The world of human relations contains a very deep philosophy of the world, people are group animals, everyone living in the world need to understand a little human relations, many talented people because of poor interpersonal relations, and the mistakes of a lifetime, it is a sigh of relief.
First, face
Speaking of human feelings, there is a great deal of learning here, is a full embodiment of the wisdom of the people of the relationship between the science.
Face is the wisdom of the human condition, can bring self-esteem and self-confidence to others, in fact, many people know.
What is face? It's when you act in a way that makes others feel respected or honored. Even if you encounter bad luck, you can give others a step down.
The Chinese society is a society of relationships, and the ties that bind these relationships are kinship, blood, friendship, and affection. This relationship is intertwined horizontally and vertically, from the plane, like water waves, in concentric circles, generally, from inside and outside the layers of the launch, the closer to the center of the circle, the relationship is close to me since the proximity.
This order of affinity is subject to innate factors, such as affinity, countryside, as well as acquired factors, such as interaction, hobbies, experience, etc. **** with the role of. In the many factors affecting the relationship, there is a factor that acts as a catalyst in a chemical reaction can play a special effect, that is, interaction. Three years without the door, is not pro nor pro.
When insisting on one's own principles, one can give others a chance to maneuver; when defending one's own position, one does not hurt the dignity of others; when rejecting the unreasonable demands of others, one can be tactful without hurting one's feelings.
Dealing with human affairs is much more important than doing the job. Almost everyone will do the job, but the boss will only reuse the people he trusts. If you handle it well, you can make a career out of it. It is not the goal of your action, but can make you do things with ease.
Second, the interests
"The world, all for profit, the world is bustling, all for profit". Interests are the core issue in dealing with social relations, the road is not the same, in the *** with the interests of the formation of social relations on the basis of the more secure, however, the world has changed, the interests of the relationship is always changing. That is why you can always see various social phenomena in the society that cause love and hatred. People are emotional animals, people who do not know each other, have *** with the interests can often come together. Interests associated with the human condition, the human condition is the interests.
People are the sum of all social relations. Therefore, socialization is very important for people. Therefore, interaction is the most important factor in social relations. Interaction is more of an exchange of benefits.
When it comes to socializing, it naturally involves the issue of human relationships. Figure out the needs, good at observing, not only to be good at insight into human nature, more insight into the human heart; people's needs thousands of millions of people, but the basic needs are no more than that, and human nature has greed, selfishness, laziness, fame and fortune, tend to profit, avoid harm, you figure out the needs of the people you interact with and try to help each other to achieve their own human nature and desire to be a little restrained, when the majority of people are willing to help you succeed, you are easy to career success; do more to think about it, and to do the work of the people you want to help you to achieve your goals. It is easy to succeed in business; do more to think about what benefits you bring to others, these benefits, nothing more than money, power, fame and love, you can help others to succeed, who would not like to work with you?
Third, careful words and actions
The key to understanding the human condition is to know the expression of your feelings, that is, the way you act.
1. Language
Language is the window of the soul, for the deeper people, only from the language can not know their hearts. Jiang Taigong said: "The source of deep and water flow, water flow and fish born, love; root deep and this long, wood long and real born, love; gentleman love with the same and pro-combination, pro-combination and things born, love. Words to cope with the person, the sentiment of the decoration; words to the sentiment of the person, the extreme of the matter."
"A good word three winters warm, bad words hurt people in June cold", we have to learn to use "love language" to make good karma, often, a sympathetic understanding of the words, can give people a great deal of comfort, add courage, so that people feel the warmth. And a word out of place, like a sword, stabbing people's fragile hearts, even in the summer of June, but also feel a burst of cold. No matter how high your status, how strong the power, but also should pay attention to the way of speaking, beware of trouble out of the mouth, with high emotional intelligence, you can often feel the warmth of spring. And without the world of brats will often rate.
Therefore, don't say words that hurt your feelings, and don't say big words and mean words that are fast in your mouth. The only way to gain respect for others is to respect them.
Knowledge of the human condition, can understand the position of others, can talk to people rationally, can know the other side of the meaning of the concerns and mood, can put things more clearly, each other's heart is also easy to be accepted. The two of them can easily cross paths in negotiations, exchanges of views and coordination.
This ability has a positive value in dealing with people. People with poor language skills have a much higher risk of conflict and misunderstanding with others.
