We can't do OCD the hard way, otherwise it wouldn't be called OCD.
For OCD that is a rock, we are eggs, don't touch a rock with an egg.
Treating OCD should never be controlled and restrained, that will only make it worse, allow yourself to be anxious, upset, and fearful.
In OCD, all psychological resistance, or distraction, are ineffective
Regardless of how varied the OCD, "put the heart calm and let nature take its course" is the core of the treatment of obsessive-compulsive disorder and the key.
Heart disease must also be heart medicine, with drugs to treat obsessive-compulsive disorder treatment is not the root of the problem.
"Put the heart calm and let nature take its course" can be understood as when OCD attacks on the symptoms of ignore, or do not resist non-interference, or acceptance, or do not care not afraid of not confrontation -------, and must at the same time to allow the existence of OCD brought about by the fear of anxiety
In the obsessive-compulsive disorder, it is necessary to accept the symptoms of the emergence of the symptoms. When it appears, must accept the anxiety produced by the symptoms, because this anxiety is normal. Only by accepting this anxiety will it subside normally, and by suppressing and controlling it, you will inevitably exacerbate the effects of anxiety on yourself and cause yourself more suffering.
The most important thing you can do is to put your mind at ease and let nature take its course. OCD is like riding a bike on ice, the harder you push the harder you fall. And like a spring, the more you press it, the more it bounces high, you do not move it, it fell on its own stationary, your OCD and this spring principle is similar. The reason for this is that it is not a good idea to control it, but it is a good idea to let it go.
One more thing, people with OCD tend to fantasize about everything being perfect, which is wrong. For example, most people with OCD have a mindset of "demanding perfection". They want everything to be perfect. But if you think about it, there is perfection in the world, the answer is obviously yes, no! So when nature, reality is not perfect, and you go to force to do perfect, the result will be contradictory pain! Try to accept the imperfect self, the imperfect world, with a tolerant attitude to face life. Suggest that you distinguish between obsessive thinking and obsessive behavior, for obsessive thinking to go with the flow, take the attitude of acceptance, while obsessive behavior to control the attitude of not doing. The complexity and repetition of obsessive-compulsive disorder determines the long road to recovery, but it is important to insist, I believe there will be a return!
Another example: many people are always "afraid" of the emergence of obsessive-compulsive disorder. In fact, this is a normal person will appear, but the person concerned does not care about it. And obsessive-compulsive disorder patients because of the fear of this thinking, so the more afraid of the more will appear, the more appear the more nervous, and constantly to strengthen and consolidate this consciousness. The reason for this is that people with OCD should first change their thinking, i.e., everyone has had these thoughts, I have them too, and I am as normal as everyone else. In this way, self-confidence can be gradually built. There is this reliance on learning to put the heart of the natural, you can be in the OCD this "paper tiger" in front of the stand, and it is fighting, and win it.
Don't always try to resist or get rid of it, learn to accept it as part of you, because when you resist the more intense, it will be easier to affect you, because at this time your mind is all about it, although you want to get rid of it, but just remind yourself of the existence of it, but it will be more upset. The pursuit of perfection is admittedly a good thing, but is there anyone in this world who can do things with absolute perfection and without the slightest mistake? The answer is no. As long as it is a human being, no one can achieve absolute perfection, our human reason is limited, you can not exhaust all the accident, that is God can only do things. So, let it be, do what you want, don't let it occupy your thoughts, place it in a corner of your mind, don't touch it, even if you accidentally touch it again sometimes, don't worry, keep doing what you should do, don't care if it goes back to that corner, and slowly you'll calm down.
When you think about something uncontrollably in your brain, mentally relax, don't try to control yourself to not think about it, and don't deliberately chase after it, allow yourself to be anxious and fearful, and then go with the flow to put your mind at ease. It may be a little difficult to do at first, but time and time again you will slowly realize that you just don't want to think about it, and it will be easier! Remember, the key is to go with the flow and put your mind at ease, that's how I healed. Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is like tapping a ball, where the ball bounces around representing pathological thinking. So how do you make the ball stand still, i.e. the symptoms go away? The answer is to stop patting the ball, the ball will naturally come to a standstill, the patient can only ignore its existence, put the mind at ease and let nature take its course, the symptoms will slowly disappear. Why is it that many people with OCD have been struggling with it for years, but have not been able to overcome it? The reason is that they can't "let nature take its course and put their mind at ease". Learning to put the heart to relax and go with the flow, little by little to put the heart to relax, at first it will be very painful, as long as the long time to do, OCD can be completely cured.
So we recommend three therapies for your reference
The first therapy ------- is to put your mind at ease
It's actually very simple, it's to "put your mind at ease and go with the flow and do what you have to do" when it comes to these two items.
