The night before her wedding, when she was in tears over the prospect of getting married, her mother pushed the door open and gently embraced her, saying, "Don't be sad, my daughter. It's not the time to marry into someone else's family. As long as you want mom, come back; pregnant inconvenient, mom and your father will go over. In addition, mom has to tell you a word of advice, don't watch TV dramas all day long inside the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law fighting with a sense of fear, this thing is a lot. But there are good things, right? Let's not talk about anything else. Your sister-in-law and I are getting along like a couple of mothers, aren't we? If you treat us as if we were your own parents, as your sister-in-law does, and you treat them as if they were your father and me, then it's not so bad."
Her mother's words were a great comfort to her.
Especially the last few sentences, which made her feel ridiculous.
Before the wedding, because there is not enough money to buy a wedding house, Wang Qi proposed that after the wedding to live with their parents, at most two or three years to buy a house.
And said, parents do not do much, there are people cooking and cleaning up the house, do not have to worry about them.
Considering that her boyfriend is a local, and her company is not far from her in-laws, she agreed to rent a room.
In spite of this, the thought of marriage with the mother-in-law to live together temporarily, just in case, she is still constantly on the Internet to check the way to get along with the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and a check a few months, think about it is ridiculous.
Right now, mom and sister-in-law is not a living example?
Sister-in-law to their parents to do everything, buy clothes, clean up the house, sick with parents to see a doctor, day and night guarding ......
Parents of sister-in-law is also better, know that she is very tired to work all day long, is never grabbed in front of her to wash the dishes, sister-in-law hair loss, the mother to buy a hair care products, sister-in-law cold and sick don't want to The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products in the world, and you'll be able to do it in a way that's easy to understand.
The first time I saw this, I had to go to the hospital.
Zheng Roux was confident and her mother was happy that her daughter knew what she was doing.
However, the two were wrong.
The first time I saw this, I was able to see that it was not a problem, but I was able to see that it was not a problem at all.
1
After the wedding, when Wang Qi proposed to go on a honeymoon trip, Zheng Liu thought for a night and decided not to go.
There are three reasons, one is to save money to buy a house; the second is the National Day, travel out of all the crowds, traffic jams longer than the time to view the scenery, not cost-effective; the third is that the in-laws life savings, and now have to come up with 10,000 to travel, the mouth does not say that, the heart will also think that their own ignorance.
When the sister-in-law married her brother, it is because of the fear of parents unhappy and do not want to go.
Parents learned, suddenly grateful to not, forcibly gave sister-in-law stuffed another 10,000 said, "your whole life on this time free and easy, while there are no children, we are not old enough to move. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and then you'll be able to get your hands on some of the best ones.
So, in the parents of the forced, sister-in-law and brother went on a trip, ten days later back, to the family each brought gifts, clothes, silk scarves, and special products ......
"What are you laughing at? By the way, traveling really do not go ah? That do not go I told my parents ah?"
Wang Qi woke up and looked at her dumbfounded laughter, did not realize that he swept her over a kiss, interrupting her thoughts.
"Go on."
Her eyes are full of smiles and she rolls out of bed to clean up her room.
She doesn't expect to be as good a daughter-in-law as her sister-in-law, but at least she's doing her part for her in-laws.
In other words, she has to know what she's doing.
These two words are good to write, but not so good to do. Especially in the marriage, she read too many postings, know how to not only include filial piety, dedication, understanding, etc., but also include aggression --
No, not that it is not a family does not enter the family door?
The mother's sister-in-law gets along so well with her own mother, she must not be bad either.
"Zheng Louise, come, come and eat."
Outside the door, the mother-in-law's shout was high-pitched and throughly happy.
2
"Okay, mom."
She answered and hurried out.
"Mom, I'm sorry I wasn't even helpful."
After sitting down, she took the chopsticks handed over by her mother-in-law and politely said.
"What are you polite for? It's all family now. Our old couple must have accumulated great virtues in their previous lives to marry such a knowledgeable and good daughter-in-law as you. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on a honeymoon trip. I'm sure you'll be able to get a good deal on a honeymoon, but I'm sure you'll be able to get a good deal on a honeymoon, and I'm sure you'll be able to get a good deal on a honeymoon. We're not capable of earning a lot of money, but we've been tightening our belts for a long time, and we've got a good thing going for us."
