It hits the nail on the head. Honestly, being a reassuring person is a realm I've been longing for for a long time.
It is just unfortunate that because of the physical weakness since childhood, life experience of layoffs and working life without dependence on the drift, became the most worried about the eyes of the parents of the child, but still can not change my efforts to become "reassuring" the pursuit of.
In order to make people feel at ease, I try to become a better version of myself, study hard, insist on exercising, work hard, and do my best to guard my days ...... everything just to become that "people feel at ease" look.
In my opinion, the "reassuring" is that everything has a cause and effect and account, care about their own efforts, more concerned about the feelings of others.
What is the best quality of a person?
Gao Zhan answered: "We can count on each other when things go wrong, we have to bear the responsibility in front of the responsibility, and credit is always the first.
In fact, it is summarized in 4 words: reassuring people.
It sounds simple, but it is the highest practice.
We always have this experience in life:
and friends about dinner, to the restaurant but no one, call the phone, she said she has been on the road, in fact, still in the home make-up;
lovers to go to the field on business, and said that the landing to report a peace, but a few hours no news, you worry about it, he said a pat on the head, embarrassed to engage in forget;
to the leader of the submission of materials actually long ago, the leader of the first time, but I do not know what to do, but I do not know what to do.
These seemingly small things, in fact, exposed the nature of a person.
As Ji Li said, "It's simple to say, complicated to fall, sounds like a feeling, but it's a principle to do."
In this world, there are not a few people who make you have the pleasure of seeing them at first sight, they have the talent of being smart and capable, and the ability to talk like a lotus flower.
But those who can make you stay with them for a long time must be the ones who put you at ease.
This is the most amazing talent of a person.
When I was young, from my parents' care into the ivory tower, from the ivory tower into the enterprise, simple as a blank sheet of paper, to understand a person only know the ear to hear, eye to see, with the simple sensory impression, never take the trouble to study the other side of the intention, slowly for a long time, only to understand that there is a kind of people in the world is always saying a set of things to do a set of things to the face of a set of things behind the scenes, such a person's language and action is divided, know the behavior of the split, they are often full of sets of things. Split, they are often full of routes, with them, a little less attention, will be set, this kind of people tend to be useful when you have an attitude, you lose the role of another attitude, and even with a heavy counterattack, no mercy, when there was a lot of enthusiasm, and later on, how vicious, when there was a lot of beautiful, and later on, how ugly.
Indeed, this era, smart easy to see, reliable rare, too many people with sets of perfunctory, too few people with a sincere pay.
But in fact, each of your reassuring performance is a savings in the bank of life.
When it comes to the key moment, this is your most valuable business card.
Some people speak a beautiful sentence than a sentence, do things but a hole than a hole;
There are also some people who look ordinary, but can do everything carefully, every piece of work, attracting people can not help but close to.
Most of the legends in the world are just ordinary people turning their thoughts into actions.
More bright resume, clever means, but also than people have to bear, do things have a head and tail.
Let people rest assured, in order to get more people's recognition, to create their own luck.
Writer Li Guangcai wrote in his book:
"There is no shortage of people with outstanding talent and intelligence, who were initially favored by everyone, and then the end was not too wonderful, and some of them suffered a lot of misery.
The reason for this is that they often blame bad luck and small people, but the essence of the matter is: to do things that people do not feel at ease."
Come to think of it, those who are popular in life, the work of the people who are always promoted, none of them are people who let people rest assured.
And, they all have 3 qualities in them.
1. Keep your mouth shut
Jia Pingwa once learned the secret of achieving great things from a monk: keep your heart in one place and your mouth shut.
The people who are really reassuring are those who know and do not say anything.
2. Do solid
Whether a person is reassuring, do not have to look at what he made a great achievement, and do not have to listen to what he said what the mouth of the big words.
Rather, it is enough to do things solidly.
3. Things are accounted for
Luo Zhenyu said, the so-called reliable, is nothing more than a sentence: everything is accounted for, everything has a fall, everything has an echo.
Nowadays, we all like to contact and chat on WeChat and other online platforms, and some people chat and don't return messages, and some things are said and said on the sea.
Previously, because of the child's sake to get acquainted with the parents of a daughter's classmates, then the daughter's classmates learning is a mess, the class teacher appointed by the daughter to help this classmates auxiliary difference, daughter every day very seriously, tirelessly and this unwillingness to learn the classmates torn, look really poor, in order to help my daughter, I took the initiative to bear the daughter's classmates auxiliary difference of the burden, in the entanglement between back and forth. The first thing I'd like to say is that I'm not sure how much I'm going to be able to do this.
At that time, the mother for her daughter, I was obedient, and even what I said she expressed great approval and recognition, whether it is her daughter's study or outside the study, without exception.
Naturally, in her daughter's study, her dependence on me is obvious, so I don't care about the pay to help this mother to send her daughter to the university, even her daughter's volunteer is my participation in the report.
At that time, I once y thought that in this nearly ten years of auxiliary difference tearing in the mother and I established a tacit understanding, a kind of friendship.
But everything was not at all what I imagined.
Later, with her daughter's university, the mother's attitude towards me turned sharply downward, and never took the initiative to contact me, I took the initiative to send a message, and she rarely replied, and met on the street, but also a cold greeting, and did not want to chat a few words of meaning.
Naturally, her coldness is something I feel.
So I also began to reflect on this relationship, and found that in fact, now everything is not empty, completely early signs.
Earlier she was willing to cope with me for her daughter, using me, and now her daughter is in college, she thinks I have no use for her in her life, and those disguised enthusiasm has long been unnecessary.
Now look back carefully, in fact, we are not a class of people, how can there be true love?
From the character, I am low-key conservative, she avant-garde publicity, which is like her divorce, like constantly changing boyfriends, and I like to think of the old, like a long stream of feelings; from the style of dealing with, she likes to act, like late for a date, and I like to be real, like the punctuality of the letter, which, just as she likes to make up, I like to face the same.
In addition, from the knowledge, from the pattern, we are different from each other. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that. Think about it, you will never be hot face to cold ass again.
Smart is easy to see, reliable is rare. Speaking of the mother is a very smart person, IQ IQ are very high, often surrounded by a group of like-minded friends, since her daughter went to college, she put all the energy on the travel, dancing, she likes to sorority dance, the square dance of the mother often scoffed at, quite disdainful, although she is also fifty years old, but her life can not be separated from the heterosexuals, like a young man, her daughter! After leaving, she lived with her boyfriend, who is more than ten years younger, and the whole person has completely and utterly taken the route of young and dashing.
Friendship, like love, is not something you can do after a certain age.
If you still like me, then I have been in the same place waiting for you to find me, if you do not like me, then I will not come back to bother you.
Doing things honestly and trustworthy, everything has a beginning and an end, a thing with an account of the person, it is worth trusting, let a person fixed heart.
This world is the existence of energy conservation.
To be a reassuring person, less cheap and smart, but a most remarkable talent.
Being reassuring will form a remarkable personality that will make you win people's hearts.
Walking in the world, there are two very important things: accept others and our own "different", to protect themselves and others "different".