The sun is a little sunny at ten o'clock in the morning, and there are not many people in the park. Affected by the outbreak of the national epidemic, the park is much deserted now, and people who gather together to sing, play musical instruments and dance square dance don't come. In the huge circular square, only a few old ladies are waving Tai Chi swords.
I accidentally found a cool chair to sit in the shade of the tree and put down some things for the little guy, such as kettle, snacks and toys. She's not going to sit still. She would flip herself up and down and start wandering around the chair again. Picking up branches for a while, climbing sculptures for a while, mumbling. Anyway, I am like a puppy.
After playing for a while, I saw Aunt Liu coming this way.
It's the same yellow hat that will never change. It's a little cool to wear sports short sleeves today, with a mop in one hand and a brush in the other. Look at this battle, it should be off work.
Caught off guard, we made eye contact, and her old man came this way with a smile. I can't avoid it. I immediately smirked and took the lead in saying hello: "Aunt Liu, you got off work so early."
I secretly complain, and when I think about it, I can't help chatting.
For us who live near the park, it is very common to meet Aunt Liu who works in the park management office. Aunt Liu is in her fifties. She is my neighbor, and my mother knows her very well. Once upon a time, they were rivals at the poker table. My mother told me that this man was very talkative. I don't have time to play cards now. It's better to meet children.
Aunt Liu usually has a smile on her face and can talk to anyone. When I take my baby to the park to play, I often see her cleaning the basketball court, selling mineral water, or chatting with people. When she is never idle, she is like a top. I often admire her energy and think of my mother. It's really unparalleled that her back hurts and her legs hurt after a few steps.
I often wonder, are my mother's generation so warm and kind? I don't understand others. I have learned Aunt Liu's skills many times. Every time we meet, I want to play dumb at the end.
In my opinion, Aunt Liu's nature is not bad, but it often makes me afraid that I can't say what I say.
One: Aunt Liu likes to speculate on your private affairs without boundaries.
When going out, it is inevitable to socialize and chat, but this kind of chat is just to say hello, and often does not involve problems that individuals do not want to expose. Aunt Liu is not like this.
She likes to dig into other people's privacy best.
For example, your family's income, your husband's job and position, whether your mother's family and in-laws have helped you get married, and even whether your brother-in-law will get married this year, she will ask. Of course, she didn't mean to help introduce friends, just to pave the way for hitting you in the future.
For example, if you take care of the children alone, she will wonder if your mother-in-law is not helping again. Did you pay? When your mother-in-law took care of her children, she was told that the young daughter-in-law didn't take care of her children and was too busy to let her play Balabala.
Second: Aunt Liu likes to step on other people's homes and show off her own.
Before the children get married, love compares with my mother's imaginary son-in-law. When my mother said that her son-in-law was excellent and her mother-in-law didn't know how to arrange it, Aunt Liu said that she could give her future son-in-law everything she wanted. The son-in-law wants fried rice with eggs and never gives him rice for nothing. I am speechless. Can this be better than that?
After children get married, they like to inquire about other people's in-laws. In case things don't go well, then her next place to play is at home. All kinds of daughters and in-laws are very kind to her, and every detail has moved out. I can't wait to take you to the scene.
After giving birth, her topic became who came back to work and who was still playing at home.
Third: Aunt Liu is an irresponsible mother-in-law, who not only inquires but also spreads it widely.
You never know which familiar neighbor you will hear about your family's private affairs. Even when you witness Aunt Liu chattering with others and look at her from time to time, you can't help shivering.
Don't think I'm exaggerating. Aunt Liu in the park is the one who can make your heart tense at any time when you relax.
Aunt Liu is no exception. She represents at least one kind of person: a good aunt in the park, who enthusiastically asks about our broken neighbors that we can't get rid of.
What should I do if I don't look up and see you?
Many times I have suffered losses, so I have summed up at least a few experiences in dealing with such people:
Smile and say hello first.
As the saying goes, it is not surprising to be polite to many people. Besides, I have to face such a broken mouth mother-in-law. We can't let her get anything.
Cooperate with the performance in manners and not participate in the discussion in words.
For other people's parents, don't participate in the discussion.
For privacy, she insists that silence is golden, so that she can talk infinitely.
Don't excuse what you don't agree with in your heart.
There is no need to argue about different parenting concepts.
Having said that, what I want to say most is one sentence: Please, Aunt Liu! It's okay, Doby. Don't ask.