The mother-in-law was wearing a floral T-shirt, a slightly chubby body with a head of short hair as she spoke constantly shaking, the wrinkles on her face are unable to hide the joy, while saying that the chopsticks in the hands of the dance, the corners of the mouth of the grains of rice in a few moments will be vibrated off the dinner table.
"Yes yes yes."
The father-in-law is not very talkative, but he can't hide his happiness, nodding his head and saying yes, his skinny face is so happy that it glows a little bit, and he looks at his mother-in-law while chewing from time to time.
Wang Qi, his husband, was very pleased, and kept kicking her under the table, handing over a "look, my parents how much they like" your eyes.
"Mom, Dad, don't say that, this is what I should do. I'm just trying to get by, and I'm just trying to get by, and I'm just trying to get by. My mom and dad have been hammering me ...... non-stop since I was a kid."
Zheng Louise was embarrassed by the compliment and said in a hurry.
"Mom knows that your parents are intellectuals. Our old couple is an ordinary salaryman, earning probably not as much as your mom alone. The children's education is naturally not as good as theirs. Look at how well this child is being raised. You don't know, Lina, two months before you got married, I had chest pains so bad I couldn't sleep. Your father always told me to get it checked out. I said, "What kind of checkup? The kids are getting married. How can I afford it? It's five thousand dollars. But now that you're here, mom doesn't feel the pain anymore. It's all your good fortune~"
3
As her mother-in-law laughed, she covered her chest with her hand and looked at Ms. Zheng with a slight frown between her brows.
"Mom, if you don't feel well, you have to go see a doctor, old people are most afraid of a little pain, you don't go see a doctor in case it's serious how much you'll suffer? Wait a moment."
The mother-in-law has said so, if they do not show would be too ignorant.
"Mom, this is ten thousand, the gift money received yesterday. You take it to the doctor. Can not be delayed. Why don't I accompany you?"
As she spoke, Ms. Zheng put down her chopsticks and went into the bedroom, and when she came out, she had a thick pile of cash in her hand, walked a few steps closer, and shoved it straight into her mother-in-law's hand.
"Hey, how can this be? This is your wedding ah? Alas, well, you see, you see, this daughter-in-law is 10,000 times stronger than the opposite door of the family! This has just entered the door ah ...... Qiqi, I tell you, you dare to bully the empress in the future, see I do not peel off your skin ...... me, I really have accumulated great virtue in my past life ah ...... "
The mother-in-law was flattered, pushed and dragged a few times on the busy tightly grasped in the hands of Zheng Liao non-stop boast, finished sinking face angrily drink to Wang Qi, said even sobbing.
"Mom, you're welcome, this is what I should do. The family has an old man, such as treasure."
Seeing her mother-in-law like this, Ms. Zheng was touched by it and tried to persuade her.
"Mom, don't worry about it, you're there to protect me. If you want to bully, it's you three who will bully me."
Wang Qi was busy holding his head as a plea for forgiveness, said he left his seat and directly sat on his butt on the sofa to watch TV.
"Well, the daughter-in-law is so good, you can rest assured, we will be like our daughter-in-law as our daughter-in-law on it."
The father-in-law also ate well, said with a smile.
"Okay, okay, okay, mom won't cry anymore. Let's see how mom treats you, Empress."
The mother-in-law wiped her tears hard, her eyes full of love.
"By the way, old partner, when do you think the hospital will open?"
The mother-in-law drank the bowl of soup in one go, and suddenly thought of something and turned her head to ask her father-in-law.
"It opens at eight o'clock, people just don't close. What? You go now ah?"
"Lois just did not say? Can't drag, I'm going now, when I finish washing the dishes you accompany me."
As her mother-in-law said that, she stood up and made a gesture to clean up the dishes, she took a look at Zheng Louise who was drinking soup with her head down.
