When it comes to children, the first impression we get is that they are lively, cute and innocent, but sometimes, some of their "childish talk" makes the adults laugh and cry, which is embarrassing.
For example, the following children small Yun, in the grandmother's birthday party made a joke:
Small Yun went to attend the grandmother's birthday party to the time to eat the birthday package, Yun saw the shape of the birthday package, curious to ask his mother: "Why do we have to eat this kind of long like pp like things? " Everyone at the table cried and laughed at this and didn't know how to answer.
In fact, this kind of "childish talk" is a normal phenomenon. Generally speaking, 1 year old children can be guided by the parents of simple expression, such as call "dad", "mom". From the age of 2, with the increase of vocabulary, young children's ability to speak is further strengthened, and at this time one of the most important characteristics is "imitation".
Without the parents' knowledge, their children may be learning to talk like them, or even like the people around them and on TV. The wide range of information they receive around them leads to "colorful" language and "childish" expressions.
Research has shown that the 4-12 age group is a critical time for children to learn language and needs to be given high priority.
But first, parents need to have a clear understanding that the process of learning is always going to involve failure.
Children will mimic others' speech and adjust themselves to increase their vocabulary and level of expression, but inevitably some of their words will come out of their mouths.
This is the first time I've ever seen a child in a room with a large number of people, and I've never seen a child in a room with a large number of people.
Language learning is just like learning to walk, no one will ever ask a baby to walk straight up and down, it must be practiced slowly from crawling, and gradually learn to walk.
When babies and toddlers first learn to speak, adults don't have to worry about whether they are pronouncing words correctly, whether they are using a rich vocabulary, or whether they are using correct grammar.
As children grow older, parents' demands continue to rise, so it is possible to demand too much, and pulling the plug doesn't achieve the desired results, which is where parents go wrong in guiding their children's speech.
Behind the "children's speech" is reflected in the child is learning and development of language function of a process, parents need to listen patiently, attentive guidance, can not be ignored or reprimanded, and can not be too demanding.
So, what are the consequences of a child's "recklessness" and how should adults respond?
Can't be ignored
Sometimes, when a child says something inappropriate in some public **** occasion or at home, adults will laugh to ease the embarrassment, and then change the subject, and ignore the child's behavior.
In fact, this approach is not appropriate, because the child will be encouraged by the adult's laughter, and even will wrongly assume that the adult likes his behavior, thus creating the wrong concept, mistakenly believing that what he said is correct.
Do not reprimand or scold
Some parents, who may be embarrassed and angry by their children's inappropriate comments in front of others, can't help but reprimand or even kick their children, believing that this will solve the embarrassment as well as educate their children.
In fact, this practice is very undesirable, children will be frightened, and even fear, and thus become afraid to express , the development of the child's language function is hindered.
Calmly responding to the embarrassment
If the child is in the public **** occasions said some inappropriate words, first of all parents can not be loud scolding , this not only will attract the surrounding eyes, the matter will be made big, but also will make the two sides are more embarrassed , and the child will be more embarrassed , and the child will also be able to get a better understanding of the situation.
This is the first time I've ever seen a child in a room like this, and I've never seen one before.
To calm down and apologize to the other party, also let the child apologize, let him know that his words and actions are impolite behavior, so as to resolve the conflict.
Listen carefully to enhance communication
At the developmental stage of a child's language function, adults cannot fully guarantee that a child will not say the wrong thing.
As the most important instructor in a child's life besides the teacher, all parents have to do is to try to teach their children and guide them so that their language development goes in the right and excellent direction.
Listening and talking more is the best and most effective way, listen to your child's words and communicate with them more.
For example:
When children take the initiative to talk to their parents,put down your hands and listen patiently;
When children want to express themselves but can't say it fluently, they should be guided without interrupting them or discouraging them.
When children have problems expressing themselves, don't be too hard on grammar and the like, focus on the content first, and then politely correct the way they speak, using rhetorical questions to get the child to think, and thus realize their mistakes.
All in all, patient listening and communication is the best way to build your child's language skills, and parents should not neglect their child's language development in the early years, nor treat it violently.
This will affect the child's future language expression, to recognize that "children's language" is a normal phenomenon. Parents should be their children's closest teachers, start at an early age, and strengthen their guidance so that their children are polite, expressive, articulate, and positively cheerful.