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I read a news story about a Ms. Wang who took a vacation from her job and brought her mother-in-law to the hospital. Because I don't know from which day, the old man can't sleep all night, no appetite for food, and often dizziness and panic. The first time I saw this, I was able to see the woman's face, and I was able to see her face, and I was able to see her face, and I was able to see her face, and I was able to see her face.
Later, after listening to the outpatient doctor's advice, she took her mother-in-law to a psychological clinic. She was shocked by the diagnosis, and told herself that she really didn't expect my mother-in-law to get depression from bringing up her children, and it was still moderate.
Her mother-in-law is a soft-spoken woman who doesn't say much on weekdays. After the child was born, Ms. Wang almost always in accordance with the fine scientific method of parenting. To the mother-in-law made a long list of tables, how to drink milk at what time, how much to drink? What time does the child go to bed and for how long? etc. Ms. Wang is actually grateful to her mother-in-law and has praised her more than once in front of her friends for being so nice to her, saying that she is so lucky to have met a good mother-in-law. Not only did she raise her children according to his prescription, but she was also able to live happily together. It is such a good mother-in-law but in the process of bringing up children, was driven into moderate depression. In this regard, Ms. Wang is very self-blame.
In fact, the elderly have depression, which is not appalling to hear, but more and more become a common disease of many elderly people. In Shaoxing City, Chinese medicine hospital. Spiritual psychological outpatient clinic of an attending physician, had said in an interview about the significance of the elderly. In the process of diagnosis on weekdays, suffering from depression and anxiety of the elderly probably more than 70% are caused by bringing children.
Today's society is highly competitive, young parents out of the pressure of life, but also because of the nanny's, one is not assured, the second is expensive, but also have to take the child's heavy responsibility, entrusted to the elderly. Data surveys show that in China, children under two and a half years of age, the proportion of mainly grandparents care reached 60% to 70%. Above three years old accounted for 40%.
It's really not easy for the elderly to take care of children, not only tired but also difficult. The first thing that you need to do is to change the diaper and coax the child, not only during the day to take care of the child's food and drink, but even more so at night. The child wakes up from time to time, either to drink milk or to change diapers, and the old man often wakes up again before he can close his eyes. If the child is healthy, the old people will be happy with their hard work. But if the child is sick, the old people not only dare not fall asleep for a moment to keep watch over the child, but also fear that their children will make trouble for them. How could a child get sick? Often, because of different parenting concepts, the two generations will clash over different ways of raising children. Originally, the quality of sleep is not good, the elderly life is also a day of fear, because of anxiety caused by insomnia, but as children, we are often concerned about their own children. Ignore the old man's psychological and emotional, in the long-term repression, unknowingly depression also quietly haunted the old man.
It is said that Chinese parents are the hardest under the sky, the most selfless parents, work most of his life, it is difficult to open the child after the child into the family, but then began to worry about the child's child. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots.
Parents live their lives centered on their children and fulfill their children's lives. However, when one person does not expect anything in return from another, selfless giving, is often taken for granted, as most children forget. Parents helping out with the kids is a favor, not a job. Often times, we take it for granted that the older the person is, the more happy they are with their children. We always think that it's something they do willingly, but we think we've never seriously asked the elderly, are you willing?
There is an Auntie Zhang. A few years ago, a man flew all the way to Guangzhou to help his daughter take care of the children, Zhang Auntie is not familiar with this place, the language is still not clear. He said, "I'm getting older, and I'm really a little overwhelmed with the kids." Before she came from her hometown, Auntie Zhang had just helped her son bring up her two grandchildren. The little one also went to kindergarten in the middle class, looking at the ability to eat their own play, she said that finally be able to get out of the misery. But Auntie Zhang still did not leave with the old sister. Jumping square dance, played a little mahjong, daughter of a help call over the scene, immediately re-entered the day and night with children in the state of life. Helped the son, how can not help the daughter it, so but also have to live separately from the old partner. Auntie Zhang these words in the face of the daughter can not speak, the heart is incredibly sour.
Often in the afternoon, see Auntie Zhang holding a child standing downstairs waiting for her daughter to get off work, looking up at the intersection, looking forward to the appearance of the familiar figure. Her daughter was happy to pick up her child after work and continued to walk downstairs. Auntie Zhang, on the other hand, took the bag in her daughter's hand and climbed upstairs to go home to cook. Looking at the old man's waist and back, step by step to climb upstairs, the heart has an indescribable sourness. It is hard to imagine a lonely old man in a strange city. Every morning after the daughter and son-in-law went to work, faced with a baby who does not speak the language, how she is day after day to live a long time.
However, in real life, how many old people like Auntie Zhang, in order to alleviate the pressure of their children, even if there is a soreness in their hearts, still buried in the bottom of their hearts. The first thing you need to do is to give up the life that should belong to you, and endure the loneliness of not knowing your way around the world, and insist that wherever your children are, there is a home for them. Elderly people are the ones who help us to carry the weight on the road ahead of us. With their help, we can go to work with peace of mind, and we can happily receive our monthly paychecks. We can also travel at a high price when we are depressed. Because we know that behind us there are old people, strong backing, to help us bring up children, to help us take care of the family.
The family has an old man, such as a treasure, if there is still selfless love in this world, I think that can only be given to the children of parents. Because most of the love is for the reunion, but the love given by the parents is for the children. This is our parents. They may not know how to express love, but they are willing to give us their whole life. So please cherish that old man who helps you watch your children. We all owe them a thank you in this life, and we need to be more considerate to them in this life .