Let's talk about my friend, they are a family of three, with a car and a house, no loan, in my opinion a little is very good, because most people have a car and a house loan. The man and woman hosts are both on staff, two people together almost 16,000 or so. In a small city like ours, tier 7, 8 or 9, the standard of living should be very high. The skincare products my friend uses are basically international brands, and the clothes she buys for summer are in the thousands, not to mention the winter clothes, while her children wear ordinary ones, her reasoning being that children grow up fast, and a few hundred dollars is too much of a waste of clothes. Her husband also rarely buys clothes because he has a uniform. In my opinion, she has lived a modest life, which is out of reach for me. But she sometimes said that she is financially tight, at first I think she deliberately said so in order to show her whiteness, and then I know, how high people's financial ability, how big the demand is now. People wear watches are tens of thousands of dollars, if she is a monthly income of 400,000, it is estimated that people will have to bring 100,000 watch.
Again, my husband's cousin, a family of four, and one in the womb. A family only my husband cousin in town to work, about four thousand a month, usually human interaction, a variety of living expenses, the big variety of information costs, the small also want to eat a snack, the belly of the need for maternity, need nutrition, right! It can be imagined that the four thousand dollars to what degree of tension. But the epidemic is coming, the class can not go, the wages are certainly not. In theory, than my friend is a far cry, New Year's Eve I went to his home, the family dressed ordinary, the youngest daughter does not know how to make trouble to buy food, daughter-in-law took to the store. The family gathered around the stove to make dumplings, a scene of warmth and happiness. Perhaps, knowing how much they have the ability to spend how much money, do not dare to be delusional, so it is easy to satisfy it
U.S. researchers have conducted a 10-year tracking survey of thousands of people.
That is to say, although your current income is already very good, you still have a vague worry about the future or a higher expectation, which comes from the uncertainty about yourself, your job, your marriage, your children's education, and other aspects.
Anxiety in today's society is something that almost everyone has, to a greater or lesser extent, but where does it come from?
According to Maros' theory of need, there are five levels of need, and in the past, when we were in the subsistence stage, the first thing we had to think about was the problem of survival: food, clothing and safety, so we couldn't think of anything else.
And once you solve the problem of food and clothing, safety, people's new needs appear: that is, what you call the well-off stage.
What people need at this stage is love and a sense of belonging: friendship, love and affection; self-confidence, self-esteem and fulfillment.
Once the social and respect needs are not met, self-doubt and self-anxiety will arise.
So entering the well-off stage is not a matter of having more money to solve the problem of peace of mind, but knowing the different needs of people at this stage to fulfill those needs and remove anxiety.
1. To constantly learn to improve themselves.
People have anxiety because they are not moving forward, fearing that they have the fear of being abandoned by the society; sometimes we do not work hard ourselves, but we transfer this anxiety of not working hard to our children, hoping that they will study well, and thus once they do not work hard, it creates a double anxiety for us.
Only by keeping ourselves in a constant state of learning and upgrading to keep up with the development of society can we remove the anxiety of being eliminated by society.
2, to have their own life circle.
Children, husband is only a part of life, but also have their own three or five friends, together with excursions, chatting and shopping.
People not only need affection, love, but also friendship.
3. Enhance yourself from the outside and make yourself healthy.
Learning is the inner enhancement, lest you have the anxiety of being abandoned by the times; and let yourself be beautiful is the outer enhancement: beauty, hairdressing, clothing, since the income has been well-off, let yourself from the inside to the outside of the beauty of a kind of physical and mental pleasure. Let yourself build up self-confidence is another way to remove anxiety.
4, develop their own hobbies .
Whether at home practicing calligraphy, singing, to the square dancing, are a good choice.
With a full schedule, there is less time for anxiety.
5. Exercise is the best medicine to remove anxiety.
Exercise can stimulate the brain to produce endorphins a chemical substance, which can make a person's body and mind in a relaxed and happy state.
But not all sports can produce this endorphin, only moderate to high intensity exercise to stimulate endorphin production, so whether running, fast walking, fitness, hiking, playing ball, etc., at least to adhere to more than 30 minutes.
In fact, this is not particularly related to income.
