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Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts, should not be underestimated. If there is a mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflict in the marriage, the feelings will be more or less affected, serious and even lead to the breakdown of marriage. And in the battle between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law's fighting strength is beyond imagination, in a weak often daughter-in-law.
Women married to a man, from the heart to want to live in peace, but ignored an important factor, to create a happy marriage, only love of husband and wife is not enough, but also need to have a harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Some couples originally respect each other as guests, because they failed to deal with the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, the result of the day into a chicken feather.
If a woman meets a good husband is luck, then meet a good mother-in-law is lucky. Can have a good mother-in-law, not only less mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts, even if there is a stumbling between husband and wife, under the maintenance of the mother-in-law, the husband did not dare to blatantly make mistakes.
However, people have a selfish side, most of the mother-in-law instinctively have a sense of rejection of the daughter-in-law, like to put up the frame of the elders to suppress the daughter-in-law. In her mind, she makes a clear distinction between sons and daughters-in-law. Daughters-in-law, regardless of whether they are filial or not, cannot be treated equally by their mothers-in-law.
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Zhao Li and her mother-in-law did 12 years of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, thought it was a stone was also hot, but did not expect her mother-in-law's heart is harder than a stone, and daughter-in-law and the same as in the past to call, just this time, Zhao Li firmly refused to go against the grain, she filed for divorce on the thirtieth of the New Year.
To put it mildly, Zhao Li and her mother-in-law's contradictions from the first meeting on the knot. When Zhao Li is young and beautiful factory flower, and colleagues Wu Gang to determine the relationship, happy to follow him home to see the in-laws, however, the mother-in-law face arrogance, dislike her is a rural girl, although later in Wu Gang's reasoning under the total over the door, but her mother-in-law's attitude towards her has always been ice-cold.
Mother-in-law is a headstrong person, in the family, even to the father-in-law is often criticized sarcastic, Zhao Li's situation can be imagined. Wu Gang knows his mother's temperament, and at first he knew how to defend his wife, but in the long run he became numb, leaving Zhao Li alone to fight with her mother-in-law, but she was no match for her mother-in-law.
It is said that the mother of the child, but even if Zhao Li for the in-laws gave birth to a son, still did not get the mother-in-law a high look. In the mother-in-law's heart, she has a grandson, the eldest sister because there is no mother-in-law, the son has been placed in her mother's home after birth, the mother-in-law in order to show intimacy, not let the grandson called his grandmother, but to the grandmother of the name.
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A relationship, if you really can't grind it out, the best way is to stay away. Zhao Li disappointed, would rather rent a room to live, but also do not want to live under the roof of the in-laws to see the face, she sent her son to full-time care, trying to earn money to live actively, do not count on the in-laws, but also as if they do not have in-laws.
Perhaps when people get older, their temperament will become softer, after the death of his father-in-law, his mother-in-law actually to Zhao Li and pleasant up, in addition to taking the initiative to call to greetings, but also every now and then carry fruit to see the grandchildren. See the mother-in-law initiative to show good, Zhao Li natural bad again grudges, who know the mother-in-law took the opportunity to propose to come to her family pension, coupled with the Wu Gang's softly, Zhao Li a moment of softly agreed to.
But Zhao Li did not realize that she was digging a hole for herself. Since the mother-in-law lived in, the big aunt from time to time to drag the family to meals, as long as they come, the mother-in-law will be chanting to add food. Zhao Li and his wife's monthly salary, both to pay the mortgage but also the old man child, this is not generous, and now even more economic tension, the rent of the old house in-laws to keep pocket money, she did not care about the situation at home.
But where the mother-in-law knows how to be considerate of the daughter-in-law a little, Zhao Li are not angry, she is 12 hours a day, two shifts, has been tired enough to come home to take care of a family. The mother-in-law is very relaxed every day, in addition to square dancing is playing cards and hanging out, housework is not at all reach.
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Zhao Li is not ironclad, long-term overload of the body will always be unable to eat, and Wu Gang discussed with the year after the resignation of an easier job. The mother-in-law heard that instead of caring about her daughter-in-law's health, she said that the more she lived, the more delicate, Zhao Li, if it is not lucky married to the son, may still be in the rural areas of the field work.
For her mother-in-law's acrimony, Zhao Li has long been accustomed to, her mother-in-law has always been so, talking and doing things always love to get the upper hand, can not eat a little bit of loss. When Zhao Li could not help but dislike her, Wu Gang criticized her for not being able to compete with older people.
These are the first time I've ever seen a woman in the world who has been in a position to do something like this, and I think it's a good idea for her to be able to do it. She thought that even if her mother-in-law did not reach out, how the big aunt will come to help, but she looked through the eyes, and did not see people, only to dial the phone, urging the big aunt to come to help.
The eldest sister came, just rolled up her sleeves ready to work, was stopped by her mother-in-law: "Your sister-in-law cooks well, New Year's Eve, she cooks. You're tired of cleaning up at home, so sit down and take a break. Don't be a fool and let your father do it."
Hearing this, Zhao Li stood in the kitchen with tears in her eyes, she was busy at home and abroad, and couldn't get a word from her mother-in-law, who criticized her for not calling on a man to do the housework when she was just letting Wu Gang wash a bowl a couple of times, but she didn't treat her son-in-law with the same kind of rhetoric.
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After thinking about it, Zhao Li realized that in her mother-in-law's mind, her daughter and son are her own children, while her daughter-in-law and son-in-law are always outsiders, so it's right for them to suffer. When she to Wu Gang confided in the inner aggression, thought to get some comfort words, who knows Wu Gang impatiently said that she has nothing to find pain on New Year's Day, not just do a few meals, there is a need to be catty?
The physical discomfort, coupled with the heart of the aggression, completely let Zhao Li emotional collapse. In this home, she is like a free nanny, serving the old and the small, no credit also have hard work, but her husband's light a few words, knocked down all her beliefs on the marriage. In the end, Zhao Li in the New Year's Eve dinner, the public filed a divorce.
In the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along, the most afraid of double standard, many mothers-in-law used to daughter-in-law's shortcomings and daughter's advantages to compare, and then concluded that daughter-in-law is not as good as the daughter's conclusion. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots.
Parents love their children is right, but to stand in a fair point of view, one-sided favoritism to their own children, the daughter-in-law as outsiders, not only inadvertently cultivate the children's selfish character, but also hindered their reason to happiness, because no one wants to be accompanied by a selfish person for the rest of his life.