How to run a marriage?

Here to learn how marriage should be run. Marriage should be how to run 1 a chance to read the chat inside a story called Heng Niang, generally speaking is about a fox spirit how to help their good sister, a cold room, to restore their husbands lost in the third party on the heart, although the story is written in the ancient times, but now it seems to be still feel up to date, still applicable now. And these principles, in those days was assigned as a positive use of energy to really play the "master of the barbarians to control the barbarians" effect, so the essence of this is even more worthy of learning, of course, used to their husbands' hearts to maintain the attraction of the charm, and seize the husband's heart most desire rather than to others, is the correct use of these methods. correct use. In the story of Hengniang, Hengniang taught her best friend Zhu, a few emotional maintenance tricks, specific, sisters can go to find, but the purpose of this is to create attraction. There is a modern man once summarized a particularly classic words, is smart sharp, better than a hundred times the stupidity of the good, this is completely correct, in the failure of marriage, I do not know how many of these tragic stories have appeared, that is, a kind-hearted silly sister husband's heart when to run away do not know, know that a one-track mind that guy is good, so good that the guy no longer know how to cherish the silly sister to give the good, and so long as the husband Never come back, silly sister still sitting on the threshold of their own homes, people will be crying about their own once so good to him, that kills a thousand knife but so heartless, instead of that vixen from time to time to him to ignore, he is tail wagging or trace the flavor of the people to the side of the get together. What a stark contrast ah, the family stability is not stable although it is necessary to be the kind of heart and lung good type of emotional support, of course, if you run into a similarly loyal and stupid is indeed lucky, then these two people can be a long time to live a loyal and honest days, but it is the case that the world such a small chance, the most common phenomenon is that one party is, and the other is not just like Liaozhai Hengniang that! The story of Zhu, the original person is very intelligent, heart is very kind. But it is in this area is not enlightenment, was a just out of the third party Baobei set off the harem, on a tawdry strength to Zhu's defeat, the husband made the soul, Zhu's ignore, you say Zhu's which point is not good, round looks, on the temperament, on the intelligent, which point can not compare with the Baobei? Fell into a situation like this, so Hengniang can not stand to see, decided to go out and support help. From the sloppy untrimmed nirvana out of the beautiful outstanding boutique version, blinded the fast husband's eyes, and then the husband begged for joy and not give, to the other side of the begging and micro-getting, ubiquitously improve the value of Zhu's stature, which is not the real version of the marketing is not starvation marketing in the marketing? And to preserve the dignity of Zhu's victory for the great! Can be called a wonderful pen of emotional maintenance. How, look at these, are you also inspired by the point? However, the theory is above so to speak, but also have to look at their own husbands is a what type of, because a key to open a lock, how to protect the husband, but also to see what he is, under the people have under the people's methods, Yangchun Baixue have Yangchun Baixue method, the specific situation, in fact, the most reliable, or their own brains to do the emotional maintenance, because you are the person who is in the Bureau, the most understanding of the situation! Marriage should be how to run 2 1, gambling psychology "He is sorry for me, do not let me have a good time, I will not let him live fast." "Why should I work so hard for so many years, let another woman to take up." "He does not just want to divorce me to find that woman? Don't even think about it! Anyway, even after the divorce, I can't possibly choose to get married again, so let's see who exhausts who first." ...... In the face of a famous but not real marriage, some people choose to endure in silence, some choose to back down, and some launch a revolt. Unwilling! Too hurtful to self-esteem, don't want to endure! Whoever gives me hurt, I want to use double the power to make him as hurt as I am! The big deal is that no one is going to get any better. With gambling, mutual harm behavior, to face the injured marriage is some people's way of coping. 2、Property Issues The property that a couple **** has is an issue that many couples who want to get divorced consider. Marriage to the last step, due to self-protection or not, want to minimize the loss or hold the purpose of wanting to let the other more compensation. If you can't talk about it, some people will choose to wait, drag, consume, until the other party compromised. 3, the children, the elderly problem can not bear to see the child sad, can not bear to see the child from now on no home, feel sorry for the child, worried that the child from now on is not the same as other children, for fear that the child by classmates ridicule. If the child is awarded to the other side, and really can not leave the child; or awarded to their own and not able to raise; some children or parents do not want them to divorce or even forced by death. Then the problem is even more difficult to deal with. 4, there are still feelings but die not to say Obviously still love each other but embarrassed to say, can only be children, property and other issues are not dealt with to say things. Inside more or less still hold the idea that can be salvaged, thinking that can be delayed, perhaps in a few years on the good, with the child grows up, and each other to open up can start to make do with the life. 5, divorce means that it is difficult to find happiness relatively conservative thinking, due to the habit of the original way of life, the face of single life will be full of fear. Some people with a low sense of self-worth or older people will find it difficult to find an ideal partner once they are divorced. After weighing the pros and cons, it is safer to stay put. How to adjust this state to better adapt to the marriage? 