So tired from work, do you still have time to chat? In fact, as long as you want to do something, you will find time! Say what? What do you say?
Ice-breaking topics: the changes of children on this day, anecdotes on the way to and from school, the weather, the tastes and prices of vegetables and fruits, popular TV dramas, news, the physical condition of the elderly, etc.
Second, respect parents' right to speak.
Parents are used to educating their babies in the way they taught us in those years, such as the most common "threats": "If you do this again, I will" or "nagging", which is endless. "Threats" may make children timid. "nagging" makes children's ears grow cocoons, and it seems that they have not heard it many times. In this regard, my approach is: winking at my parents and gesturing, suggesting that ta should stop; Or bluntly criticize parents' education methods. Parents are also more knowledgeable. Whenever I see my hint, I simply don't say it, or I can tell my peers.
There is no absolute right or wrong in educating children. How many families play all kinds of discordant notes every day? The inducement is the smallest detail, but the result is great disharmony. The differences in their life experiences with their parents will inevitably lead to differences in educational methods and concepts. How can parents accept our suggestions and be willing to work with us to explore the best way to educate their babies? Please look at the third point.
Third, praise your parents from the heart!
Father, who never cooks, suddenly cooks a simple meal for you; Come home from work to see an extremely warm home; Bow decorations on high heels are scattered all over the floor. You tried for a long time, but you didn't fasten it. The next morning, you saw that dad had fixed it for you. The flowers at home bloom because of the care of their parents; Parents' new friends sent native products from their hometown; Mother's square dance is getting better and better; Dad goes downstairs to get milk before breakfast every day; My parents' Mandarin is becoming more and more standard ... If you like, you can find opportunities to praise your parents every day. A parent who is willing to accept compliments will often not refuse to adopt suggestions.
Fourth, thank your parents!
The reason for gratitude can be any small happiness mentioned in the third point, or it can be gratitude that rises in a moment. Thank you for your kindness; Thank you for giving you a healthy body and even giving you a name that brings you good luck; Thank you, TA, for setting an example for you. Thank you for your courage and efforts in helping your children raise their grandchildren: TA came to a strange city from her hometown and learned to use gas stoves and toilets; TA people learn to buy food and visit the supermarket; TA people learn mandarin; I even began to learn to write when I was in my sixties, just because I wanted to write to my granddaughter.
Fifth, hug your parents!
How long has it been since you hugged your parents? Never? Or I was not with them when I wanted to hug them, so I was embarrassed to meet them. I woke up one morning and found that my mother had prepared breakfast for me in the kitchen. She looks a little tired. I said, "Mom, I feel that you have gained a little weight recently, and the scales at home are broken. Let me try it for you. " After that, I picked up my mother. Mother burst out laughing, and the whole kitchen suddenly became cheerful. Later, I suddenly weighed my mother in this way, and I was very happy every time. I am still a little embarrassed about my father, but I will seize every opportunity to praise him.
Sixth, help parents find circles.
Sense of belonging is particularly important to the mental health of the elderly. For parents, it is far more difficult for them to integrate into a new environment in their twilight years than we thought. In your spare time, you should get in touch with fellow villagers in the community and help your parents establish familiar circles. Encourage TAs to participate in community activities for the elderly, such as square dance. Every one or two months, in the name of friends gathering, create opportunities for parents to relax. For example, we sometimes bring parents and children to prepare meals together, parents rub hemp together, and children play wildly together.
Seventh, take my parents out for a walk.
Every adult child lives a very busy life, including the old and the young, as well as the lover in the running-in period. Therefore, it is entirely within our power to go out and have a look around. It doesn't matter how far you go or what scenery you see. As long as you have this idea and effort, it will be a great comfort and relief for the elderly.