My name is Huang Yan, 57 years old, Ningxia Yinchuan people.
I am a career employee, has been working in government departments, just retired the year before last.
Originally thought that after retirement, finally can be free to live the life they want, but did not expect, and I was with my husband for many years actually derailed, when I knew the exact moment of the news, I feel like the whole world has collapsed.
To put it mildly, three years ago, I felt my husband's indifference to me, not too much on the heart, but I know that two people along the way is not easy, so, always do their best to save the marriage.
02
At that time, he came back from work every day is very late, always drink a lot of drunkenness before going home, after arriving at home, all kinds of drunkenness, either cursing me or wrestling with things everywhere, and then "wow, wow" vomited all over the ground, a variety of tossing and turning before going to sleep calmly.
Every time, I would wipe my tears and help him clean up the mess.
The reason why I would be so tolerant, not afraid of him, not to stay in this marriage, but at that time, my son just got married, I do not want to give my son and daughter-in-law to do a bad marriage demonstration, I would like to use their own stoicism in exchange for her husband's return to the heart.
03
But he still let me down.
I realized that the more I cared about him, the more he ignored me.
The most outrageous time, he even took the little three brazenly came to our home, only to see the little three dressed in heavy makeup, enchanting, standing in front of me, with the rest of the eyes from the top to the bottom glanced at me, the corner of the mouth also showed a hint of contempt for the smile, that look, as if in the sovereignty of the declaration to me.
Hubby pulled the little three to one side, and then came to my eyes, whispered:
"Yan, let's divorce! The person I love now is her! There is only affection between me and you, there is no love at all anymore, so don't blindly insist on it! Do you think that there is any need for a marriage like ours to exist?"
04
Indeed, to stay in love again, I am really too cheap for myself.
A week later, we went through a divorce in the Civil Affairs Bureau.
He cheated in the marriage, there is a mistake in the first, of course, the house belongs to me, and after the marriage of the **** with the property, it is a half.
After the divorce, I was left alone to guard a large house of 109 square meters, but also hard to find peace and quiet.
After his son got married and settled in Beijing, afraid that I was alone at home, let me go to Beijing to go around, take a break, I refused, because I do not want to bring their own such a bad mood to the son of the two young couple of the joy of the newlyweds.
05
Every day, I watch TV at home, read the newspaper, and in my spare time, I go to the nearby park to play tai chi, square dance, and watch a few old men play chess together, although the life of a person is a bit boring, but also quiet and happy.
In the past, a colleague in the unit wanted to introduce me to the old man, saying that this man is about the same age as me, and also retired for a few years, the pension is very high, so you can rely on your own monthly pension, but also to live a good old life.
In this regard, I also refused, because at the moment I do not have any mood, always feel hurt by the ex-husband too deep, not from the kind of pain out, but also need a period of time.
06
In this way, the day by day, spring and fall, the sun rises and falls.
In the blink of an eye, it's been a year since my divorce.
In the face of the new year, my heart has too many feelings, I think I just 50 years old, so I have been living alone is not a solution, but also to find a partner and I partner, the rest of the life with me to go on.
Although I have this idea in mind, I have no way of knowing where the future belongs to me.
07
One morning, after breakfast, I went to the neighborhood park as usual.
The park was so busy! There is a senior choir is practicing songs, there are pulling the second gourd, there are adults with children flying kites, there are also selling my favorite sugar gourd, at this time, my heart suddenly surged a wave of surprise and touched, so, life can also be so wonderful, so rich!
I wandered around alone for a while, intending to go home, suddenly saw a group of men and women in the distance, over there happily talking about something.
Out of curiosity, I walked straight over.
08
I came to see, I realized that the original park is a new "matchmaking corner", that is, specifically for some of the older men and women who have not found an object of service.
The newest addition to the list is the "Dual Layer", which allows you to choose between the two, and the "Dual Layer", which allows you to choose between the two, and the "Dual Layer", which allows you to choose between the two.
I feel that such a platform is very good, and it can solve the problem of finding a date for many older youths.
Of course, not only young people, but also older people can fill in their personal information if they want to.
09
I thought it was fun, and when I left, I left my personal information and a photo very casually.
A few days later, I unexpectedly received this text message:
"Hello, ma'am! I am a man in the XX Park Matchmaking Corner, I learned about you that day and looked at your photo, I think you must be a very good person, so I sincerely hope that I can further get along with you, I hope you give me this opportunity."