First, the environment: now the whole society, the city atmosphere is very impetuous, people are also increasingly material pursuit, the pursuit of hedonism. In the middle of it, the heart naturally can not help but blend in, the behavior and lifestyle of the people around us are subconsciously affecting our own lives.
Second, self-control: most people hold the phone every day should be longer than anything else, then the phone presents us with too much information about the content, whether in the circle of friends, small red book or jitterbugs, to see the beautiful women, handsome, open luxury cars, live in the villa, earn millions of dollars as the same age of their own hard not to compare. However, what we see is the persona, not the real life. Control their own excess material desires, desire to compare.
Third, self-discipline: whether there is a love of life, such as sports, reading, calligraphy, cooking, etc. If there is a hobby, put down the phone in the spare time, you can use them to enrich themselves. If you don't have a hobby, then discipline yourself and start reading, working out, and studying. Reading books can slowly affect our values and mentality, time after time, will find a balance in their lives ......
Fourth, age: In fact, in the college graduation to 35 years old or so, our mentality is the most difficult to calm down, because it is the struggle, to realize the dream of the age group, but also to taste the gains and losses, the world of human beings Age group, this decade or so, we are the process of searching for themselves, especially at the age of twenty-eight or eighty-nine, most people will panic, anxious about the years, the mind is not yet, life is not yet as good as it should be. In the race against time, how can we do the heart like water.
Some people say: 20 years of age to struggle, 30 years of age and then to toss, 40 years of age to learn self-acceptance, 50 years of age to be resigned. This is the trajectory of most people's lives ...... Of course there are inspirational entrepreneurs over the years still in business, the premise is entrepreneurs, bankruptcy and then come back, is that they have been to the top of the mountain, but it is down to climb again. And most people never climbed to the top of the mountain, a lifetime of repeated struggles below the mountainside.
If, life is contented, then stop and feel more of the passage of time in every cup of tea, every meal, every smile it ......
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Now the society is under great pressure of competition, every month, there should be more than enough, stable earnings in order to ensure that the quality of life, to live peace of mind! The first thing that you need to do is to get a good deal of money from your family and friends! Different periods, different individual cost of living is not the same, if it is in the third or fourth tier of the city, about 10,000 yuan per month income should be enough!
For the retired administrative staff in the city, a penny of savings is not very secure. Medical reimbursement ratio of nearly 90%, do not have to worry about the sick, part of the region can easily be six or seven thousand dollars or even ten thousand eight hundred dollars of pension, not only enough to cope with the family's daily consumption, more than a set of houses are not much pressure, not to mention the full payment on time, not moving a few hundred dollars per month to rise again.
For high net worth people, the number of deposits and standards have a higher requirement, the domestic bank deposits do not matter, foreign deposits have no tens of millions or even hundreds of millions of more important. As for some of the invisible rich, Swiss banks have a large amount of deposits in order to have a sense of security.
In fact, for everyone, the sense of security comes from social stability, from income stability, from price stability, from reasonable housing prices, from a fair and transparent business environment, from a perfect medical pension protection, from a fair and reasonable income distribution system. When all of this is difficult to achieve, you can only try to save as much money as possible, and keep working hard to save more money, hoping to save more food to avoid encountering a disaster year.
Hello, glad to share this with you? The environment is different, so is the state of people's lives. If you are surrounded by people with similar incomes and the same outlook, I think you will have a happy life every day.
If you are living a well-off life, but the people around you are more powerful than yourself, said the level is better than their own, you want to will be unhappy, want to catch up with others, even better than others, and thus the reality and life is not the same, you will have anxiety, if you are living a well-off life, the people around you are not as good as yourself, the environment is not the same, even though they are too proud, conceited, have no ambition, motivation and laziness, every day repeating the Yesterday's life, and finally fell into a state of anxiety, people ah, know how to meet the value of life, motivation is good, but also in their own capacity to go within the scope of their own indulgence, to understand their own ability, know their own strength, do not be too much comparison, do not outside influence themselves, think about how they need to live, they can give their families and children how to live, each family and the family is not the same, not you see the good, not the good, not the good, not the good, not the good. The same, not you see the good is good, not you see the bad is bad, warm and cold, do their own good
I feel that the human heart is too greedy caused by. I think it's a good idea to have a good time, and I think it's a good idea to have a good time. If you do not change the values of life, adjust your mind, your emotional changes will affect the normal life, people have to learn to be satisfied, grateful, happy source is not from the amount of money.
