Today's generation of older people, when they were young because of various reasons of the times, basically suffered a lot, fortunately today life has become better and better.
Some older people like to remember the bitter sweet, but, very often a memory of today's life also has a bitter taste, some older people are even trapped in the painful memories of the past, into a kind of mental torture.
Not only is he depressed, so that the health is damaged, but also let the children around them to follow the happy.
In fact, the past has passed, no matter when, is the present and the future is the most important, therefore, the elderly should not be too much memories of the past, especially the past of hardship, should be more positive and optimistic mindset to look forward to the future of the day.
2, stop complaining.
No matter how young or old we are, we will have times when we feel upset and there will be many things that make us feel unhappy. Whenever this happens, we will want to talk to other people, and many of our friends and family will be willing to listen, but we also need to pay attention to the frequency.
Imagine if we had a relative or a friend who kept complaining about the same thing over and over again, we'd get tired of it, wouldn't we?
More often than not, complaining doesn't solve the actual problem, and it's hard to make us feel really good. Complaining does nothing but make the patient listener want to stay away from us, so stop complaining and make your later years more enjoyable by not only remembering unpleasant things less, but also complaining about them less.
3. Stop being angry.
Many people are a little short-tempered and get angry easily when they are young, whether it's because of something at work or because of their children. As they get older and experience more things, most people's personalities become calmer.
When we get older and retire from work, we are surrounded only by our children.
When we were young, we might have reprimanded or even scolded our children for not listening to us, but as we get older and our children grow up, they have their own ideas, and as parents we can only use our experience to provide them with references, and if our children are not willing to accept our opinions, don't get angry, so as not to make the relationship between the two generations become tense.
4, stop nagging.
If you ask young people what they dislike most about their elders, it's probably the nagging. Physical health, work situation, marital status, these are all topics that older people like to communicate with their children. As elders, naturally, because of concern for young people, will ask these, but, if repeatedly urge a thing, will inevitably be children dislike. Understanding of the younger generation know that we are concerned about them, and in the way of elders face, can only bear to listen, but the heart is getting tired. Therefore, the older to less nagging, some things to believe in the younger generation, they know in their hearts.
5, stop wasting time.
When we were young, we couldn't live the life we wanted or do the things we wanted to do for many reasons.
But many people always procrastinate when they get older.
There are things they want to do, but they always say, "Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
But, unlike when we were young, we are now counting down the days of our lives, and we don't have the chance to waste our time. The old people who really want to understand, want to do what they try to do, not to wait, not because of greed for enjoyment, but because they know that their days are numbered, less regrets, the later life will also be happier.
6. Stop being lonely.
As people get older, they often feel lonely.
Even if you live with your children, or if your partner builds in, you can still feel lonely.
Because loneliness is not the absence of company, but from the heart.
After people get old, because they have experienced too many things, because they have to face the twilight of late, inevitably easy to be vulnerable, this time, we have to learn to be independent in the spirit.
Even if you are with your family, don't just arrange your life around a few people at home all day.