Two people to be married, each other's hometown is very close, and is a place. If the in-laws do not respect the woman, it will make her hair explode, not to mention the girl who married far away. Marrying a woman from far away is not just a matter of courage, it's a matter of love. The most important thing is whether she is respected. Especially for the kind of woman who has been married for a long time and still wants to live with or near her in-laws, it is important to pay attention to whether your in-laws respect you. If your in-laws don't respect you or even bully you, and you don't have any friends out of town, and your mom's family can't put out a fire from afar, it's sad to think about. It's not that you shouldn't marry far away. The key is to look at people, not only to see if a man is good, but also to see if his family treats you well.
There was once a girl who was ready to get married and chose not to do so when she was talking about marriage. In her own words, the reason is as follows: "Although I fell in love with my predecessor and then talk about marriage, but his family has not accepted me, has not liked me, look down on me, think I come from the countryside, marry their family is climbing branch, let me deduct the bride price bargaining, just want to let me get married free of charge, just want to take me as a free nanny. If it's just a matter of bargaining over the dowry and other issues, I can tolerate it. However, his family bargained with sarcasm and contempt, which seriously hurt my self-esteem. Otherwise there will certainly be no good fruit to eat after marriage.
Actually, this girl is not too bad. At least she recognized her in-laws when it came time to talk about marriage and avoided a marital tragedy. The girl below is different. She didn't recognize her husband's family until the wedding. Although she chose not to get married in the end, that experience made her feel good until now. Let's take a look. On the day of the wedding, the bride from afar heard her mother-in-law call her parents "country bumpkins" and decided not to get married on the spot. Seeing that you mentioned two "wedding dramas" this morning, I would like to say something about the wedding dramas that I have experienced. This kind of thing, let a person can not say happy, although in time to stop the loss, although did not let himself married into a bad in-laws, but always forget this bad memory, think of this I was so angry that I was trembling.
I was born in the countryside, but never because of this inferiority complex. People can not choose their own origin, born in what kind of family is to want to be good what kind of family, which lies in the acquired efforts and management. I have always been very confident that my efforts are getting better and better, and recognized by many people, but ultimately, I still capsized on this issue. Went to work in S after graduation. My ex-husband was from the area. After we fell in love and talked about our future marriage, we decided to settle in S city. It didn't matter to him because his home was there. But for me, it was a distant marriage. At the time he said he wouldn't treat me badly and I believed him. But the problem was that just because he wouldn't treat me badly didn't mean his family would look down on me.
My ex-husband was pretty good overall. It was because he stood between me and my mother-in-law all the time that my mother-in-law never got a chance to say anything about her dislike of me, and I didn't think about it, thinking that there shouldn't be such a thing as love. From the time we talked about marriage to the time we got married, everything went smoothly. Of course, it was all about the ex-husband, who had always stopped his mother-in-law from being a demon. However, on our wedding day, he didn't have much time to stop his mother-in-law, and she showed her true colors. At that time my mom's family arrived a day early, settled in the hotel and picked up the relatives from the hotel. There was no problem from the reception to the wedding. However, the problem arose after my parents met his parents.
Mother-in-law got together to talk to his relatives, probably because she was afraid that I would hear something and purposely said it in her hometown. But I've been in S city for so many years that I can understand some local dialects. So what my mother-in-law said to those relatives reached my ears. Translated into Mandarin, it meant: "My son is blind, so it's sinful to marry a farmer. There are many girls in the city who are better than that woman. I really don't understand what kind of ecstasy fills my son. Look at her family. They're all rednecks like her. Talk about how I'm going to get involved with this redneck in the future, it makes me sick to think about it.
Listening to all of this, I just can't figure out if my ex is any good or not. I just wanted to get a divorce and not get married because my family and I were being looked down upon and humiliated. The more I thought about it, the angrier I got and decided on the spot not to get married. My mother-in-law accused me of not knowing what I was doing and said that I was a disgrace to their family, and incidentally said the same thing again. I turned to my ex-husband and asked, "Did you hear that? That's how your mom sees me and my family. I can't marry you. I can't stand the humiliation!" I flipped out, the two families broke up, and marriage was completely out of the question, so I divorced my ex-husband on our wedding day, just like the woman your teacher told me about this morning.
A woman loses a lot when she marries far away. She really doesn't need to get married if she doesn't get the favor of her in-laws. It's better to be single or stay with your parents than to be bullied by marrying a bad in-law.