoned, and the ghost was separated, and the porch window was sad. I woke up and had a dream. Where will you go? The most extreme thoughts between husband and wife have made many people feel so far.
Wang Fu's cousin Wang Runzhi is younger than Su Dongpo 1 1 year. She looks rich. She has endless admiration and pity for Su Dongpo, who is talented but miserable. In the third year after Wang Fu died, she married Su Dongpo. This equally considerate woman accompanied Su Dongpo through the most important 25 years in her life, and supported each other in Su Dongpo's difficult life after Wutai Poetry Case and Huangzhou's relegation. In the ups and downs of Su Dongpo's career, share joys and sorrows with him. "Three pearls are placed on the king's lap." That is to say, she treats her three sons equally, regardless of each other, and loves each other.
After Wang Runzhi's death, Su Dongpo broke his gut and wrote a eulogy:
"I said to zai, line back to Yuan Qiu. Once a little, abandoned me first. Who welcomes our doors and feeds our fields? There is nothing we can do! Tears have dried up. Traveling abroad makes me less grateful. Just the same point, or repeat this statement. Hey! "
One hundred days after Wang Runzhi's death, Su Dongpo asked his friend and great painter Li Long to sleep and paint ten arhats. When the monk recited the scriptures, he dedicated these ten statues to the dead soul of his wife. After Su Dongpo's death, he was buried with Wang Runzhi, realizing the wish of "only one thing in common" in his eulogy.
Su Dongpo's third wife Wang Chaoyun is 26 years younger than Su Dongpo. Chaoyun became Su Dongpo's maid in Hangzhou at the age of twelve, and was accepted as a concubine by Su Dongpo when she grew up. When Su Dongpo was in the most difficult time, Wang Chaoyun always accompanied him, and Wan Li followed him. He never regretted his death and was always loyal to Su Shi. Chaoyun died eleven years after being righted. Su Dongpo was buried in the pine forest under the Great Sage Tower of Qi Temple at the southern foot of Gushan Mountain in West Lake, Huizhou, and six pavilions were built beside the tomb to commemorate him. The couplet written is "out of date, only Chaoyun can know me; Playing the same old tune alone, I miss you twice every evening when it rains.
After Chao Yun's death, Su Dongpo has been widowed and never remarried. She was Su Dongpo's only confidante in his miserable old age. It can be seen that Su Dongpo is full of "untimely birth", and she burst into tears when singing Su Dongpo's "Love Flowers Withered and Reddened". After Chao Yun died, Su Dongpo stopped listening to this song for life.
In Wuzhou, facing the misty water, Su Shi wrote a poem "Jiangchengzi" in memory of Chaoyun:
Silver waves are boundless. As the sun sets, the clouds are light and the wind is light. I have seen Qingluan Zifeng and Downtown. I can't play the twenty-five strings, feel empty and regret leaving my feelings.
Cangwu smoke and water cut off and went home. Who do you greet with neon lights? Tears flow thousands of lines and there are ten thousand kinds of mourning. After dancing in the sea of clouds, I hate entering the river through the ages.
C. The more stories of ancient gifted scholars and beautiful women, the better.
In China's ancient novels, there are often sentimental love stories of talented people and beautiful women, which entrust China people's love utopia from ancient times to the present. Last Saturday, Professor Wang Zhizhong from the School of Humanities and Social Sciences of Fuzhou University was immersed in the ocean of ancient literature for many years, and made a systematic introduction to the talented people and beautiful women in China's ancient novels and the changes of their mate selection criteria. Who coined the words gifted scholar and beautiful woman? "The image of beauty that appeared earlier is the' My Fair Lady' in The Book of Songs. Ci can be found in the Han Dynasty's "Beauty in the North, peerless independence". Take care of the city first, then the country. ......' The concept of gifted scholar appeared after the Han Dynasty. "Professor Wang believes that the earliest novel of gifted scholars and beautiful women is the story of Zhuo Wenjun, a famous Chinese fu writer in Xijing Miscellanies in the Han Dynasty. Sima Xiangru saw that Zhuo Wenjun was romantic and beautiful, so he' picked it with his heart', which led Wen Jun to run at night. Here, we emphasize the similarity between literary talent and Wen Jun's appearance, that is, love in the city. This article describes' Wen Jun is beautiful, her eyebrows are as beautiful as distant mountains, her face is often like hibiscus, and her skin is as smooth as fat'. This became the standard of beauty later. " This set a precedent. Shi Shuo Xin Yu in Wei, Jin, Southern and Northern Dynasties did not forget to leave a picture scroll for talented people and beautiful women, but Professor Wang pointed out, "Among them, the Tang Dynasty, especially the legendary novels, are relatively complete, exquisite and touching, which has a great influence on later generations, and 60% of them are stories of talented people and beautiful women." Yingying Biography is also called Meet the Truth. Zhang