1,400 words after reading "Loving You Like This"
Only when the sky understands the eagle can it be given a broad stage; only when the earth understands the grass can it be given fertile soil ; Only when parents understand their children can they provide them with a healthy growth environment. Holding this parent textbook - "Loving You This Way, My Seventh Grader" is exciting in my heart and I have benefited a lot. I am even more convinced that understanding the love of children is the real love!
This book elaborates on the correct understanding of the characteristics of seventh-grade teenagers, how to help teenagers at this stage adapt to growth and changes, and how parents can actively transform their education methods. It integrates theory and The integration of practical operation, science and life brings clearer guidance to parents at this stage. Many of the contents covered in the book are exactly the problems I encountered in the process of getting along with my children, such as "Being the Master of Emotions", "Children develop early and worry about physical changes", "What should I do if my children are addicted to comic books" I read the chapters several times. As a junior high school teacher and a mother of two children, these are not only problems I encounter in getting along with my own children, but also common problems reported by many parents.
As children grow up, the pressure in study and life becomes more and more intense. Parents are at the peak of their careers. When their children encounter some problems while growing up, many parents cannot control their children well. Emotions can invisibly have a negative impact on children's emotions.
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Over time, children’s negative emotions accumulate more and more, and eventually they will explode, and the family will They will fall into endless disputes, and the disharmony between parents and children will make the education that parents have been trying so hard to achieve thankless. Of course, it does not mean that parents’ negative energy is not passed on to their children, and there will be no negative energy in the children’s hearts. After all, children have their own thinking and fixed places for activities, and have their own classmates and teachers. Naturally, they will also have other negative energy. The only way to help children clean up negative energy is to let them speak out. Just like many women like to nag. In fact, the process of nagging is the process of cleaning up the negative garbage in their own hearts. Therefore, you should clean up frequently, communicate frequently, and don’t be casual. Blame the complaining child, do not reprimand and educate the child while the child is talking. Therefore, parents must learn to listen, be their children's friends, learn to think from others' perspective, and know how to take care of their children's feelings. These are very important for adolescents, especially for seventh-grade children who have just entered junior high school.
A child of a friend of mine was reminded many times by his parents at home: "You should read more books." "I bought you so many books, why don't you like reading them?" This child's desire to read is not strong enough and he has no interest in reading. Faced with such a child, many parents hate that iron cannot become steel and are full of troubles in their hearts. When a child reaches 12 years old or after, parents should respect the child's reading orientation. When the child's reading orientation or reading interest deviates, do not blindly make demands on the child, but communicate with the child on an equal footing and establish trust first. Do not stimulate rebellious emotions in children. Once a child becomes rebellious, the educational function will be lost, and the family will fall into endless confrontation, affecting the child's critical growth period. If the child develops good reading habits and has his own reading plan, parents can occasionally share their reading experience with their children to strengthen parent-child communication and understand the true meaning of life. This is the best education. I am very happy that my child likes to share with me. Whenever she reads a good book or a good article, she will always talk about her feelings endlessly, her eyes widening, as if she has seen a magical unknown. world. Children's feelings are childish and simple, but when we calm down and listen, we adults will also be deeply inspired. Therefore, if we want to cultivate good habits in our children, we must first cultivate their interests, respect their innocence, and recognize their world. This is the most basic principle of protecting children's interests!
My children went to school earlier than their peers. I have gone through detours and made mistakes in the process of educating my children. I could not control my emotions well and killed my " "Little Angel" has a lot of nature, but fortunately, through my constant reading and constant reflection, my education methods have changed a lot.
"If you know your mistakes and you can correct them, you can never do good." Now I deeply feel how important it is to understand children!
If you understand, the road will be clear, and if the road is clear, you will naturally reach your ideal destination!