Why do you use the word handle with care? As a housewife, she washes and cooks for her husband and son every day, and her family is in good order. She doesn't watch TV, listen to the radio or dance square dance. She listens to Buddhist scriptures and reads Amitabha every day. I really admire her determination. However, this is also the fundamental reason why we can't get along normally.
She taught me that women are obedient and virtuous, and men are heaven. As long as the work is easy, the most important thing is to take care of the family. In fact, it is also true that the division of labor between husband and wife must focus on family. After graduating from graduate school, I went back to my hometown and found a light job with low income. I look forward to cooking well and being a good wife and mother at home in the future. Although I got the certificate with my ex-husband, I agreed to go through the door after the renovation of my new house this year and have been living in my own home. It's almost two years since I graduated, and my current job is too leisure and my income is too low. In the past year, I occasionally submitted my resume for an interview. My ex-mother-in-law saw me like this. She said: A woman can have only one child and take care of her husband and children. What good job should she find? Looking for a good job, will a good company want you?
In the first half of the sentence, I don't make excuses. This is her firm belief in women's virtue. In the second half of the sentence, why should we belittle it with discrimination? I am a graduate student of 2 1 1. It's no problem to support yourself with a monthly salary of 3,000 yuan after tax in a second-tier provincial capital city, but such income can't give you and your parents a better life. I admit that my ability to work is not outstanding. Before I really got married, I was free to choose my job. The interview was unsuccessful. This is my own experience. I didn't ask them for any help. Why did you hit me? My income is lower than the social average, and my heart is very bitter. ...
The former mother-in-law said that if you don't tell your neighbors, you will make mistakes if you are not careful. Oral business? My ex-husband and I had a cold war for half a year. My parents have never said anything bad about their family. They always try to make peace and say that I am willful. My ex-mother-in-law called me a jinx?
The cause of the cold war was a bed bought by Double Eleven. My ex-husband and I chose a bunk bed and put it in the second bedroom. We are both only children, and my parents want us to have two. Online shopping bed, without on-site measurement, found that there was a drawer in the installed cabinet that could not be completely opened after the physical goods arrived, and the bottom space could not be used normally. At the time of installation, my ex-husband and I were at work, and my former mother-in-law received the goods. She watched the installer put the bed on the spot, threw away all the packaging, and hurriedly called her ex-husband and said that she would return the bed. It's too crowded to do cleaning. That night we went to the new house to see the installed bed, and the space between the cupboard and the bunk bed was really small. I told my ex-husband that I really like bunk beds. Anyway, I will clean up in the future. I can accept that. Can you convince my former mother-in-law? The ex-husband agreed.
After this meeting, my ex-husband and I met again and agreed to divorce after four months. My ex-husband and I fell in love in high school, and we broke up and made up halfway. Eleven years of youth, once the sea, I really thought we loved each other enough, but I didn't expect to be defeated in this bed in the end. Looking at the essence through the phenomenon, I realized from this bed that in the eyes of my former mother-in-law, I have always been inferior to my ex-husband.
My former mother-in-law told me twice that the neighbor's woman had money, bought a house and renovated it. She asked her ex-husband what's wrong with finding a rich woman? I told my ex-husband that I was ashamed that I had no money to buy a house or decorate it.
What really broke me down was that my ex-husband asked me, am I worthy of him in the eyes of others? You proposed to me, you promised to take care of me for life, and you said you would love me forever. We divorced during the cold war. My former mother-in-law said I was a jinx, and we divorced during the holidays. My ex-husband also called me a jinx in front of me. Our engagement was given by your family and our family didn't ask for anything. We had a cold war, and my former mother-in-law said to my mother, which daughter-in-law gave so much gift money to XX? Similarly, my ex-husband also told me that your gift money is really expensive. ?
My ex-husband and I don't want to have a wedding. The ex-mother-in-law said that the six parents denied it and wanted to give it back to her son. ?
Speaking of weddings, I asked if I should tell my mother what to prepare. Maybe the customs on both sides are different. My former mother-in-law quickly responded "no" and asked me to buy a set at the farmer's market, where everything was available. ?
Between "me" and "mom", the ex-husband chose "mom". During the cold war, my parents wanted to ease our relationship and sent some fresh vegetables to my ex-mother-in-law. My former mother-in-law told my mother that my son is very filial, and even if I am anything, he won't say anything. ?
My parents are both employees of public institutions, and they have been diligent and thrifty all their lives. Our family lives simply and honestly. I thought I married love, but love is really not a matter for two people. I'm getting a divorce. My ex-mother-in-law asked her ex-husband if she wanted to return the bag she bought for me. Well, I returned it. I also paid dowry, jewelry, expensive gifts, and bags that my ex-mother-in-law remembered.
On the evening of 23rd, my mobile phone played "I have paid for so many years of youth", and my mother held me and cried till I trembled. Okay, it's over. Everything starts all over again. Shanghai, I can't go back. I didn't tell anyone about my divorce except my parents. Do I still have the courage to stay in familiar scenes every day in my hometown? I don't know what to do in the future, 26 years old.
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