Sheng was amazed when he saw Guo Xiang's daughter, but in fact, Yingying is not only beautiful, but also a poet. For example, she wrote, "Stay in the west wing of the moon, with the windward door ajar. "Painting the wall to move? It is suspected that the Jade Man has come. This represents a change between tang legends's novels and the previous novels of gifted scholars and beautiful women: both men and women have talents and looks; In addition, the Tang Dynasty was a country of poetry, and poetry came and went. The Biography of Huo Xiaoyu also has a far-reaching influence on later generations. Like "Biography of Yingying", it is a talented person and a beautiful woman who expresses her feelings with poetry. However, in the Tang Dynasty, family status was very important. Xiaoyu was named the daughter of the fire king, but she was born to a little girl, so family status separated them. And the legend of flying smoke. Feiyan is also a talented woman. When she died, she said,' Life is a blind date, so why hate it!' ..... In short, the novels of gifted scholars and beautiful women in the Tang Dynasty emphasize more on the talents and looks of both sides, which are reflected in a large number of poems, but most of them end in tragedy and have a deep influence on later operas. "The Song and Yuan Dynasties are a transitional period for the novels of gifted scholars and beautiful women." The stories are more diverse. Most leading men are famous scribes, and the identities of leading women are various. For example, the story of' Red Leaves Passing Poems' in A Dream of Red Mansions in the Song Dynasty is a true story. It has even been pointed out that the hero is a famous poet in the middle Tang Dynasty and the heroine is a maid-in-waiting. There are three words and two beats in the vernacular novel Su Xiaomei's Three Difficult Grooms in the Ming Dynasty, which are no longer early private trysts with two of a kind, but mostly comedy endings. "The late Ming and early Qing dynasties were the peak of the novels of gifted scholars and beautiful women, and even influenced A Dream of Red Mansions. Although Zhu Yuanzhang, the founder of Ming Dynasty, emphasized Neo-Confucianism, women were greatly vilified in the patriarchal society, which can be seen in Journey to the West. However, extremes meet, leading a group of people to write about how beautiful women are. "Good Biography typically shows three conditions of a talented person and a beautiful woman at that time, namely, good appearance and good character. I haven't asked about character before. The hero and heroine in this novel talk about poetry and paper in one room and one night, and there is no ceremony. Men's criteria for choosing a spouse are also stricter than before, and they think it is very important, saying that' the former (appearance) is good, and the latter (talent) is hard to find. Without the latter, I would rather not marry. "Novels of the Qing Dynasty can't avoid Strange Tales from a Lonely Studio, in which there are new changes except that most beautiful women are ghosts and foxes. "Many talented people study first, then do business, and they are Confucian businessmen. The relationship between the sexes is relatively open, but some of them only become lifelong confidantes, such as Jiao Na." At the same time, great changes have taken place in the Qing Dynasty. Beautiful women are no longer confined to good women, but prostitutes. For example, Fuzhou Wei Xiuren wrote "Flower Moon Mark", "These talented women are good at painting. Scholars believe that only prostitutes have confidantes, so they admire them. Is' brothel original book fairy can't all be exposed'. "
D. what's the story of the confidante?
A confidante is a female friend who is spiritually independent, spiritually equal and can achieve a deep * * * sound.
E. What was the last letter written by the ancients and confidante?
The perfect pen. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
What are the typical stories of "confidante and femme fatale"
1 confidante
Ding Fengbo
Su Shi
I always admire the jade lang in the world, and God teaches me to pay some crisp mothers. Self-purification songs scatter white teeth, the wind blows snow and flies, and the sea becomes cold.
Wan Li returned less and less years, she laughed more and more, and lived alone. Should Lingnan be bad? However, this peace of mind is my hometown.
Wang Gong, a good friend of Su Shi, was exiled to Pennsylvania, a remote place in Lingnan, because of the "Wutai Poetry Case" that killed Su Ji. When Wang Dingguo was demoted, her geisha Rounu resolutely accompanied her to Lingnan. In the sixth year of Yuanfeng (1083), Wang Gong returned to the north. He asked a soft slave (alias Yu Niang) to persuade Su Shi to drink. When Sue asked about the customs of Guangnan, Rounu replied, "This peaceful place is my hometown". Su Shi was greatly moved after hearing this, and wrote this word to praise it.
This word not only describes the beauty and talent of the singer Rounu, but also shows her beautiful sentiment and noble character. The style of this word lies in the combination of rigidity and softness, the blending of reason and feeling, ethereal and ethereal, delicate and gentle.
