After watching a video of a conversation between Ma Yili and Shen Jie, they talked about Lu Xiaoou's feelings in Far Away. Lu Xiaoou and two people have an intersection, one is Liu Da and the other is Yao Yuan.
Liu Da is Lu Xiaoou's boss. He recognized Lu Xiaoou's ability and appreciated her talent. His heart has secretly promised each other. When Yao Yuan and Lu Xiaoou met, they knew each other and loved each other.
Compared with Yao Yuan, Liu Da and Lu Xiaoou have similar attitudes and views on the future and have the same topic. So, why did Lu Xiaoou choose Yao Yuan instead of Liu Da?
Ma Yili said that it is often more difficult for similar people to be together, because similar people are like two parallel lines.
On the contrary, two people, who regard each other as the person they want to be, will naturally move towards each other's world.
What Lu Xiaoou did for Yao Yuan was not only for love, but also for himself before healing.
Later, the separation and combination of Lu Xiaoou and Yao Yuan was not caused by external forces, but by the collision of souls, and neither of them was willing to compromise.
Shen Jie also said that Lu Xiaoou and Yao Yuan are different, but they are both pursuing lofty ideals. Yao Yuan hoped that Lu Xiaoou would be a good wife and mother, but Lu Xiaoou didn't want to live like this.
In the finale of Far Away, Yao Yuan changed and finally got together with Lu Xiaoou. In the end, they are similar and complementary, which is a combination honed by years.
Actually, I quite agree with Ma Yili. It is easy for two people with similar personalities to fall in love, but it is difficult to make a long-term commitment.
Home and Liu Yuntian, Liu Ailian and Summer Xu, two different people, can finally come together after walking around.
We all want each other to give us a different world, instead of looking at each other in one world.
02
If two people's feelings want to be strong for a long time, they should bite like two gears. The gears of two people are too similar, but they just can't bite.
This is my view of Tang Jing and He Han in the first half of my life. After ten years together, they finally separated. He Han is Tang Jing's master. He Han led Tang Jing from intern to senior management, which is equivalent to a relationship.
So, Tang Jing and He Han are more and more alike. They fought in the mall, doing whatever it takes to get what they want. Such two people always have friction and contradiction.
When their feelings were about to disappear, Tang Jing said, "He Han won't want to be with the second He Han."
When they broke up, He Han said that Tang Jing had put too much pressure on him.
Many people think that Tang Jing is too strong, but they are not, but they are not suitable.
Two people who are too alike are going to the same place, and there is a competitive relationship. No one will admit defeat, and in the end, it will only hurt both sides.
Even if one party tries to compromise, it will not be the person he wants to be in the end, and naturally it will not last long.
Remember the back? When Tang Jing and He Han planned to get married, Tang Jing tried to step down from a senior position and become a relaxed training teacher, spending a lot of time cooking, illustrating and cleaning at home.
But is this what Tang Jing wants? No, she doesn't like this life. All this made her exhausted and miserable.
Therefore, it is natural that He Han will fall in love with Luo Zijun.
Although Luo Zijun of the latter has also become a strong woman, her core is soft and family-oriented. He Han has been intrigued in the workplace for so many years. All he wants is a lamp and a table of delicious food, which Tang Jing can't give.
Tang Jing and He Han seem to be a good match, but they can't go deep into each other's hearts, and they are even more unwilling to sacrifice part of their careers for each other. In the end, they can only go their separate ways.
03
When it comes to the relationship between Tang Jing and He Han, so do Homer and Liu Yuntian, but why did they finally get married and have children?
Man was trained by Liu Yuntian. Since studying abroad, Liu Yuntian has been instilling what she wants in China.
From students to senior assistants, Homme is vigorous in the workplace and can cope with all kinds of situations. It is just another Liu Yuntian.
But have you ever found that when they work together, they obviously love each other, but they are always hurting each other.
Both of them want to win too much. The more they love each other, the less they want to lose to each other. So later, when Homer thought Liu Yuntian was getting engaged, she angrily went to her rival company and wanted to get back at Liu Yuntian.
At this time, the relationship between the two reached freezing point, and it seems that there is no possibility of being together again. However, Homer failed and almost had an accident, which completely aroused Liu Yuntian's inner guilt and desire for protection.
At that time, Liu Yuntian and Homer were still not together. Why?
Because neither of them put down the competition, especially homey is still relatively strong. When we were together, it was Homer who opened an inn and lived another life.
At that time, Liu Yuntian tried every means to get Homer back to be his assistant, but Homer didn't agree. If Homer agrees, they may not walk together.
It is precisely because Homer began to change and became gentle and calm that Liu Yuntian loved her more and more.
Liu Yuntian was born in a family full of struggles, and experienced countless dark moments, often anxious and nervous. Of course he doesn't want a person like him. What he wants is the later Homer, and he can have a peaceful place.
04
Ma Yili first talked about "In the Distance", which was about the love-hate entanglement between Liu Xiaoou, Yao Yuan and Liu Da. She has a thorough understanding, which is exactly what an experienced person can understand.
Liu Xiaoou and Liu Da are so alike that they are still passers-by.
The difference between Lu Xiaoou and Yao Yuan finally made true love.
Each pair of lovers who can go to the end may be similar in appearance, but the core must be different.
Your three views are the same, and the way you treat people is the same, but your attitude towards life is not necessarily the same. If two people are strong in their careers and no one wants to take care of their families, they can't go far.
One is a strong career, and the other is a little weak. It is possible to be together, just like Liu Ailian and Summer Xu and Liu Ailian dare to think about their careers. Summer Xu's career is also good. Most importantly, he will take care of the elderly and children and does not think it is a sacrifice.
For Tang Jing, what she needs is a man like Summer Xu, not He Han who always makes her feel unable to stop.
No matter when, love has its universal laws. Whether you like it or not, whether it is appropriate or not, whether you are together or not, and whether you can have a result are never the same thing.
Love is a grand subject, and we all learn while walking.
Those stumbling pains, just like Ma Yili said: Time heals everything, please believe it anyway.