Anna Karenine
( 1)
The moment she got the divorce certificate, Bird felt completely relaxed.
Born in 1987, Bird, like most only children, was loved by his parents since childhood.
In her impression, her parents who worked as part-time workers in small towns, despite their limited income, gave her a carefree childhood, especially in material aspects, and always tried their best to meet her requirements.
Beautiful clothes, beautiful hair clips and all kinds of toys are what parents want. Every birthday, parents will buy big cakes with great fanfare, prepare drinks and soda water, and invite school students to their homes to celebrate Bird's birthday.
Only when she grew up did she know that her parents' economic conditions were never plentiful. They are all dug out of the mouth, saved from the clothes, and the money saved bit by bit, just to satisfy this little wish of my daughter.
Bird said that she regretted having failed her parents.
After school, her academic performance has been very poor, and her parents tried their best to get a tutor and attend training classes, but it still didn't help. She felt that she was not suitable for studying, so she broke the jar and fell. After graduating from junior high school, she went to a secondary school, and then she went to a junior college.
Among the children of the same age of relatives and friends, she is an alternative who has not been admitted to the university.
When she was in junior college, she fell in love with her ex-husband, a man 20 years older than her. They met through the internet. At that time, love was everything, and she insisted on marrying him regardless of everything.
Her parents advised her several times, and when they saw that her mind was made up, they stopped talking and prepared a generous dowry for her to get married.
She soon paid the price for her willfulness. The ex-husband was lazy, gambling and drinking, and accomplished nothing. The two spent several years in a noisy environment.
During this period, she had three miscarriages, and it is still unknown whether she can get pregnant in the future.
Finally, at the age of 28, she chose to divorce.
Bird is glad that she has no children. If she lives in a big city with her children, she has no career, no connections or even a stable job, she doesn't know if she can live alone.
(2)
In the years after the divorce, I have been tossing and turning in the busy blind date, dating, talking about marriage and breaking up. Repeated failures have made me unconsciously afraid and suspicious of marriage.
After the last relationship ended in failure, Bird gave up completely and never trusted men again.
Going home once in a while, watching her elderly parents live alone, Bird's heart is full of remorse and regret.
Even if divorced, she should have a child. At least, parents can get a little happiness and sustenance from their children's smiles and slapstick.
Life in a small county is simple and boring. Even in the square dance, what everyone says most is that the children's parents are short.
Bird is well aware that his marriage has brought too much criticism to his parents, making them look down among their neighbors and relatives, but he has to be ashamed to worry about his lifelong events.
Her parents love her as always, without scolding, complaining or even saying a bad word about her ex-husband, for fear of her sadness and embarrassment.
By chance, Bird learned that her ex-husband secretly asked her parents for 654.38 million yuan in her name before the divorce.
Bird asked her parents why they gave the money away without asking her.
My father leaned on his head, like a child who had done something wrong, and said carefully that he was worried that his ex-husband would take it out on his daughter for lack of money and marry him alone, fearing that her daughter would be wronged.
At that moment, Zhang Yuan couldn't help crying. When they learned that their daughter might be infertile, the old couple ignored Shui Piao's pension and kept asking about her illness, forcing her to go to the hospital for examination and treatment.
For a long time, parents have sought medical treatment everywhere, no matter how far and difficult it is, they must seek medical treatment in person.
Looking at his parents' busy figure, Bird secretly called himself an asshole and regretted it.
Whether it is youth or feelings, the bamboo basket draws water with a sieve. In the end, parents are still paying for their stupidity.
(3)
During a long vacation, Bird told her parents not to go home, but she couldn't help but go back and have a look.
At the moment of entering the door, unprepared parents sat opposite each other. There are two barrels of instant noodles on the table, which they prepared for themselves.
When Bird called them sadly, they looked at her in surprise, their faces full of surprise. Father jumped up and took her luggage, while mother was busy cooking in the kitchen.
Bird felt a sharp pain in his heart.
She doesn't regret any choice she has made, and she is heartbroken that her elderly parents have to bear the consequences with her.
It's not that she doesn't want to go back to town and stay with her parents. She is 35 years old and doesn't expect to succeed in her career and return to her hometown. She just wants to do her best to give her parents some support.
However, the cruel reality, she had to give up the idea.
The most important thing is that there is no money.
Working in a big city is hard, but you can get nearly ten thousand yuan a month. If you go back to your hometown, there are few job opportunities and no skills, it is difficult to find a good job.
Small counties in the mainland are still a human society. A good job needs connections, human feelings and even money. Apart from money, Bird can't do such a thing, because her parents are too old, and they humbly ask for help.
On holidays, she always stays at home as long as possible, while accompanying her parents, helping them make some necessary arrangements, such as overhauling home appliances and taking them to a physical examination.
Of course, the most, or under the arrangement of parents, blind date chat.
I have to admit that women in small counties, especially older divorced women, are lucky to get married.
Some people introduce the old people who spent the Spring Festival in the past, and some people introduce divorced men with several children. After several times, Bird didn't want to see him.
The circle of the small county is very small, and everyone is an acquaintance. You can't look up and see. Over time, Bird became a well-known unmarried woman.
She had to bite the bullet and put up with all kinds of gossip and insist on going home during the holiday.
Her hometown, the place where she can't go back, is her home, where her elderly parents live.
(4)
This stability is becoming more and more difficult to maintain.
Parents in their later years are getting worse and worse, because they don't want to be someone else's talk, and they are afraid to go out and spend money. The old couple can save three meals a day by staying at home watching TV all day.
The most terrible thing is that when they are sick, they are often reluctant to go to the hospital, relying on their bodies to fight hard and delay.
All these things make Bird feel at a loss. Fortunately, her parents have been in good health and have been suffering from minor illnesses, but nothing fatal.
This is probably a pity of God.
Alone in a big city with a small salary, Bird has no hope for his life.
Sometimes she thinks that if only she had one more brother and sister, at least she could share some.
She doesn't know when she will collapse.
She has prepared for the worst, and it doesn't matter what she does after a hundred years of her parents.
The only thing she can do now is to try her best to prepare for her parents' retirement.
Conclusion:
Anna karenine said that all happy families are similar, but each unhappy family is different.
Although Bird's experience has her own reasons, it also reflects the helplessness of many one-child families.
Pension pressure. Only children enjoy exclusive love when they are young. Even if they get married and have children, they can get help from their parents. When people reach middle age, their parents are old, so it is difficult to balance the companionship and care of both parents, and they often ignore one thing and are tired of coping.
Economic pressure. When parents are old, all the functions of the body are degraded. It is common for them to be ill and hospitalized. Hiring a nanny and hospitalization expenses are not small expenses. Plus they have a wife and children, and the economic pressure can be imagined. If the old man is seriously ill, it will be even worse.
Emotional stress. When people are old, they need company more emotionally. One-child families often have conflicts because they go to their parents' homes or in-laws' homes, especially on holidays, and it is difficult to balance the needs of both sides, thus affecting the relationship between the two families.
Respect the old and love the young.
Respecting the elderly and loving the young has always been the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, and it is the obligation of every child to let the elderly spend their twilight years safely.
Life is hard, and someone needs to carry it forward.
The world of adults has always been courage, responsibility and responsibility.
Green tea is a light wine, so you can read all kinds of human beings and enjoy life.
I have a long life. Try to be an interesting soul.
I am Mr. Twenty-eight, and I look forward to your wise eyes to see through human nature!