2 femme fatale
Shang Dynasty: da ji. Legend has it that da ji is a femme fatale and the chief culprit of eternal lewdness. The specific facts are as follows: First, in order to please da ji, Zhou Wang sent people to collect the world's rare animals and put them in Lutai and Luyuan, often drinking and having fun all night. Second, in the severe winter, da ji saw someone walking barefoot on the ice, thinking that he had a special physiological structure, and cut off his feet to study the reasons why he was not afraid of cold and freezing. Third, da ji witnessed a pregnant woman's paunchy belly. Out of curiosity, she did not hesitate to cut open the pregnant woman's belly to see what was inside, wasting the lives of both mother and son. Fourth, da ji urged Zhou Wang to kill the loyal minister and cut his heart by laparotomy to prove the legend that "the heart of a saint has seven orifices".
Zhou Dynasty: Praise. That is, the beautiful woman who never smiles in The Prince of the Fire Play. Biography of the Eastern Zhou Dynasty tells a wonderful story about her life, but in fact, people estimate that she is a beautiful girl of the "Praise" tribe and was dedicated to Zhou Youwang for political reasons. It is said that praise loves to hear the sound of "tearing". Zhou Youwang immediately ordered all localities to pay tribute to 100 silk horses every day, so that people could tear them off in turn as a sign of praise. At that time, many ordinary people were forced to break their homes and die, with no way out.
Spring and Autumn Period: Time. From one point of view, he is a "hero", but from another point of view, that is, from the standpoint of Wu State, he is a deliberate "femme fatale". The demise of Fuzha tea is still related to her. Without the final demise of Fuzha tea, Xi Shi's pillow wind played a huge role.
Western Han Dynasty: Lv Zhi. It's Liu Bang's wife Lv Hou. When she was alive, she suppressed the Liu family and fostered the Lu family, which made a very bad start. In addition, Lv Hou's methods are too vicious, which can be seen from her treatment of Liu Bang's concubine, Mrs. Qi. It is said that when Liu Bang died, he cut off all Mrs Qi's hands and feet, gouged out her eyes, pricked her ears, cut off her tongue and threw it into the toilet to be a "prostitute".
3 beautiful women are unlucky
Da ji: The femme fatale began in da ji. She has a charming appearance, but she also has a very vicious heart. She is like a glass of fragrant wine, which makes Zhou Wang intoxicated. She began to mess around in the palace, framed Zhongliang, and made the 500-year-old soup disappear, leaving a lasting stigma. King Wu went to Beijing and a demon queen was caught. He also did not forget to seduce the samurai with flattery, so that the samurai could not bear to use the knife. Later, the blindfolded warrior cut off his beautiful head with a knife, and a demon queen finally died. What a woman's sorrow! Sadly, alas!
Praise: beautiful as a fairy, crystal clear, as cold as ice, it is rare to smile. Wang You played a bonfire and finally won a smile from the beautiful woman, but she didn't have the last laugh. At the foot of Mount Li, You Yong became You's home, but the praise was taken away by Rong Zhu as a trophy, and he accompanied Rong Zhu to have fun all day. Later, Rong Zhu ran away in a hurry and didn't have time to take her with him. She was ashamed to see the hometown of Zhou Dynasty, and finally hanged herself at a young age.
Yang Guifei: "When riding a princess in the world of mortals and laughing, no one knows it is litchi." Although she is beautiful and charming, she has three thousand favorites. Both of them are very happy and made a song of everlasting regret. But in the end, he was forced by officers and men in the Fanyang mutiny and the fall of Luoyang. Ma Wei lost his soul and died in heaven. Even Li Longji, the real dragon emperor, can't keep his favorite beauty. He could only watch the beautiful woman hang herself. Later generations also imposed the decline of state affairs on a weak woman, making her a sinner of history. Alas!
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G. What did the ancients mean by "confidante"?
A confidante, also called a confidante, is a female friend who is spiritually independent, spiritually equal, and can be profound. It is not only an emotional trash can to pour out troubles, but also a bird's nest tired of looking for a home after being injured in the outside world.
Because of the particularity of men and women, it is called a "fourth emotion" that is divorced from family, love and friendship. The highest realm of heterosexual friendship is "danger". Once it is uncontrollable, it will cross the border and enter the love between men and women.
Smart men let women set themselves off, smart women let men set themselves off. A confidante is a beautiful background in a man's life, picturesque just for you.
