01
When love is hot, it can devour all the shortcomings of a man and a woman, so that each other can only see each other's good points, and feel that the air is sweetened with honey.
When the marriage is as plain as water, it can also cover up all the advantages of each other, so that each other only see each other as a thorn in the shortcomings of general, and stabbed all over the body.
Yu Jiaojiao is my wife, as her name suggests, the delicate ten fingers do not touch the spring water. At that time, when I was in love, I felt that such a woman was worth caring for, and only after I got married did I realize that the actual life is the need for firewood, rice, oil and salt, and not a dainty romance can be made to eat and sleep well.
02
After the marriage, Yu Jiaojiao is still the same as before, almost any housework will not do, I really did not do housework before marriage, after the marriage of this man in turn took up the burden of the "housewife".
Many men, like me, have a wife who is as beautiful as a flower, but who will eventually become aesthetically fatigued after a long time. In fact, when you get married, no matter how unkempt you were before, you still need a pragmatic woman who can keep the house as neat and clean as possible.
As a man despite the fact that when in love, he can tolerate your home down to the feet still do not clean, you can allow you to socks and clothes at any time to throw, can be placed in the pot for two days is about to become stinky rice turn a blind eye to ......
But married after a completely different, married is to live life, you every one of the love of neatness will give you points in his subconscious.
Despite the fact that he doesn't like the fact that you don't allow him to sit on the bed in his outside clothes, and despite the fact that he's very uncomfortable with the fact that you follow behind him every day and make him put his garbage into the basket,......, he still feels at the bottom of his heart that this is what makes him feel at home.
03
Dirt days over a long period of time, home can never eat a mouthful of hot rice, home chores will always be me. Because of these we argued again and again, until Yu Jiaojiao gave me an idea: let my mother move in with us.
My mother-in-law has a good personality, so she doesn't have to worry about being reprimanded if she doesn't do her chores, and I don't have to clean up after her every day like a "housewife" who can't come home to a hot meal.
The two of us hit it off right away, and after my mom moved in, the house became cozy and tidy. I was very happy at first, we were talking and laughing, and my mom said that other daughters-in-law don't like to live with their mothers-in-law, but we are really filial piety," she said.
After a long time, all the housework was done by mom, and Yu Jiaojiao was still the same as before, throwing down the chopsticks and leaving after eating. Mom was so busy every day that she didn't have time to go to the square dances she used to go to. Although mom didn't say anything, even I, an emotionally unresponsive person, felt that she had a complaint in her heart.
04
Unsurprisingly, mom found a reason to go back to her house after living there for half a year. Yu Jiaojiao and I were so dumbfounded that we went three times to ask mom to come and live with us. When pushed, mom finally said what was in her heart: "With the state of life of the two of you, it's better not to live together, I don't want to be a free babysitter!"
I was hesitant to let my mother come and live with me, but Yu Jiaojiao told me that what my parents wanted was not a life of ease for themselves, but a sense of need, and more help for their children in solving some of the problems in their lives.
But the concept of modern people is also changing, some parents have lost themselves for their children; some parents say: I would rather lose my son and daughter-in-law than devote all my life to them in their twilight years. Everyone's ideas are different, and I don't want my mother to retire and still remain so hard. But how can I make Yu Jiaojiao and I take up the responsibility of the family together?