In 1993, Fang Chongcai, a 31-year-old disabled bachelor from rural Sichuan, adopted an abandoned baby girl. At the time, every family was struggling to make ends meet, not to mention that he had a low IQ and was sometimes dependent on others for his own livelihood, so his family opposed him adopting the baby girl.
But at his insistence, and the argument that raising a child is the best way to prevent an old man from dying, his family finally agreed, and helped the little girl on the household registration. It did not occur to me that 23 years later, the foster daughter grew up, married and married, but the foster father Fang Chongcai sued the court, requesting the dissolution of the relationship between the foster father and daughter. The court accepted the case and finally ruled that the adoption was invalid and agreed to dissolve the relationship between father and daughter.
Adoptive father Fang Chongcai always want to understand, why he was not easy to raise the daughter, do not want him as a father? Although she is an adopted daughter, he has always treated the child as his own daughter.
And what saddens him even more is that the 30,000 yuan of pension money that he has worked so hard to save has been taken away by his adopted daughter's family. Why did the adopted daughter end up a stranger after 23 years of support? What happened between them?
Fang Chongcai was born in 1962 to a rural family in Guang'an City, Sichuan Province. When he was eight years old, he had a bad cold and a persistent high fever.
At that time, his family was too poor, his father died early, and his mother was supporting him and his brother's two children, barely able to eat, and had no money to send him to the hospital for treatment, so he could only use rural methods to reduce his fever. Later, the fever is down, but because the fever is not timely, brain burned, sometimes understand, sometimes confused.
Fang Chongcai, when he was confused, ran around the village, and when he understood, he knew to go out and do some odd jobs to earn some pocket money. The first time I saw this, I was in the middle of a long journey, and it was a long time ago that I was in the middle of a long journey, and it was a long time ago that I was in the middle of a long journey, and it was a long time ago that I was in the middle of a long journey.
The eldest son became a family, the mother finally completed a thing, but look at this silly little son, and worried. He is a person of such intelligence, which girl is willing to marry him? Fang Chongcai doesn't understand his mother's worries. He was happy every day and didn't know what was worrying. These days are passing by, he will be 31 years old.
Mother is also old, she is most worried about Fang Chongcai, not married, no family, no children, stupid, he left, what should he do? Only his own eldest son can be entrusted, however, the eldest son's days are not rich, the younger son went, on the eldest son is also a burden. The heart of the hand is meat, both sons she heartache.
That day, she was pondering over this matter, how to ponder is no solution, can not help but sigh. At this time, Fang Chongcai came back from outside in a hurry, only to see him holding something in his arms. She had bad eyes and didn't see what it was, and when her son came closer, she was so scared that she almost sat on the ground. In her son's arms was a small, recently born baby.
"Where did you get this baby from? My silly son! You've caused trouble for mom again!" The mother hurriedly took the baby from Fang Chong Cai's arms and was about to walk outside.
The mother thought that it was her son who was mentally retarded, and when people were not paying attention, he carried the child back. She was afraid that her son would accidentally hurt the child, which was no small thing.
But Fang Chongcai stopped his mother from leaving and angrily said and gestured, "For me, man, for me, the child...". He said incoherently. The mother could not understand, insisted on going out, she wanted to hurry to send the child back to others. In the midst of the tearing and tangling, someone from the village came to the house and told her about the process of the baby being carried back by Fang Chongcai.
It turned out that a yellow-faced man came to the village, wearing patched clothes, holding a small quilt in his arms that had been used up, and asking anxiously who could adopt the child. He said his family is difficult, many children, can not afford to raise. But after all, it is his own flesh and blood, I hope to find a good family for the child.
There are curious villagers, went up to see, the doll was born just a few days, thin physique, are worried about raising can not live, no one to adopt. The man saw no one to adopt, flopped down on his knees, pleading with the villagers onlookers: "I beg you to do good, save this child! In my home, she is a dead end, help!" .
Some people advised him, "It's not that I won't help you, this is a life! If you adopt her, you have to be responsible for her, and no one can afford to do that." Some people also advised him to carry back, "their own children, even if it is difficult, you have to raise your own." Just as a group of people were all talking, no one noticed that Fang Chong Cai suddenly picked up the child. He looked at the child's thin face with an expression he had never seen before, tender and quiet, his eyes full of fondness.
His action frightened the villagers who were familiar with him, could it be that he wanted to adopt the child? Simply a joke, he can't even feed himself, how can he feed the child? The villagers advised Fang Chongcai, "Hurry up and give the child back to the people, you can't raise it." The company's main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers," he said.