A confidante is the most precious, rare and coveted existence in a man's life.
meaning
A confidante is a female friend who can achieve profound fame on the basis of spiritual independence and spiritual equality. It is a close female friend and the purest friendship between men and women who are not involved in mixed emotions. Take selflessness as one's own responsibility, as opposed to a woman's "blue confidante". For the opposite sex of similar age, it can be called a confidante; People with a big age gap are generally called "forgetting to make friends". A bosom friend can be an inner listener or a spiritual reader. "But it must be a complete spiritual exchange. Once love or sex happens, this relationship will collapse. " What is a wife? It's a woman you are willing to pay your savings to keep. What is a confidante? A woman can tell her the secret, but not her wife. "Annie baby said. So many men want to have a confidante. Unfortunately, it is difficult to find a confidante who admires each other. Even if you are lucky enough to find one, you may turn your confidante into a "femme fatale" because you can't grasp each other's "degree" in the process of communication, which makes you fidget and fall apart.
The confidante believes such a sentence; True love spans the length of life and soul and can exist in various forms. What men in this world need most, besides their wives, is a confidante.
The most important thing to be a confidante is to abide by the boundaries.
When you are sick in bed and struggling with pain, the one who holds your hand in panic and tears will be your wife. She is afraid of your pain, afraid of your death, and can't wait to hurt and die for you. She is crying. Obsession moves you and makes you uneasy. And the confidante didn't. Confidante don't cry. She just stood by the bed, looked at you quietly, read your heart, and then told you with her mouth, her eyes and her heart that she knew where your pain was. She understands you and is willing to share it silently for you, so that your soul will no longer be lonely and make you happy. This shows the essential difference between the two: crying because I love you; I don't cry because I understand you.
A man, if there is a woman who loves you deeply and understands you in his life, what else can he ask for?
Female confidantes are all extremely clever girls, and they know best: if a woman wants to be eternal in a man's life, it is either his mother or the female confidante he will never get. Know him, she just doesn't belong to him. Give him enough care, but don't give him a good impression, don't give him the threat that you will fall in love with him, and don't let him have the impulse and enthusiasm to fall in love with you. This is the skill of being a confidante.
You went out for a long trip and there was no news, but there was a major natural disaster where you went, and your confidante was worried. You called many times, but you couldn't get through every time because your phone was turned off. When you have lingered enough and stood in front of her unkempt face, she just smiled and asked, "Long time no see, how have you been?" She won't mention her worries, her worries, never. She knows that mentioning those things has nothing to do with her. She doesn't want love, just friendship. She is like a naughty headhunter. She winks at you, and then brings out the naughty, enthusiastic and active elements of all the boys in you. You have no choice but to surrender in front of her. I really can't escape, and I don't want to.
Usually, a wife is a confidante, and a confidante is a listener. She may be gentle and lovely, or she may be like a generous buddy. In front of her, a man can be a tired bird or a prodigal son, tired, lonely, helpless, evasive and lazy, but she can accept your darkness, give you peace and make room for your energy recovery.
If the wife is the sun and the lover is the moon, then the confidante is the star. When the sun and the moon are tired, the stars are not. They are flickering and far away, willing to be lonely but brilliant and long.
No matter how high you are in front of others, you can't look up. In the eyes of your confidante, there is only dignity, not majesty. She can walk into your heart through layers of masks, like entering a no-man's land, and talk to you in a language that you and she both know.
Therefore, those who can become confidantes must be the best among women. And those who can have a confidante must be wise men.
H. Who were the famous confidantes in ancient times?
Emperor Xuanzong of Tang Dynasty Yang Yuhuan
Yu Ji of overlord Xiang Yu
Li Yu's Big Week and Little Week
Hongfu's daughter
Fan Li's beauty
Zhuo Wenjun, Sima Xiangru
Lu You's Tang Wan
First, those stories with confidantes.
People are like this, sometimes they are confident, but when desire comes, everything is absolutely special, especially when they are drunk. It is not surprising that people lose control most easily. I think you must regret it now, but you'd better avoid this kind of thing in the future, because we are not saints. As for how to solve it, since you are a rational person, you should know how to do it. After all, you hurt your best brother, your confidante, and caused them great harm. You should be responsible for your actions, apologize and compensate if you can. If you can't solve it, make yourself feel better! As for the confidante, if their relationship breaks down because of you, you should take good care of him. After all, it is not easy to find a confidante, but don't let their relationship break down. Because this is sabotage, it is not good for anyone, it will directly lead your brother to turn against him, and at the same time make your confidante think that he is wrong. This is the worst. Keep asking if you have any questions.
J. Celebrities and great men who have made great achievements with confidantes in history
Huangdi and, Li Jing and Hongfu, and Zhuo Wenjun, Ganjiang and, Yang Ye and She Jinhua, Yang Quanzong Bao and Mu, Xue Yu, Xue Dingshan and Fan Lihua. Zhu Yuanzhang and Ma Huanghou, Zhuge Liang and Huang Yueying, Zhou Yu and Xiao Qiao, Zhou Enlai and Deng Ying Chao, Liu Bang and Lv Hou (please ask others to help supplement these at present).