Attached to the text message was his name: Luo Gang, along with his contact number.
10
To be honest, I was very excited to receive such a message, and felt that the god of love was opening the door to me.
The next day, I got up early to freshen up and then went to the place Luo just agreed with me.
The moment we met, I was shocked to see that Luo Gang was a very young man!
Sitting down to chat, Luo Gang told me, he is 26 years old, his hometown of Zhengzhou, Henan, in Yinchuan on the university, after graduation did not go back home, but has been in this side of the job, last year, just with a friend to open a short video company, intends to do this side of the live broadcast industry.
11
I nodded my head and discussed the live broadcast industry with him.
I said, Yinchuan this place belongs to the northwest, is still relatively backward, and now the rise of the short video industry, do this kind of live with goods certainly make money, and Yinchuan in this regard, the market should still belong to the blank, so you do this is a great prospect, vision is good!
I can see that Luo Gang was praised by me a little happy, young face looks a little shy red.
12
After a lively chat, the air suddenly became a bit frozen, and we were all silent.
Luo Gang seemed to see my mind, it first broke the silence:
"Sister, I know you must have doubts in your heart, that is, our age difference is so much, and you are a second marriage, how can I have the idea of wanting to go out with you? "
I nodded, hoping he would give me a reasonable explanation.
13
Luo Gang began to stammer as he spoke, and it was obvious that saying this was him making a big decision for himself:
"Sis, to be honest, I fell in love with you the first time I looked at your picture that day, I thought your temperament was elegant, and there was wisdom inside your eyes, and I was thinking that a woman like that was something my heart I've been trying to find it.
But I swear, I didn't know your age at all, I thought you were just a few years older than me! Finally seeing the age on top of the profile took me by surprise, I didn't realize that you were so well maintained, which means you must have a very healthy mind!"
14
Before Luo just finished, I interrupted him:
"Luo, stop it! We are not suitable at all, you are only 2 years older than my son, I can't find a son! I can't have a son, can I? That would make people laugh?"
Luo Gang shook his head, suddenly held my hand tightly and said, "Sister, you don't need to care about other people's opinions, our life is our own, not defined for us by others, in love, age is not a problem, I ask you to give me a chance, a chance to love you, okay?"
Looking at Luo Gang's sincere and earnest eyes, my heart seems to be melted all of a sudden, I feel that my heart is in turmoil, if I let me accept such a love for a moment, it is true that I need to overcome a great psychological barrier.
15
But I'm still willing to try once, just like Luo Gang said: life is their own, has nothing to do with others.
Since then, Luo Gang and I have been dating.
Luo Gang went to work during the day, and came over to keep me company after work. We went to the night market, ate barbecue, and even went to KTV
to sing, and when he had a weekend, he would take me to play in a nearby farmhouse, to feel the purity of nature and the original lifestyle, and when we were tired, we rested in the bed and breakfast, watched movies, and played games.
With Luo Gang, I feel like a little girl, back to the time when we first fell in love.
16
During this time, the company that Luo Gang and his friend were running had some problems, and the capital chain was about to break.
I have proposed several times to lend him part of the money, but every time, Luo Gang is very decisive refused, he said, their own things to bear, will never want to my pennies.
In the end, after his heart and efforts, finally pulled some brand sponsorship, the problem of funds is finally solved, the company eventually turned a profit.
17
In fact, at the beginning, when Luo just insisted on dating me, several girlfriends around me advised me: Be careful of your pension money being cheated by him, not a single hair left!
Honestly, I have this worry, after all, my current economic situation is not bad, and I can receive five or six thousand a month of pension.
But through the relationship with Luo Gang, I found that he does not have much heart for money at all, and as long as he has money in his hand, he will buy me clothes, buy jewelry, and invite me to dinner.
And from this incident, I have a deeper understanding of Luo Gang, although his age is small, but it is a man with ambition and commitment.
18
Six months later, I got a marriage license with Luo Gang.
Because our situation is relatively special, so our wedding did not make a big deal, just invited a few colleagues and friends, the form is a little simple, but our desire for a happy life is very eager.
As for the future of life will be how, who can not predict, but at least, now we are living in the present, cherish each other!
I also wish that all lovers in the world will be happy together, no matter rich or poor, no matter young or old, as long as there is love in the hearts of two people, they will be treated well by heaven!