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A netizen summarized the two-child family contempt chain:
A son and a daughter > two daughters > a son > a daughter > two sons
For the Chinese traditional thinking, the best two-child status is no better than "children and daughters", and the family of the two sons was trampled on the low end of the contempt chain.
For the traditional Chinese thinking, the best thing about the second child is to have two sons.
In order to prove it, let's take a look at some vivid cases in life: a female colleague's first child was a son, and after the birth of her second child, she found that it was still a son, and she was in tears throughout the whole month, and no one persuaded her to wake up. A friend's first child is a son, the second child more than four months to do ultrasound examination is still a son, the husband's first words are: "How can we do ah?" At noon that day, she was so depressed that she couldn't think of anything else to do. When I took my two sons out to play, I was questioned by a passerby, "Are both of your sons yours?" When I got the affirmative answer, the other person said in a meaningful way: "Two sons, enough for you to suffer!" The meaning of which you understand.
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Where does the anxiety come from when you have two boys at home?
Anxiety 1: The dream of having two sons and two daughters is going to fall through, and the little wish of buying for the little princess cannot be realized.
Anxiety 2: Boys from childhood mischievous, two boys home is more chicken jumping, according to the gourd up the ladybird, education on the girl is not worry, the future of a head of two big day long it!
Anxiety 3: by the traditional Chinese concepts, the son of adulthood, marriage to buy a house is a major economic expenditure of the family, the high bride price remains high, the two sons can let their parents uncover layer skin. The family's condition is not good, parents can not afford to tighten their belts.
Anxiety 4: After the son got married, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law wars rose up in all directions, and the secret wars made the people haggard. The old want to raise flowers, travel, square dance, but also have to help son and daughter-in-law with children, two sons may be four grandchildren, their own happy old age was extinguished.
Anxiety 5: It is said that the son did not have a daughter attentive, old age age with no daughter at the side of the hush, washing and shuffling, lonely and unsupported.
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A colleague has two daughters at home, and in the face of the family's "three golden flowers", her husband spoils them. The colleague also said: "My two daughters, in the future, I won't buy them a house, I don't need to get married, and I don't need to bring them a child, so I'll just be a "moonlighter". "The "moonlight family" on the good, dashing every day without a little pressure, what heart also do not have to worry about, beautiful!
Is that really the reality? The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what you are doing and how you are doing it. After school, you do not let her on a variety of special classes? The first thing that you need to do is to learn to dance, to play the piano, and to speak the language. When she goes to college, you don't worry about which bad boy will hit on her? When she falls in love and gets married, do you promise you won't cry your eyes out? When you see your son-in-law is in the red for the mortgage payment of the matrimonial home, will you turn a cold shoulder and do nothing? When your daughter is not doing well after marriage, do you dare to say that you will not go to help a little? If your daughter's in-laws don't have anyone to help her with the kids, will you be happy to watch her carry the kids with one hand and cook with the other, making it incredibly difficult every day? (Of course, the husband's family conditions can be ignored.)
It is said that a son is a construction bank, the daughter is the China Merchants Bank, not all banks can be recruited to the business, not all banks need to be high-profile construction. Don't let the patriarchal thinking work, whether it is a boy or a girl, a good education is the king!
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The family has two male children, parents more accompanied by children, not only focus on academic growth, but also pay attention to psychological growth, character development, try to make the two male children both excellent. If your son is good, you don't have to worry about your work in the future, and the chances of meeting an enlightened and educated daughter-in-law are greatly increased, and you can rely on your own ability to survive with a high income.
The boy will not be grateful, the education is excellent, but also just to the mother-in-law to cultivate. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty! You can let your son learn to take care of the household chores from a young age, helping to cook, clean up the room, sweep the floor and take out the garbage, and help you whack the back and run errands and play soy sauce. It's important to cultivate in your sons a mindset of being assertive! If your son has no status at home, your in-laws won't be able to do much better either, and they will still be looking at your daughter-in-law to do the same thing. It is important to let your sons grow up to be opinionated and thoughtful, so that they can be the pillars of the family. The son is good enough, the daughter-in-law will be too difficult for the in-laws? From a young age, let the first baby involved in the second baby's upbringing, the two sons live in harmony, and grow up to become close hands and feet.
"You just raise it well, God has its own arrangement." We can't choose the gender of our children, and since they became our children, they are destined for each other. In this world, there is no more beautiful music than the laughter of two children intertwined together. The joy in the house doubles when the first and second babies collide with four eyes and play happily. There are some uncomfortable voices to be heard in the process of raising two male children, but we have accompanied the plucking and growing of our two babies, so let's go ahead and embrace them with joy, courage and confidence! One day when we're older, we'll realize that it's nice to have two male babies in the house who are well educated.
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