"Putting your mind at ease and going with the flow" refers to the aspect of the heart, that is, when some thoughts come up, let them come up naturally, and don't force yourself to stop thinking about them. The word "natural" in this context means to let the thoughts come naturally and not to control or force them to stop.
The phrase "do what is right" refers to the behavioral aspect of doing what needs to be done right now. Then the phrase "let it be" means, when some thoughts come up, don't force it to stop, it's okay to think about it, but now it's time to cook, you're going to cook, it's time to read, you're going to read, to do what you should be doing right now is to do what is right for the sake of doing what is right for the sake of doing what is right for the sake of doing what is right for the sake of doing what is right for you.
It's about not letting your brain interfere too much, not taking it seriously, and then trying to do something else instead of trying to control or forget about the present.
Trying to do something + calmly facing it + the mindset of going with the flow. This state of mind is really the best way to treat OCD. Plus a normal routine, a good mood, and your own willpower.
Obsessive-compulsive disorder can be gradually reduced, you can live a normal life, and then adapt to this state, you can gradually cure
Not to exclude, not to analyze, not to judge, just like we wear clothes, we never think that human beings wear clothes have problems, why? That's because we see our clothes as part of our body, so to speak. For example, if you have an alarm clock at home, you won't notice the sound of the clock ticking for a long time. The residents around the train station can also sleep very well, this is to accept the impact on them, never come naturally, naturally go, just like we eat with chopsticks, write with a pen, walk, brush teeth, are very coordinated flow in general. You go to deliberately change, but it seems unnatural.
The second treatment is as follows:
The first step: see the idea. Learn to recognize your obsessive thinking, leave the thoughts, insist on ignoring and not afraid to confront, the thoughts are just thoughts.
Step 2: Stop all obsessive-compulsive and ritualistic behaviors.
Step 3: Accept the emotions. In the process of stopping compulsive behavior, anxiety, fear and other negative emotions will continue for a period of time, as long as you insist not to do compulsive behaviors, but with these anxiety and fear and other uncomfortable feelings to continue to do what needs to be done, the emotions will be gradually alleviated according to its laws over time. Thousands and thousands of times of such persistence, you win. OCD will eventually fade out of your life.
The third type of therapy ----- Morita therapy
Treatment principle
"Follow nature" treatment principle
To the symptoms, it is necessary to honestly accept the symptoms, truly realize that it is futile to resist, resist, or avoid, suppress, and do not treat the symptoms as a foreign object of their own mind and body, and do not exclude and resist them. Do not treat the symptoms as a foreign object in your mind and body, do not reject and resist them, and study and work with the symptoms. It should be said that "letting nature take its course" is the most basic therapeutic principle of Morita-therapy. This basic principle contains the following multi-layered meanings:
Recognizing the laws of mental activity in a natural way and accepting the various thoughts and ideas that may arise in oneself.
People with neurotic disorders often subjectively believe that they can only have one kind of idea about something and not another, and that to have one is abnormal or immoral, i.e., that the extreme desire for perfection creates a strong sense of inferiority. The result is as Takara Takeshisa says: "If someone is trying to get rid of all evil thoughts no matter what, he or she may create the compulsion to be immodest and horrible." Neurotic patients resist this mentality; they must keep their psyche absolutely pure, with the inevitable result of psychological conflict. To change this, one should accept the fact that no one is a saint; accept the fact that each of us may have evil thoughts, jealousy, and narrow-mindedness, and realize that bad thoughts flashing in the mind are things that are bound to occur in mental activity, things that one cannot change or decide by reason and will, but whether or not to do them is something one can decide entirely. Therefore it is not necessary to fight against one's thoughts but to pay attention to the actions one takes.
In addition, in order to recognize the law of mental activity, one must also recognize the role of mental antagonism, and realize that there are two opposing psychological phenomena, the desire for life and the fear of death. Accept this psychological phenomenon, and do not have to fear for the emergence of the horror of death, to the point of desperately trying to eliminate these fearful thoughts, so that they are caught up in the intense internal conflict of the spirit. For example, the thought of possibly falling while standing on a high place is a thought that would have occurred to anyone. The neurotic thinks this is an anomaly and fights it, and the more he fights it, the more he feels the possibility of falling. The only way to change this symptom is to recognize the role of mental antagonism, from the psychological abandonment of the resistance to opposing ideas, it is possible to reduce or eliminate the internal conflict of the spirit.
Acceptance of the symptoms by recognizing the law of their formation and development in a natural way.
