I heard "Dangerous Thirteen" again when I attended a writing workshop with Zhang Wenqi on the National Day in 2020. Binbin and I happened to be assigned together as roommates in that workshop, and we were **** in the same room. The workshop activities were very intensive, and we also had to complete writing tasks every day, so we can say that it was a high-intensity learning. But we are very close, there seems to be endless topics of conversation. In addition to studying, the two nights are long to talk about the early hours of the morning. We talked about our studies and what we had been doing. During the conversation, I learned the story behind "Dangerous Thirteen". In order to interview these children, Binbin sometimes really risked her life. As I listened, I was a little worried about her, but more in awe of her. Binbin said, "Dangerous 13" has become a book. She promised to send me an autographed copy of the book when it is officially published.
In March 2021, "Dangerous Thirteen" was officially published, and Binbin couriered a signed copy to me as promised.
The book uses nine typical cases to explain the psychological characteristics of adolescent children for parents and teachers. In addition to the story of each case, there are interviews, but also added Binbin observation and analysis, advice to parents, psychological construction of the views of the three panels to analyze, not only to analyze the original cause, but also summarize the same characteristics of the ***, so that readers can be inspired by these cases, and then adjust their own way of education.
This book addresses the keen and diverse psychological journeys of children at the special age of thirteen, reminding us all where to focus our attention and what to do to assist them in making a smooth transition. Watching a sad and angry, as well as heart-wrenching story, listening to the truths told by the children when they were interviewed, or the secrets they hid in their hearts, one's heart is full of mixed feelings. Perhaps the behavior of the children in the cases is a bit extreme, but the psychological journey hidden behind the extreme behavior is again of the **** nature of most children. After hearing such cases and reading Mr. Binbin's analysis, I believe that ordinary parents and teachers can be inspired to better accompany their children or students.
At all times, prevention always takes less time and effort than cure. For children under the age of 13, parents and teachers are the ones who have the most contact with them and the most influence on them. So in addition to the children themselves, these two groups of people's educational concepts, educational style and life state is closely related to the healthy growth of children.
How to face the children of single-parent families? Binbin observed and analyzed, in addition to the advice to parents, but also gave teachers three suggestions, one of which:
"To actively help children to play a merit, to create a suitable environment, with affirmation and supportive attitude to help the child to overcome the low self-esteem, and actively advocate the participation of single-parent students to participate in the classroom social organization of the various activities. Activities and competitions that help bring out their individual strengths are regularly organized in the classroom, like competitions in singing, reading aloud, composing, calligraphy, painting, etc. By carrying out such activities, these children are provided with a stage to show themselves and recover their self-esteem. For children with organizational skills, teachers can let them take on the most important tasks in the activities as a way to develop and enhance their sense of responsibility and self-confidence." (P77)
Binbin is one of the practitioners of vitalized education, and her concern for children is more from the state of children's lives, from the perspective of facilitating the growth of children's lives. The main reason for this excerpt is that it reminds me of the "five management" and "double-decrease" activities that we are now vigorously publicizing and implementing.
The five management focuses on students' sleep and physical fitness, on homework and reading, and on cell phones, which are a headache for parents and teachers. The double reduction focuses on the management of homework and the regulation of extracurricular tutoring. The two activities from the national level, from the source to emphasize and guide the whole society to help children become physically and mentally healthy people.
This time, the two activities, are not blowing a gust of wind, managers have made a great determination. Now many online subject tutoring organizations have issued announcements, have stopped teaching activities, and one after another in the refund of tuition. Schools have also managed homework, trying to improve the accuracy and quality of homework while reducing the amount of homework. The use of after-school tutoring has solved the problem of parents tutoring homework and children studying late into the night, which affects sleep and parent-child relationship. In after-school tutoring, many schools also offer a very large number of interest groups, group activities. In addition to the daily singing, calligraphy, painting, etc., basketball, track and field and other sports activities, pottery flute, African drums and other various musical instrument classes, model airplanes, architectural models and other kinds of science and technology groups also enriched the children's after-school life, expanding the children's possible ways of success.
The two activities have been implemented for some time, and it can be said that they have begun to bear fruit. Many parents are no longer anxious and the smiles on children's faces have increased.
I just read a tweet - "After the "double reduction", it is said that the C position of the square dance will be replaced ......", which presents the children, because of the reduction of homework. Because of the control of cell phone games, there is more after-school time. A large number of children appeared in the outdoor plaza with the aunts on the same stage than the "dance". Some neighborhood kids have formed bicycle teams to exercise together. Some children, two groups, three or five groups, playing a simple finger game, chasing game ...... activities are different, but the children's faces show a smile, the body glows with vitality, through the screen let people look at the heart of the joy.
These two policies, directly from the national level, from the social level, reducing the anxiety of parents, freeing up the children's time. But because of the implementation of these two activities, the workload of the average teacher has increased a lot. A teacher with no leisure, a teacher who is straining the strings all day long, a teacher who is full of pressure, a teacher who is anxious, is much less happy. A teacher without a sense of happiness, it is very difficult to bring the children true happiness.
The good news is that with the implementation of after-school services, in some places, teachers have implemented flexible commuting. Freedom of time allows teachers to have a greater sense of freedom to consciously improve their efficiency and organize what's going on around them. However, it is necessary to enhance the well-being of teachers at source. In addition to the increase in wages and salaries, it is also important to reduce or adjust some of the work.
Some departments some activities, like to stuff to the school, assigned to the teacher. These tasks that have nothing to do with teaching, can the departments concerned who is responsible for who handles? There are also some meetings of little significance. Can not let the teacher travel, or put down the hands of the teaching work to the collection? Some of the main points of the meeting, some of the key points of the work, send a group message, the teacher to look at a few minutes of work. A few minutes to solve the matter, do not let the teacher spend a couple of lessons or a morning, a day time to participate.
Can a teacher's instructional design be differentiated? New teachers just came in, serious design, write a detailed plan, no excuse. Many veteran teachers on the textbook to the main points, have been familiar with, they can not use a special lesson plan book, just simply identified in the book can be? Concerned about their level, every semester just let them submit two or three teaching design detailed check.
Teachers submit a summary of teaching each semester, how many leaders have seriously to see it? Maybe sometimes even turn over a little bit are not. Can we change the summary written by the leadership to subordinates to see, the teacher wrote a summary of teaching to parents and students to see? When a person feels that what he or she has done can be seen, it will be more meaningful and valuable. The person in question is also more likely to have a sense of pleasure and fulfillment when he or she does that thing.
Sweeping through the rows of books, one can quickly find this Dangerous Thirteen because it is waisted in yellow. It's a color that humans are particularly sensitive to, a color of alarm, a color that fits the theme of the book. This book, which is on the 2021 Fujian Xinhua Bookstore Summer Read a Good Book Recommendation List, deserves to be read by every parent, every teacher, and every adolescent.
From the source to eliminate the "danger of 13 years old", the five provisions and double reduction is effective, if you can pay attention to the teachers, to teachers to do a bit of burden reduction, it would be better.