Although she didn't see it, she could feel her mother-in-law's gaze, and thinking of the importance of her mother-in-law's health, she put down her bowl and said,
"Mom, you and my father should hurry up and go, it's now more than eight o'clock. I'll just clean up."
"This, is this okay? You just entered the door~"
"Of course it's okay, go get ready."
For fear of her mother-in-law grabbing it, she also deliberately pushed her mother-in-law into the bedroom, signaling her to hurry to change clothes and get the bag.
The mother-in-law said it is true that the in-laws will treat themselves well.
The scene just now does not illustrate the problem?
The mother-in-law can not see the doctor for them to get married, can not bear to let her wash the dishes, etc., is not exactly the real interpretation of the real mother and sister-in-law?
Though it costs 10,000 dollars, the joy it buys is priceless. It's the joy of the whole family, and there's nothing more enjoyable than a good time.
After seeing her in-laws leave the house, Ms. Cheng was still in a state of euphoria.
Are in-laws a good thing? How hard can it be?
They are old people, and a little bit of care and a little bit of effort can make them happy.
Understanding is probably the way to go, and it's not that hard.
Especially when listening to the neighbors say she, not only know how to do, simply excessive know how, she is even more conclusions, and added exclamation points, and proud of this.
4
"You know now, don't you? At first said to live with my parents, you are still not happy, now you see, meals do not need to we do, the house does not need to clean up, all well prepared. Also so good to you, to buy you bed sheets ......"
Unconsciously, married two months.
Two months, she and her in-laws with parents and sister-in-law as different, meals to mouth, clothes to hand.
Simply more comfortable than at home, you know, in the home of the mother always scolded her lazy, do not wash the clothes, almost thirty still let mom wash underwear and so on.
The only difference is that the parents never accept the money given by the sister-in-law, while the in-laws two months in the open and secret but asked for money three times, in addition to the first day of the wedding she took the initiative to give the 10,000 yuan, but also to review, change the furniture, gifts, etc. to ask for **** 5,000 yuan.
What can this be?
Their parents have a good income, but the in-laws can not earn much money, they want this money, although not much, but privately they have drummed up a lot of courage.
This is the mother's original words, think about it, she thought her mother said reasonable, then no longer think.
"Sheets are I sleep alone? Aren't you too?"
She was satisfied, too satisfied with her mother-in-law's actions.
At the same time, thinking of the in-laws on the clothes have been pilling, knees and elbows worn white, plus there are two months Wang Qi's cousin will be held a wedding, in-laws to participate in not even a decent dress how to do? The first thing you need to do is pick out a dress for your in-laws.
"This one, only 498 yuan. The color mom wear also suitable, the style is also very fashionable."
She asked her husband, pointing to a T-shirt on the screen that was nearly five hundred dollars.
"Too expensive, you yourself in order to buy a house are not more than three hundred. Change one."
Wang Qi only looked up and glanced at the price before rebuffing her.
"How can that be? Mom and Dad have been frugal all their lives, and when they are old, they can't be so shabby. Just this one."
Zheng Louise rejected it, paid for it directly, and picked a 599 yuan shirt for her father-in-law as well.
The first thing she did was to look at her in-laws as her own parents, and she was right.
The more she felt that her sister-in-law's behavior was an example for her, the more she felt that she had to be attentive and did not do enough.
"What kind of clothes do you want to buy? Mom has, look, on the body of this good, and not bad, not broken ...... too waste of money ...... you are still ready to buy a house ......"
The day the courier arrived, she took it out to her in-laws to see, her mother-in-law, although the mouth ranting, but very happy, and constantly on the body than to compare.
"Say, what do you want to eat at night, I'll do it."
The mother-in-law was happy and asked as she rolled up her sleeves and walked towards the kitchen.
"Mom, you can make whatever you want. I'm all set."
It was enough to have such a mother-in-law, she didn't want to pick and choose.
"Good, mom remembered that you like to eat braised pork ribs, this will be done."
The mother-in-law went into the kitchen, the father-in-law went back to the bedroom to try on the clothes, she took a long breath, cozy half lying on the sofa, well, this is the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, in a good place than the mother of all intimate.
