Most people grow up with an education that is competitive and even utilitarian.
From kindergarten we have to fight to get the little red flower; elementary school, junior high school when we have to fight for the first or fight for the class top ten; college entrance exams desperately trying to get a good university; college when we have to fight to get a scholarship; work to get the performance appraisal excellent, and strive to promote as early as possible, we have been set up by the life of the route to be forced to a moment and a half. Although we also go up to a new level, but when there is a certain accumulation of wealth, stop and think carefully, what do I really need? What is my mission and value in life? At that time, it suddenly realized that I was not engaged in my favorite thing to do, only to find that I was engaged in the eyes of outsiders have power, social status, monetary rewards, and suddenly there is a kind of want to live a life for themselves. There are a lot of people like that.
But it's impossible to turn back the clock, and even if it's something you like, it takes a long time to accumulate and try again and again, and if you don't realize it until then, it's too late. So I think young people should find their own value and mission as soon as possible after entering the university, or even before entering the university, when choosing a major. That way he will plan and prepare for his life as soon as possible, and he will work hard for his mission and values as soon as possible, so that his life will really become what he wants it to be.
For me, it wasn't until I discovered WeChat, these platforms, that I realized I could write in this form. Publishing articles through public numbers and editing makes me feel at ease and quiet inside, and makes me feel as if I'm accomplishing a piece of work in a small way. If I plan to publish an article one day and don't, I feel as anxious as if there is something I haven't accomplished, and the next day I have to change the draft and publish it right away.
I don't have the luxury of being able to write while I'm working, living, and writing. But it allows me to find the joy of life, just like some people like to watch TV series, read novels, travel, it is a thing that I want to do from the bottom of my heart. I can record my life and share my feelings in my articles. More importantly, I will take the opportunity of writing to clarify my thinking, y analyze my mind, and remove the roughness and extract the essence, just like pruning and trimming the leaves of the small tree of life, leaving behind what I think is the most genuine in my life, so as not to waste my time and energy.
I've done a lot of work, some because of the paycheck, some because of hobbies, some because of whims. But those work achievements are more like completing a task, can't bring me peace of mind and stability like writing, and can't bring me a longer sense of satisfaction, and can't make me have that kind of soulful sense of achievement and value. But when I write an article, no matter how long it is or whether it is good or bad, every article I post will bring me countless thoughts, realizations and satisfaction.
Writing is what I want to do from the bottom of my heart and find valuable. Although there are often people among my relatives and friends who would discourage me, saying that it is useful to write these things? I never read it; what's the point of writing these things? How many people can make a living by writing? Can I make money by writing these things in the future? If you really feel free, open an online store, you can earn some pocket money. Hearing these, I have never felt embarrassed, because like is my greatest strength, I also never refute, at most said, no way, I like, so I can not control. I make money to enjoy life, I have a job that is good enough to support my life and that's enough. The rest of the time, I need to enjoy life the way I like it, do what I feel joyful about, and that's it. I feel that writing is valuable to me and worth my time and effort. I don't want my life to be empty of a regret, I want to be capricious for myself to live a hand, let the east and west, north and south winds, I'm not moving.
I remember the day I met with my friends, and one of my friends was talking about his life. He said he has done a lot of work, from technician to department head, has technology, quality management, sales, service and other cross-field experience. But after all that, he still likes to do research, especially in electrical and circuitry. He would spend thousands of dollars to buy equipment at his own expense, do their own semiconductor radios, do small appliances, once the circuit problems can not be studied, he pondered, sleep is not good.
He said he didn't want to be a leader at all, but he liked the sense of accomplishment and satisfaction in the circuit research process. He feels that this is like his life, can not say why, just like. People like him are better talents no matter which position they are put in. But for him, only when he does what he loves will he rejoice from the bottom of his heart. It is said that some time ago a company worth tens of millions of dollars of imported equipment failure, the manufacturer can not find people to repair, has been delayed production. In order not to affect the delivery date to the customer, he personally on the research, actually repaired, he said that time he felt a sense of accomplishment. If he was able to find that his favorite is electrical research, and has been engaged in electrical research related work, perhaps now will become a very powerful expert in the field of electrical, perhaps into what highly sophisticated equipment Institute, perhaps which aircraft electrical equipment is his work.