The villagers in turn tried to persuade the man not to give the child to Fang Chongcai, but at some point the man had already sneaked away. Fang Chongcai also ignored what others said and ran back to his home with the child in his arms. The mother listened to the villagers and was relieved to know that her son was not in trouble.
Just after the relief, followed by worry. The child's skinny eyes, how to do it? Fang Chongcai simply can not count on, and raise the child needs money, the family does not have a moneymaker, which money to raise? The mother thought about it, but decided to send the child away. Whether her son understands or not, she said she can't afford to raise this child. But no matter how much she said, Fang Chongcai just wouldn't let it go and insisted on keeping the child.
The mother had no choice but to call her eldest son to discuss the matter. The older son's opinion is very clear, this child can not be raised, must be sent back. His heart aches for his mother, his mother began to widowhood when she was young, as a father and mother, his brother Fang Chongcai so many years, no less than let his mother worry, his mother did not enjoy the blessings of a lifetime, if you raise this child, but also have to work hard for many years.
But his words, Fang Chongcai simply do not listen to, holding the child does not let go, afraid of being snatched away like. For a while, there was a stalemate. Perhaps this child is destined to be with their family.
The village is not big enough to hide anything, and the news will fly all over the village for a while. In addition, the village's famous "fool" to raise another family's child, this explosive news is even more like legs, spread to the village council.
The village chief knew about it and couldn't just sit back and watch, so he hurriedly came to Fang Chongcai's house to ask about the situation. After understanding the situation, he sent people to the village before and after detailed inquiries to understand, and finally found the abandonment of the child's family.
The girl's biological father, has always wanted a boy. The newborn daughter, so that has been looking forward to a son of his some disappointment, so the thought of giving away, so that another one. After understanding the situation, the village director knows to send not back. And considering the old lady's family situation, this half-witted son Fang Chongcai did not get a wife. He persuaded them, hoping that they left the child, and said: "You will raise the doll after the adult, the future can also be for Fang Chongcai old age well".
One sentence reminded the old lady. The problem of the youngest son's old age will be solved if the child is raised. The old woman's problem has always been a problem for her, and now she has an answer. After discussing with her eldest son, she agreed to keep the child. The child seemed to know that he had become a member of this family, and the child who had been sleeping began to cry.
What is even more amazing is that Fang Chongcai actually knew how to coax the child, gently patting the child and slowly swaying him, probably because he had once seen his mother taking care of his brother's child in this way, and he had learned to do so. The old lady looked at her son, and then looked at the child in his arms. Can not help but think, this is God pity him, in order to help him, sent him this child. In the future, when she is gone, her son, Fang Chongcai, finally does not have to be alone, there is someone to take care of him, and the thought of this makes her heart doubly happy.
After the girl officially settled in the Fang family, Mrs. Fang gave the child a nickname, "Xiaofang". The arrival of Xiaofang brought a lot of excitement to the quiet home. Whether it was the sound of coaxing the child, teasing the child, or the sound of the child's crying and laughing, it brought life to the family. Most of the children were still taken care of by Mrs. Fang, and when Mrs. Fang was busy, Fang Chongcai gave a hand, teasing the children or holding them for a while.
People in the village know that he has adopted a child, and when they meet, they tell him, "You have a daughter, you are the father of a child, you can't play all day, you have to go out and earn money to buy food for the child. With food, the child will grow up."
Surprisingly, he understood. So he followed the men in his village to work on construction sites and to help people carry and unload goods. Whatever made money, he did. When he earned money, he bought powdered milk for his child. Together with his brother's usual sponsorship, the neighbors, knowing his family's situation, also took something to help them from time to time.
Little Fang grew up fast and healthy under the loving care of so many people. Little Fang spoke early and soon called his father and grandmother. When he heard someone call him daddy, Fang Chongcai danced with joy and told people about it.
Before that, he had very few words. After Fang came, he was willing to talk to others and gradually said more. Fang's childhood was a happy and carefree one, with her "grandmother" pampering her, her adoptive father obeying her, and her "uncle" and his family loving her. Although they were not rich, Fang Chongcai did everything he could to give Fang the best life possible.
Small Fang's favorite food is baked sweet potatoes and boiled corn, and sometimes, before it is ripe, as long as she says she wants to eat, Fang Chongcai will go to the field to pick back, and get her to eat. They were happy to see her eating sweetly.
Neighbors and neighbors sometimes say that they are wasting money and spoiling their children too much. The old Mrs. Fang just smiled and didn't refute. Because they were in a mountainous area, the school was a long way from home, and they had to walk a long way up the mountain.