But what Ms. Zheng has forgotten is that there is a honeymoon period for newlyweds, and there is also a honeymoon period for in-laws and daughters-in-law.
But the honeymoon period is mostly just two or three months.
On the first day of the third month after the wedding, Ms. Zheng began to realize that something was wrong.
Her mother-in-law suddenly had wrist pains for no apparent reason, and she couldn't touch hot water or cool water.
At her request, cooking and dishwashing became her job. Even when she was late from work, the whole family sat on the sofa, waiting for her to cook and wash the dishes after eating.
At first, she thought, to be sympathetic to each other, they were inconvenient menstruation, the mother-in-law did not also scramble to wash the dishes?
Now the old man is not comfortable, should be.
Although tired, a little tired, good in the family and gas, reunion is blessed.
As time goes by, she feels that it is not so.
5
She found that her mother-in-law, who has never loved square dancing, began to dance, in the morning, at night, rain or shine.
The heartache is better, the wrist does not hurt, grasping the fan dance is very active.
"The old man may just want to take a break, you look at it again, don't get excited. Really can not, and then say."
The mother of his own advice on the phone, she thought about it.
She has been very understanding since she married in, and her mother-in-law will not treat her poorly.
This at least shows that they are not doing enough.
So, for the sake of the so-called understanding, she worked harder.
In order to be afraid of not being able to make breakfast in time for work in the morning, she purposely advanced the alarm clock by an hour.
For fear that it would be too late to come back to make dinner in the evening, she cut up the vegetables she wanted to eat in the morning, prepared them, and put them in the frosting so that she could come back and fry them directly to save time.
The mother-in-law said that wrist pain, she specially bought massage instrument, thousand dollars or more eyes do not blink.
And the in-laws, as always, after the polite, give her peel a fruit or help wash a bowl even matter.
In fact, these small things did not make her feel anything, but as before, some moved.
What really chilled her was the performance of her mother-in-law on the day of Wang Qi's cousin's wedding.
That morning, her in-laws changed into the clothes she had bought in advance, all new and fresh.
"Mom, my cousin is getting married, do I have to go over to the wedding site?"
Before her in-laws left the house, she suddenly thought of something and asked busily.
"We have rules here, equal sister-in-law siblings and so on do not need to go, you make some food at home yourself. I changed the bed sheet today, you help me wash it. Your father-in-law's health is not good, it must be pure cotton, otherwise he feels uncomfortable. It's just this set, and there's no replacement."
The mother-in-law kept surveying the clothes she was wearing, and next to her, the father-in-law kept urging and didn't seem to want to talk to her.
"Oh, okay. What about Wang Qi? He went out early in the morning, and he said to bring the charger for him when I go over with you guys."
Thinking of what Wang Qi had instructed when he left in the morning, she was busy pursuing the question.
"Oh, charger ah? Then bring it, I will bring it to him. It is not just for you to send a charger? It's not worth the trip. This child has a lot of things to do, and does not know how to care for his wife."
The mother-in-law laughed at her and blamed Wang Qi.
"Okay, I'll go get it."
Without thinking, she takes the charger and gives it to her mother-in-law.
Why are the customs here different from those at home?
Shouldn't all of your husband's aunt's children be there for the wedding?
Why is it that the whole family can go, but she can't?
Maybe it's a strange rule, isn't there a place where daughters-in-law can't go to the dinner table?
Thinking about it, she stopped thinking about it, and washed the sheets for her in-laws, and then considering that her mother-in-law said there was only one cotton sheet, she busied herself by running to the mall and buying another one.
6
"Zheng Louise, why haven't you come over?"
As her husband's relatives are better connected, he has pulled her into the relatives group since she married in.
Just returning home from the mall, a distant cousin's wife @ her in the group.
"I thought I didn't have to go?"
She asked, surprised.
"Who said that? It's mandatory to be there, unless something prevents you from coming. Didn't your mother-in-law tell you?"
The cousin's wife sent a ha-ha laughing emoticon.
"Nope. Never mind, it's too late now. I'm not done with what I have in hand."
She had to prevaricate and put the newly purchased sheets in her closet.