The neurotic patient originally did not have any physical or mental abnormalities, but because of the existence of the quality of suspicion, he sees a certain kind of normal sensation as abnormal, and wants to exclude and control this kind of sensation, so that the attention is fixed on this kind of sensation, resulting in the effect of the mutual reinforcement of the attention and the sensation, i.e., the formation of the mental interaction. This is a secondary vicious cycle and is the main cause of the formation of symptoms and their continuation.
By recognizing this and accepting one's symptoms, on the one hand, one does not strengthen the subjective feeling of the symptom; on the other hand, by no longer rejecting the feeling, one gradually stops fixing one's attention on the symptom. By breaking the mental interaction in this way, the symptoms can be reduced or even eliminated. For example, if a person who is terrified of people blushes when he sees them, the more he is afraid of blushing, the more he pays attention to his own performance, and the more he pays attention, the more nervous he gets, which in turn makes the feeling of blushing persist. On the contrary, by accepting the symptoms of blushing and interacting with others with the attitude of "let's just blush", you will no longer pay attention to this feeling, and the blushing reaction will slowly subside.
Recognizing the pattern of symptoms also involves recognizing that symptom change is a process that takes time. It is only by recognizing this that one can insist on treating the symptoms as normal and not rejecting them as foreign to one's mind and body that one can truly eliminate the effects of mental interaction.
Morita therapy believes that to change neurotic symptoms, on the one hand, we should adopt a natural attitude toward the symptoms; on the other hand, we should do what we should do with the original desire to live. Symptoms usually do not go away instantly, so if they are still there, you must accept them despite the pain. Direct your attention and energy to the things in your life that have a definite meaning and are productive. Trying to do what needs to be done, focusing on the action, and letting the symptoms ebb and flow will help to break down the mental interactions and gradually build up the confidence to be free from the symptoms.
Neurotic patients originally have a strong desire to live, but for the fear of death is bound, the original mental energy are invested in the focus on the symptoms, which affects their normal life, work and study. The more ineffective the work and study, the more the patient's attention is fixed on the symptoms, the more the symptoms as a foreign object that must be eliminated, thus aggravating the symptoms.
Doing what you think you should do in accordance with the motivation expressed in the desire to be born will, firstly, lead the spiritual energy that has been directed to the heart to the outer world; secondly, the symptoms will be improved because the attention is no longer fixed on the symptoms; and thirdly, although there is still pain in acting on the symptoms, the action itself will bring two kinds of gains, one is that you can do what you need to do without having to wait for the symptoms to be eliminated; the other is that if you do it you will have to wait for the symptoms to be eliminated; and the other is that if you do it you will have to wait for the symptoms to be eliminated. One is that you can do what you need to do without having to wait for the symptoms to go away, and the other is that you can get something out of your work, study, or life if you do it.
For example, a person who is terrified of people is afraid to see them and feels extreme fear when they do. Morita therapy requires them to live with the symptoms, it's okay to be afraid to see people, but the people they should see still need to be seen, interact with people with fear, pay attention to what they have to do without paying attention to whether or not they are afraid again, and insist on doing it, and the fear will gradually diminish. And as a result of doing this, the patient himself will realize that he has been trying to eliminate the symptoms, and wants to wait until the symptoms do not exist before contacting people, which is actually unnecessary. In the past, they have agonized over this and thought that they could not do it because they were always thinking about it in their heads and not doing it. Instead, we are asking patients to do what they need to do right away, and to insist on doing it despite the pain, breaking the pattern of the past where the mind was bound to action.
All in all, it is under the treatment principle of putting the mind at ease and letting nature take its course, and finding a treatment method that suits you. The treatment of OCD is a painful process, and you can't cure OCD without going through a painful process, at least for a while at the beginning, it will be extremely uncomfortable and painful. As I said to many of my friends, when OCD becomes a habit, it is very painful to correct to normal human thinking
Treating OCD is like driving a car, when you brake, there is always a little bit of inertia before the car stops
There is also a point is that OCD is anyone's, some people are light, some people are obvious some. So OCD is cured as long as it doesn't interfere with your life.
You should seriously think about these suggestions I gave you, when you first start to do it will be very painful, usually there will be 3 - 6 months of adjustment of the painful period. After two or three weeks of sticking to what I said above, you will notice a change in yourself.
I was 15 years old when I got OCD, OCD tormented me for 20 years, my life is completely ruined, the pain is unbearable, is relying on the above method of healing, I hope to be able to help you to learn. (The above for my personal treatment of obsessive-compulsive disorder blood, but also borrowed to copy some of the netizen's treatment experience, welcome to see the above text of the netizen paste, copy, reproduced to the need for people to see, I am grateful.)