Seven eve is coming, these two days one reading gentleman has a vague premonition of the friend circle in the surge of malice, at that time, a large wave of festive map will be surging to. Roses, big head photo, movie tickets, or other, no matter what the sun is, are in the red fruit to swear three words: show love!
While the last Valentine's Day was only half a year ago, couples in love have no qualms about continuing to show off their love in style and at a high level, ignoring the fire-breathing eyes of singletons and the curse of "showing love will kill you quicker". And once the singles have turned the corner, they're just as compelled to show off.
Today, a reading gentleman will talk to you about the behavior of show love, love is the matter of two people, why people will be happy to show love?
And excessive show of love why will be hated?
The most high-profile and artistic show of affection
Showing affection is called PDA (Public Display of Affection) in English, and the word is quite new, but the act of showing affection has always existed regardless of race, age and country.
Ancient Chinese people often could not fall in love freely, but parents' orders, matchmakers' words, when it comes to weddings, it is still necessary to show. Ancient Chinese people said, the wedding is "the good of the two surnames, the upper to serve the temple, and the lower to succeed the next generation," which is a very important thing, must be widely publicized to friends, relatives and neighbors to announce the couple's relationship with the formation of the old man, neighbors.
This "show of love" through the wedding is more about announcing and consolidating the gender roles and social responsibilities of both men and women.
In addition to this, the ancients also had their own methods of "showing love". For example, Zhang Chuang, a minister of the Western Han Dynasty, used to draw his wife's eyebrows, which became a big deal in the city of Changan. Some people complained to Emperor Xuan of the Han Dynasty, saying that this show of love was too high-profile, and the whole city knew about it, which was detrimental to the decency of the minister. The emperor was also nosy and asked Zhang Chuang to question him. Zhang spacious replied: "I heard that, within the boudoir, the couple's private, there are more excessive things than painting eyebrows ah." The emperor thought about it, so he didn't blame him.
This incident was also written into the "Book of Han", which has been passed down for thousands of years.
There is also a very good show of love. Li Bai's "Peach Blossom Pond is a thousand feet deep, not as deep as Wang Lun sends me love," compared to this are weak. The same is the Tang Dynasty poet, Yuan Zhen and Bai Juyi this pair of good friends really love love love. Yuan Zhen wrote Bai Juyi's poems on the wall of the West Temple in Langzhou, Sichuan Province, while Bai Juyi wrote hundreds of Yuan Zhen's poems and made a screen. He also wrote back to Yuan Zhen, saying, "You wrote my poems on the wall of the temple, and I wrote your sentences on the screen. With you know where, two leaves floating in the sea."
One Readers believes that this love show is really literary enough, enough forced, will not let people feel bored at all.
Showing love in the social network, can't stop at all, okay?
In today's social networking era, showing love has simply become a daily entertainment for couples, and with a little refreshing on their personal homepages, there is a flood of couples' selfies and emotional confessions.
Some singles have silently raised their torches, setting up a symbolic army of burned couples on the Internet and complaining, "It's necessary to show such a high profile on the Internet."
One Readers would like to tell singles that it is indeed necessary, especially on social networks. For the sake of self-image improvement, they will continue to show.
American sociologist Irving Goffman once put forward the "play theory", comparing people in society to actors on the stage. The stage is roughly divided into two areas: front stage and back stage. In the front stage, that is, where people can be seen by others, they use their appearance and demeanor to perform the message they want to be accepted, while the backstage is where the actors leave the front stage to take a break and relieve the tension of the performance.
Today's social networks, inhabited by the masses, are perfect for moving backstage to frontstage, where everyone can now be a 24/7 actor, both in front and behind the scenes. The words and pictures posted on social media platforms are safe masks for us to wear when we are away from the group to act out our ideal image, and even the self-proclaimed femme fatale has to struggle with a few angles before she takes a selfie.
The ideal self-image is extremely important on social media platforms, where people generally want to show their good, beautiful and popular sides. And show love, it is more able to show their quality of life and excellent attraction, for social image is of course a plus point, show love show fly can be life performance into a quality love movie.
Your love, other people's "spam"
In fact, now on social networking sites to show love should also be careful, "show love die fast" has long been the keyboard singles party into a curse aphorism.
In an American book called "The science of relationships," scholars conducted an experiment on love through Facebook, and the results of the study showed that those who often show their full lives on social media and constantly show their love are extremely unpopular with others.
Professor Benjamin Lehrer, a social psychologist at Harvard Ford College, said, "It can be dangerous on Facebook if you're overly pretentious about your social relationships because even if your friends know you're doing well, they'll still dislike you even more."
Social networking "showmanship" is frowned upon by many because it occurs too often for people to get away from it. One person's overly personal information is defined in another person's mind as "useless information," just like the salesman who distributes useless flyers on the street. If this kind of salesman meets you three steps at a time, of course, it's easy to get bored and raise a torch.
What's more, how can an empty and lonely soul bear the excitement of "they're the ones who have all the fun, and I don't have anything"?