The parents of the children in the village were too busy working early in the morning and late at night to take them to and from school, so the children went to school by themselves. Xiao Fang was different from the other children, Fang Chong Cai did not feel comfortable with her walking alone, he made sure to personally transport her to and from school. This man with a low IQ, he poured all the love he had left into this daughter.
However, it wasn't long before someone came to snatch his love from him. When Xiao Fang was nine years old, her parents, who had once abandoned her, suddenly came to her door. It turned out that they had seen better days and made more money over the years, and they felt inwardly ashamed of their daughter, so they wanted to come and see her. However, there was absolutely no desire to take her back, reassuring Old Mrs. Fang.
The two families after discussion, Fang Chongcai agreed that Xiaofang summer and winter vacations, you can go back to their biological parents to live a few days. Small Fang has since shown his closeness to his biological family. Fang went back to her biological parents' home during the summer vacation when she was 10 years old and did not return until the end of the summer vacation.
Fang Chong Cai went to look for Xiao Fang by himself, but ended up getting lost because of his own intelligence, and he was eventually sent home by a good samaritan. However, in the end, Xiao Fang did not go back to the family she was born into. Later she still returned to the family of Fang Chong Cai.
The peaceful life was broken when she was fourteen. That year, her dependent grandmother died. The grandmother was the pillar of the family, and when the pillar fell, the family fell apart. After her grandmother's death, Xiao Fang lived with her foster father, Fang Chong Cai. However, Fang Chongcai doesn't know how to cook, and Fang often has to go to school without food. Also, Xiao Fang was sent to live with Fang Chongzai's older brother, Fang Chongqian. Fang Chongcai earned money from farming and working as a laborer, and was responsible for Xiao Fang's living and school expenses.
After junior high school, the cost of going to school was getting bigger and bigger, and the money Fang Chongcai earned was barely enough to cover his living expenses, so he couldn't afford to pay for her education at all. Fang is very understanding, know her father's not easy, she chose to withdraw from school. Later, in order to live a better life, she followed the young people in the village, and went out to work together to earn money. Fang Chongcai did not expect that his daughter's trip, unveiled the prelude to the tragedy.
Initially, Xiao Fang was very concerned about the family, working to earn money, every time the payroll, she will give "dad" Fang Chongcai send money back. Because Fang Chongcai couldn't read or write, she would send it to her uncle and ask him to buy her father some good food. The people in the village knew that she was sending money back, and they all praised her for raising a child who knew how to be grateful. Later, there was a period of time when Fang Chongcai could not contact her and was worried that something might happen to her.
Finding someone to inquire about her news. It turns out that Xiao Fang is already a big girl, someone pursued, in a busy relationship. The boy is working with her and is two years older than her. His hometown is Jiangxi, and his parents are both farmers. The two people are fully committed to the relationship is very serious, and soon came to the point of talking about marriage. At the New Year, Xiao Fang brought the boy back.
Adopted daughter XiaofangFang Chongcai simple-minded, see his daughter led back to the object, it is very happy. The older brother, Mr. Fang Chongqian, from the speech and demeanor, can see that the boy is reliable, and Xiaofang is also willing to, did not object to the marriage. But in his heart, he is actually not willing to marry so far away from Xiaofang.
There is a problem in front of us: a Sichuan, a Jiangxi, too far away. If you marry, what will happen to Fang Chongcai's future support?
Fang Chongcai's brother, Fang Chongqian, told the boy about the problem. I hope he went back to discuss with his parents how to solve it. Originally agreed to get married after the year, but the boy went home and did not come to propose marriage. After waiting for some time, the boy's family promised to take Fang Chongzai over to live with them after the marriage.
In 2010, Xiao Fang and the boy successfully got married. The in-laws also honored the pre-marriage agreement and took Fang Chongcai over to the rural areas of Jiangxi Province to live. They didn't know that this decision, which ultimately put Xiaofang and his adoptive father on the road to a break step by step.
In the first few years, Fang Chongcai lived with Xiao Fang and his in-laws in rural Jiangxi. He did not have to eat a free meal, go out and do odd jobs, help people herd cattle, etc., to earn a little money, the two sides have no conflict. Later, Xiao Fang and her husband continued to go out to work in order to earn more money. This led to Fang Chongcai staying alone with Fang's in-laws. Originally married, Xiaofang's father went to live, the village thought it was visiting relatives, live for a period of time to go, no one said anything.