2. Action
Smart people tend not to listen to what you say, but to see what you do. Words often don't mean what they say, and actions reveal the true intentions of your heart. For people in general, if they are not capable and intelligent, try not to be new and pretentious, but to fit in. "Therefore, the wood is beautiful in the forest, the wind will destroy it; heap out of the shore, the flow will be turbulent; line above the people, the crowd will be wrong. The previous lesson is not far away, the overturned car follows the track." Walls fall down and people push, do not commit the anger of the crowd, do not do what the crowd detests, do not become a target. "Crowd of people, cumulative destruction of bones."
When in Rome, do as the Romans do, for human customs, not the same everywhere. Courtesy, courtesy in reason, courtesy in favor, courtesy in love. The wisdom of humane customs is an indispensable wisdom of people and a kind of ability, but this ability needs to be habitual in life.
3. Know in and out
As long as it is not a key core interest issues, can also be in and out, in and out. "One step back from the sky, so that three points of peace of mind". Do not be calculating, small-minded, to be open-minded, open-minded, see light, contentment. Harmony, harmony can be avoided in vain, and protect themselves. Intolerable, no need to endure. In the face of hostile forces of suppression, but also the courage to fight, to fight for unity is united in the unity of the survival, in order to concessions for unity is united in the unity of the death.
Fourth, friends
A fence three piles, a good man three help, a single tree is not a forest. Those who understand the human condition have friends, there are people to help in everything is easy to succeed, all the people picking up firewood, all the people rowing the oars to open the boat. Don't be too hard on people, there is no fish when the water is clear, and there is no friend when people are observant. People are not saints who can not fault, open-minded, to be able to tolerate the shortcomings and mistakes of others. More friends more road, more enemies more wall.
"The fluffy hemp, do not help and straight. White sand in the nirvana, with it all black." Nearly Zhu Zhi red near the ink is black, success is also Xiao He defeat is also Xiao He. Only those who understand the world of human affairs will get the benefit of friends.
2, with the gift of this matter, that is, how much others wrapped, how much you want to return, a few years later with the improvement of prices, you can only wrap higher than the previous red envelope. Otherwise, this matter will be kept in mind by others, may become an excuse not to communicate with each other in the future.
3, in-laws do not have frequent contact with each other, long-term contact is not a good thing, only more and more contradictions, not accustomed to the place will be more and more. Keeping a distance is a wise way to get along.
4, when others toast, the cup should be placed lower than the other party, and when others pour tea, knock on the side of the teacup.
5, most of the relatives are not substantial feelings, just because of the relatives and have to come and go, some even more terrible than strangers.
6, people under the roof, which have not lowered their heads, foster is that you live in addition to your parents' home outside of everyone's home. Two or three days okay, more than a week everyone will start to get tired of it, the fence you want to trouble others, you are bound to be due aggression.
7, go to the field tourism, business trips, try not to go to the former old classmates and old friends, their first feeling is very annoying, how to find me, and to invite dinner, and to play with, the adult world will really be more realistic.
8, you are not used to me, I am not used to you, is a norm.
First, the old man can not joke with his daughter-in-law.
Second, the elderly do not squeeze the bus during the rush hour.
Third, employees should not hold their bladders and pinch their backs in front of their bosses.
Fourth, you can not use chopsticks to turn over the dishes during dinner.
Fifth, what you promise others must be done.
Sixth, to play in a friend's city must live in the hotel, the friend's hospitality can not be more than three times.
Seventh, don't go into the girl's room when you go to your friends and family's house.
Eighth, to coworkers and leaders can not sit down in the office, something to say on the way out.
Ninth, do not borrow money from friends and family, borrow a car.
Tenth, in the public **** occasion to control their own little bear child.
Eleventh, there are elders or leaders get-together occasions, can not be seated first.
Twelfth, no matter what the occasion, whether the boss is right or wrong, do not talk back to the boss.
Thirteenth, the identity or seniority of the dinner did not move chopsticks, others can not move chopsticks.
Fourteenth, the leader or boss to give you bucks, to use both hands to hold the glass.
Fifteenth, do not dance with the opposite sex outside of marriage.
Sixteenth, do not get close to people who have preconceptions about you.
Seventeenth, don't trust anyone.
Eighteenth, remember that there is only eternal interest and no eternal friendship.
Nineteenth, rely on anyone is better than relying on yourself.
Twentieth, the mouth must be less than the force.
Twenty-one, don't drink with colleagues with high blood pressure.
Twenty-two, don't carpool with colleagues of the opposite sex for years.
Twenty-three, don't send friend circles in the dead of night.
Twenty-fourth, usually free people do not crowd the attractions on holidays.
Twenty-five, don't send information in the work group that is not related to work.
Twenty-six, the bowl of the meal do not leave rice grains.
Twenty-seven, in the party occasions, do not ask the old friends who have not seen the children of the marriage problem.