Author | Donglin Fu
See a video, a daughter-in-law sun children's grandmother with children 1 year before and after the comparison photo, said the mother-in-law over to help with the baby 1 year, weight from 100 pounds to 140 pounds.
The daughter-in-law said that her mother-in-law is in a good mood, she likes to buy snacks to eat, and some netizens also said that the daughter-in-law is good to her mother-in-law, her mother-in-law will naturally be in a good mood.
The mother-in-law is the backbone of the army with children, working mothers let their mothers-in-law with children on the one hand, rest assured that the child's grandmother on the child is generally not bad, on the other hand, the economic pressure is small, ask the nanny to take the child, no doubt there will be a large amount of expenditure.
In our neighborhood, grandmothers with children account for most of the family. A few days ago, I met a young mother, her family child is just over 1 year old, she said to me, when the child went to kindergarten, she let her mother-in-law resign from her current job, to help her take care of the baby, she has to go to work.
It turns out that her mother-in-law retired a long time ago, in the home can not be idle, and went out to find a job, if the family needs to take the mother-in-law with the child, the old lady will not hesitate to resign to go home with the grandchildren.
In many families in China, mothers-in-law have glowed for their children's small families, selflessly giving a lot. Especially those mothers who leave their hometowns and live apart from their own old man to come to their son's city to bring children to their sons and daughters-in-law, it is not easy.
We have to admit that many small families are happy and fulfilled, is built on the basis of the child's grandmother day and night to help bring children.
1, with the children become more and more fat, may also be "overworked fat".
Many of the baby moms personally have this experience, with the baby is very tired, day and night do not get a good rest, but the body is more and more fat.
This is because if we do not take the baby, we can go running, fitness, the elderly can go to the square dance, walk, and with the baby is almost welded to the baby, in addition to taking care of the baby, can not spare the time to go to the gym and do sports, unknowingly will be fat.
With the baby is very tired, both need physical strength, but also need brain power, unknowingly will eat a lot of food, dolls eat the rest of the food can not throw, adults will eat, if not deliberately diet, is very easy to get fat.
The old man's body metabolism is slow, plus stay up late, it is easy to lead to endocrine disorders, but also easy to get fat. The elderly fat is not a good thing, as the saying goes, it is difficult to buy old age thin, although it does not have to be thin, but can maintain a standard weight, well-proportioned body, will be more healthy.
Therefore, the video of the mother-in-law although fat, not necessarily because of the blessing of the fat, fat may not be good for the body, in the children with children at the same time, the elderly must pay attention to their own physical condition, timely adjustments to the diet and work and rest, the old man to the body, but also the children's greatest blessing.
2. A good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is more comfortable for the mother-in-law.
There are also a lot of families with grandmothers, because many new mothers are afraid of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are prone to conflict, and would rather let their own mothers to help take care of the child, do not want to bother the child's grandmother.
Women in the birth and sitting in the month, especially prone to mother-in-law conflict, let the mother-in-law to help with the child, it is very important to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Old people with children and mothers with children to a large extent will cause a conflict of ideas, mothers with children is generally raised according to the book, the elderly with children with their own experience, so that the old and the new ideas will inevitably collide.
A good way to solve the conflict of ideas is to find a way to let the elderly read more parenting articles and parenting books, subconsciously, the elderly will slowly accept the new, scientific way of bringing up children.
The important thing between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to turn a blind eye, understand each other and sympathize with each other.
Especially the elderly to help bring up children is very hard, try to give the elderly more rest time, the child's parents in the off-duty time to take over the heavy responsibility of bringing up children, to give the elderly a certain amount of time to relax.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good, the family atmosphere is harmonious, but also conducive to the growth of the child, the elderly children are comfortable, the two can be more assured of work and life.
3. Husbands with high IQs have better relationships with their mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law.
A good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the husband is also the beneficiary, poor relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the husband will be subjected to a clamping gas.
A husband with high emotional intelligence can play the role of a lubricant between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and will skillfully resolve the small conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
The other side of the door is very good Li Li, Li's wife Xiaotian usually because of small things and come home to help watch the granddaughter of the mother-in-law conflict, but every time Li Li can easily help the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to resolve the unpleasantness.
For example, every time after work, it is Xiao Li cooking, after the meal Xiaotian brushing dishes, mother-in-law at first very upset, she said Xiaotian too lazy, should not let Xiao Li a big man every day cooking.
Xiaotian just want to attack, Xiaoli said to his mother, "Mom, I love to cook, I cook delicious, Xiaotian cooking is difficult to eat, if she cooks every day, I'm going to starve, and I don't want to brush the dishes, so the two of us this division of labor is quite good, I like to cook, Xiaotian love to brush the dishes, our couple with the perfect match."
Xiao Li said, Xiaotian mother-in-law has nothing to say.
A lot of things like this, Li high emotional intelligence, a few words between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to resolve the conflict, and now Xiaotian and the mother-in-law relationship is getting better and better, thanks to Li's high emotional intelligence.
The mother-in-law over to help with the child, bitter a little tired old people are not afraid to take the child is not happy, afraid of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions, if the husband high emotional intelligence, know how to coordinate between the wife and mom, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions are more easily resolved.
It is said that the pro-generation, the love of the elderly to the grandchildren is obvious, the mother-in-law with children to help save a lot of things, the mother-in-law must be grateful, but specific to get along with, but also to care more about the elderly, each other, more sympathetic and understanding, as the child grows up, life is bound to get better and better.