A few years down the line, plus the daughter and son-in-law went out to work, while the old man still lives here. People in the village began to whisper, marrying a daughter-in-law also brought a father, have not seen this gesture. The in-laws have lived most of their lives, and they feel humiliated to be pointed out behind their backs, as if their son is inferior to others and can't get a daughter-in-law.
The in-laws then talked to Xiao Fang about this, and hoped that his father would go back, and they would pay living expenses every month. On one side is the adoptive father, on the other side is the in-laws, there is also a husband around, in the balance of affection and love, eventually love overcomes affection, Xiao Fang agreed with the mother-in-law's approach. So, at the end of 2015, Fang Chongcai was sent back to his hometown in Sichuan. But things were not so simple.
Back home, Fang Chongcai did not receive any living expenses from Xiao Fang's in-laws. The two sides had a very bad time when the elder brother, Mr. Fang Chongqian, called his father-in-law to inquire about the matter, but the words didn't go well and they quarreled on the phone.
The 2016 Spring Festival arrived, Xiaofang part-time work back to Sichuan, went to his biological parents home, but did not return to the village to visit Fang Chongcai. Until the morning of New Year's Eve, Xiaofang's father-in-law came to Fang Chongcai's house with his son and Xiaofang, and took Fang Chongcai outside for a reunion dinner, and then sent Fang Chongcai back that afternoon.
And, Xiao Fang did not greet his eldest uncle, Fang Chongqian, when he saw him. Thinking about what he had given to Xiao Fang, Fang Chongqian felt very sad. But he didn't think much of it. After all, Xiao Fang was raised by their Fang family, and it was impossible for her to be ungrateful. But he overlooked that the hardest thing to guess in the world is the human heart.
After the New Year, Xiao Fang lost contact, and occasionally contacted, but also to "work in the busy" reason, refused to answer the phone. Subsequently, Fang Chongcai received a court summons, Xiaofang asked the court to rule on the invalidity of the act of adoption, and ruled that the father-daughter relationship is not established. Hearing the news that Fang Chongcai had received a court summons, the whole village was outraged. They all scolded Xiao Fang for not knowing gratitude, a real version of the "farmer and the snake", before the Fang family to bring her up, it is too difficult.
The court accepted the case, after hearing, made a judgment: because Fang Chongcai adoption of Xiaofang just acquaintances, not through the formal legal channels, and did not go to the local civil affairs bureau for registration, so the judgment Fang Chongcai adoption is invalid, the two paternity is also invalid. This also means that Xiao Fang has no obligation to support Fang Chong Cai.
However, the court also supported the idea that Fang Chongcai could sue Xiao Fang for 23 years of alimony to her adoptive father. This result is like a bolt from the blue for Fang Chongcai, who raised Xiao Fang for 23 years. The daughter he worked so hard to raise will no longer be his own daughter after this, they will be strangers to each other, and he can't accept it for a moment.
Fang Chongcai often took a picture of Xiaofang, mouth chatter: "She does not care about me, now do not care about me." And there is one more thing that makes the Fang family sad: Fang Chongcai had 30,000 dollars, which he put in Xiao Fang's father-in-law, and suddenly it was gone.
The 30,000 yuan is Fang Chongcai's pension money, in 2013, the two families agreed to money deposited in the bank, the deposit slip by the Fang family to keep, the password by Xiao Fang's eunuch to keep, agreed that the small party to support the Fang Chongcai to the age of 60 years old, the money back to the small party. However, the Fang family went to the bank and learned that 30,000 yuan had been lost and taken out. However, Fang's father-in-law said that the money was taken out by Fang Chongcai himself.
The two families went to court over the matter. Shortly thereafter, Xiaofang sued the "adoptive father" Fang Chongcai. The cause and effect of the matter, who is right and who is wrong, there is really some confusion. In any case, regardless of whether they are father and daughter relationship, there is one thing is certain, that is: Fang Chongcai family raised Xiaofang 23 years, which is anyone can not erase the fact.
Some people have said that the most regrettable thing in life is nothing more than "the trees want to be quiet but the wind does not stop, the child wants to be raised but the parents do not wait". Family harmony, unity and love, respect for the elderly and love for the young, the younger generation should be filial piety elders, this is the fine tradition of thousands of years, but also all the people *** with the same good wishes.
Why did Xiao Fang want to break up with his adoptive father, Fang Chongcai? Many netizens say it's all because of a lack of money, which is why it's such a desperate mess. But I think that's just one of many factors. What do you think, what is the core reason? And what do you think about this matter?