1、Don't force yourself First of all, we need to make it clear here that our point is not to advise those friends who are unhappy in their marriages to stay in their marriages. If you feel unhappy and really have no love, then hurry to leave the negative man or bravely return to single, and enjoy the life of a person again or fall in love again. Married life is a personal choice no matter how you choose! 2, and parents and friends to establish a good emotional support Certain people do not want to divorce, but their marriage in the parents and relatives and friends to see, a little worth remembering the value is not. Originally faced with such a marriage, the mood will be very bad and can not get others to understand, into a person in the marriage alone. Some people can't vent their emotions for a long time, and eventually they suppress themselves and slowly become depressed. Regardless of your marital status, you should be able to communicate better with your parents, relatives and friends, build good relationships and get emotional support. Then when you are faced with difficulties, you will not be helpless, but can better open the mind can be positive to face the problem. 3, to have the ability to control the risk of life need to buy a variety of insurance, for example, life insurance, car insurance, pension or medical insurance, marriage insurance but no one has ever bought. Of course, there is no such insurance on the market at present, but we can set up an insurance for each other inside. There are many questions to consider for this insurance, such as, "What are the things that need to be invested in the marriage?" "What are the items that add value to yourself or your family?" "Even if you don't work after marriage, then, is there the ability to support yourself at any time and the ability to not be eliminated from society?" ...... At the beginning of the heart have expectations, the crisis comes will not be helpless, but also can more quickly find a solution rather than resignation. 4, the spirit of the relative independence of human nature are afraid of loneliness, although you can continue to broaden the circle of people, so that life becomes richer, but no matter how wonderful, everyone's time every day is 24 hours, everyone has their own life to live. Even if the day or night life is no longer wonderful, in the dead of night or before the dawn comes always need to face alone. No matter what kind of life state, everyone should learn to get along with themselves, because the world with us the longest time with the person is always our own, to us never give up is also our own. When if the above suggestions do not work for you, then there is another suggestion, you can find a psychiatrist or emotional counselor to spend time with you. Meanwhile, in addition to family, husband, children, relatives and friends, you also need to have their own hobbies, such as: flowers and plants, reading or traveling and so on. When you can also enjoy a life alone in the middle of marriage, when you are independent, strong, in the face of sudden changes, you can better face and deal with. The reason for starting a family and getting married and having children is to make each other's lives happier and more harmonious. Human instinct is to avoid harm and desire to have love, security, desire for inner peace, joy, calm and relaxed. Marriage should be how to run 3 a marriage management skills: marriage rupture how to do? 1, tolerance, do not mention the old things There is no perfect person in the world, including your lover, the face of him must have a tolerant heart. In the marriage there will be a party to make some mistakes, sometimes the past on the past, do not keep bringing up, so that everyone is not happy. If some problems occur in the marriage, then start from scratch, do not care about the previous mistakes, we are not gods, we are all going to make mistakes. 2, know how to release the pressure of men Give him more consideration and care. Men in a family is like a pillar of the role, every day in order to give the family better and outside the pressure, he hoped to return home to have a hot meal, a gentle and caring wife to care for their own enough. Therefore, perhaps the former capricious strong you have to learn to put down their own posture, when he chagrined know how to share the pressure with him, when he was tired when he was appropriate to help him massage, do not often in front of him to complain, temper, because originally outside has been subjected to enough pressure, if you return home to assume that you give him pressure, when he can not withstand it, when you then come to remedy has been too late. Second, the marriage management skills: how to avoid the emergence of marital problems? 1, keep your sanity Save the marriage must keep a good mind. The crisis in the marriage, we must try to salvage. The two people open up their hearts to chat, communication in marriage is a very important study. Problems in the marriage do not mess, control their emotions, quietly solve the problem, do not be in a hurry, need to use the right way to save the marriage, so as to achieve better results. 2, enhance their own value Men also want to go home every day to see a beautiful woman, rather than a body out of shape yellow face, beautiful is originally a woman's right, you should pay good attention to their own external image. In addition, your unchanging lifestyle also need to start changing, more to discover the wonderful activities around, more to go to the party with friends, more to learn some of the locks of men's appetites for cooking, so that their own lives are rich, so that they can really exude their own charms to attract their husbands back.