This also reminds me of my elders, he was a javelin thrower coach when he was young, especially like to specialize in research, often homemade research training equipment and nutritional formulas, has developed a national top eight good results. But then he was recommended to become a school principal and left the business post of training athletes, far away from professional training. Now he retired, nearly 70 years old, still do not forget to train excellent athletes, still think that in the future for the National Games, Asian Games and even the Olympic Games to train javelin throwers. So, when a private school valued his resume, agreed to let him enrollment training, he defied his family's objections, at his own expense for days in the city's primary and secondary schools in various counties to discover potential talent.
He always talked about the process of selecting the players, said there are a lot of children in very good condition. One of the children 14 years old, height 183CM, usually like to practice boxing, explosive force, good bouncing force, softball a shot on more than 80 meters, while the average child can only throw more than 50 meters. Such a javelin seedling as long as a little coaching will be able to break the city record, and then after a period of strength and technical training, surely can become a javelin field of outstanding talent.
But before he could choose a good candidate, he himself fell ill. Despite being sick, he still couldn't let go of this child with excellent congenital conditions. He said he now regrets it. The first time, I should not be the principal, but should continue to engage in business, training players, may now have won the world championship players. For him, training good athletes is worthwhile and fulfilling, and it gives him spiritual satisfaction. Because of his illness, he may not be able to teach that kid for a while, but he said he would find a relationship and recommend him to a good coach. He should be at an advanced age, but as he is so persistent, I can't persuade him to do anything else. If he still has a dream, let him dream again. It's not easy to find something worthwhile and worthwhile to do in one's life, so don't wait until it's too late to regret it.
Carefully observe what we are doing in our leisure time, we will find that a lot of time is spent in vain, brush drama, playing games, reading novels, browsing the circle of friends, daze, and friends chatting. Doing the time hip-hop immensely happy, but looking back, in addition to the time spent, very little feeling is worthwhile and sense of accomplishment.
If the work has been very tired, life has been very complete, there is only enjoyment left, it does not matter. But I believe that deep inside everyone, there is always a dream waiting to be awakened. Think about what else is valuable to you and what you can accomplish. When you feel bored, stick to it, and it will surely bring another kind of fulfillment to your life.
If you are still in the learning stage or the beginning of society, when you are alone, don't immerse in the emptiness and silence, don't waste your time in playing games, watching TV, shopping, eating food. Read well, study well professional knowledge, improve professional ability, day by day, will eventually find their own fun in the sea of knowledge, will eventually through hard learning and obtain the knowledge and skills to change their destiny.
If your lover or lover is not around, don't be eroded by thoughts and loneliness, find your own hobbies and feel valued things, diligently study. Such as academic certificates, qualification certificates, learning a foreign language, painting, writing songs, writing poems, writing novels, open online stores, design works, piano practice, dance practice, singing practice, calligraphy practice, etc., any which can be, as long as you choose that love and feel the value of things, every day, bit by bit, accumulation, will certainly one day feel the satisfaction and happiness of a small success.
If your son or daughter grows up and is not around, don't feel bad about being alone. If you feel that the time has come to enjoy the good times of life, take good care of your body, traveling, brushing up on your dramas, eating good food, dancing in the square, doing whatever you want. If you feel that there is still residual heat can be played, there are still dreams that have not been realized, still can use ten years to sharpen a sword of confidence to restart the search for what they feel valuable.
As soon as possible to find what they feel valuable, as soon as possible to find their own life mission. Doing what you feel is valuable will make you feel very satisfied with your life, and most importantly, that satisfaction is absolutely above the happiness that money can bring you.