I know myself, I used to take the child did not go to work, I saw the woman next to me earn more than 1,000 yuan a month, I am envious, I also take the child at home while doing handmade 500 yuan a month I am very happy. Later the child went to school, I went out to work a month to earn less than two thousand then also very happy. Then I do it myself, a month can earn more than 8,000, but then I still want to earn more, and then a month more than 10,000, I feel the same industry I am the least earned it! Sometimes I earn more than 10,000 a day, and my greedy heart is still thinking that it would be good if every day is like this. The human heart is how terrible ah! Now is the epidemic period, I am very grateful that I and my family can still live a healthy life, alive is God's greatest gift to us. That's why it's best to live in the present.
How much income can not make you feel at ease, at ease is a feeling and mental state, for the need and desire for money will always be growing to a level, you will be exposed to a higher level, there is always more need, the feeling is still not enough.
And money is very risky, it is not possible to just save, you will invest, there will be failures. The rate of depreciation will also make you anxious.
What's really reassuring is a change in the direction of inner motivation, the inward pursuit of happiness rather than mere material fulfillment. After you've removed the sense of scarcity and insecurity about money that was inherent in your upbringing, you'll be at ease regardless of how much or how little money you have after you've healed. This is not easy and requires practice to gain a ready sense of fulfillment in life without being sidetracked by external objects. Learning to grow spiritually is such a process.
The root cause of anxiety is not the amount of income, many billionaires are anxious, and many ordinary people are happy. Maybe it's dissatisfaction with yourself? Uncertainty about the future? The real reason usually has a hidden
The probability of saying and income does not have much to do with, unless you realize the freedom of wealth, that is to say, you are free to choose your way of life without having to think about money, that may be a little bit weaker sense of anxiety, this has a data indicator, a first-tier city is 290 million, a first-tier city below is 160 million, this kind of freedom and the majority of the people are not related to the survival of this kind of anxiety will be accompanied by a person's life!
People's desire can also be said to be the ideal is constantly upgraded, you earn three thousand this year, then you want to earn four thousand next year, wait until you earn five thousand, and think of earning ten thousand how good it is ah! For example, the two of us combined monthly income of 6,000, my brother earned 6,000 or 7,000, we think he should be quite contented, but he saw people earning more than ten thousand! When he earns tens of thousands of dollars, I'm afraid that he still thinks that people are earning 20,000 to 30,000 dollars! People are like this, always catching up, never know enough, but what's wrong with that? It's human nature to be unsatisfied, so why repress it?
Proper anxiety is not a bad thing, it makes people work harder! We tend to emphasize the side effects of anxiety and ignore its positive side, in fact, appropriate anxiety, will make people cherish the moment, due to the uncertainty of the future of the pressure brought about by the people will make people work harder to improve their own, through their own hard work, to achieve their own aspirations!
If anxiety is the background color of life, then we have to learn to live with it peacefully ****, do not have to deliberately amplify the negative energy it brings, it is just a pretext that you want to escape from the pressure, we have been working hard, we have been on the road!
This is a bit of "worrying about the sky" maybe he was born anxious people, the typical characteristics of this kind of people is, love to think, love to think! Unsatisfied, careful, and later is the typical depression! So no matter how much wealth he has, he will never be satisfied! He will always do this and that, so he develops an anxiety disorder! On this issue, I say a few words, people, from birth to death, is just a few short decades, the age to struggle to work hard! When it's time to enjoy your life, go and enjoy your life! Don't worry all day long! It's exhausting. It hurts your head! Do your best to work hard, what kind of life can be achieved on what kind of life! You'll have a great life! Mind a little better, take good care of the body, a little more satisfied, a little more peace of mind, down-to-earth to be a good person is OK, believe in fate! Believe in God's arrangement! Everyone has their own way of living! Being rich doesn't necessarily mean you're happy! What is there to worry about! Who would have thought there would be such a big epidemic in 2020? Who would have thought that so many talented people would die? What's the use of their money? So, don't think about anything! Don't be anxious! Adjusting your mind is most important! This is? Heart disease ah! It's hard to cure ah [cover face] [cover face]