Finally realized that the original over-knowledge, get not a kind smile and respect, but neglect and do not care, and quite a good bully.
When I think about what my in-laws have done, it's as if I've come to my senses in a blink of an eye.
The mother-in-law did not let her go, just let her wash the sheets to buy sheets.
The mother-in-law wanted money to say that the furniture was replaced, but now the refrigerator is still the same.
The mother-in-law said her wrists hurt, but she danced without any ambiguity.......
The mother-in-law kept praising her for her understanding, but it was just for her to take on the household chores such as cooking and washing the dishes and tidying up the house.
It turns out that since the beginning, she is just a competent nanny.
The mother of one said that the mother of one has done a good job of sympathizing with her daughter-in-law, but the mother of another has done a good job of sympathizing with her daughter-in-law. The mother-in-law has only done how to squeeze the daughter-in-law.
The difference between people and people is really not a little bit.
She was wrong, and so was her own mother.
"What's wrong? Why didn't you go over today?"
In the evening, she didn't cook, still lying in bed replaying in her mind what her mother-in-law had done, and flung a few slaps to her face for her behavior so hard that the palm prints hadn't gone down yet due to the force.
"Your mom made me wash the sheets. Is that a problem?"
She asked back in a no-nonsense manner.
"No, it's not, is it? I thought it was because you might not be familiar with it and didn't go yourself. And did not call you, blame me, wife, all blame me ...... my mother this thing to do really not decent, I apologize on her behalf."
Wang Qi spewed wine, kept apologizing to her.
"Forget it, all in the past. From today onwards, I am no longer stupid."
She sighed, not blaming Wang Qi. Since the marriage, although he is also a shirker, but at least he is still heartbroken, and occasionally wash the dishes to help, sometimes see her cold also support her mother-in-law to wash.
And weighed the afternoon, for the in-laws, always can not give up their marriage.
After all, in private, Wang Qi is still good to himself, at least not a mom's baby boy.
"Wife, living life must have friction, there is something to say out. I know you're not satisfied with my mom's handling of this matter, you can go out and quarrel with her forked, but also can not aggrieve yourself ah? The time is long, the contradiction knot can not be solved."
Wang Qi is very sensible to comfort her, but she, already do not want to do these meaningless work.
Who loves to go who go, really can not, move out to rent a room, than here in-laws do not take themselves as a person to see better.
"Louise, don't make too much at night, we ate a lot there, and we're not hungry yet ......"
Through the doorway, her mother-in-law's shout came from the living room.
She decisively got out of bed and opened the door in a huff, "I'm going to eat hot pot with Wang Qi in the evening, so you guys can make whatever you want."
7
Said and returned to change clothes.
"You want to eat hot pot? Good, I'll accompany you."
Seeing this, Wang Qi knew that she was angry, did not speak again, and immediately answered.
She was glad that Wang Qi did not ask, "Why don't you cook? Why talk like that?" These words.
At least this proves her speculation that Wang Qi still cares about himself.
"How much of a waste of money to go eat hot pot na? A meal of just a few green vegetables and a plate of meat, it's one or two hundred, it's too wasteful. Let's eat something at home. My wrist hurts so much today--"
Her mother-in-law, probably sensing that her tone was wrong, walked to her door and knocked while saying.
"Oh, mom go do it, see you don't look too good, is it coming soon? Look at mom's memory ......"
She snapped open the door, and her mother-in-law hastily changed her tone when her eyes touched her gloomy face.
Her mother-in-law, who still knows how to read faces, walked to the kitchen as she spoke.
And she, not caring about her meal, still pulled Wang Qi out.
In fact, the moment she opened the door, she wanted to tear her face off with her mother-in-law and ask her why she did it, but her mother-in-law's seamless switching of expressions blocked her to death, and she didn't open her mouth to say a word.
As someone said, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a game, mother-in-law won, daughter-in-law to do cattle and horses; daughter-in-law won, mother-in-law to look at each other's face to act, should not do not do, should not say not say.
Since then, she has become a handful at home, after eating will be a bowl of push back to the room, and then do not chat with them, ask what never more than a word back, in addition to their own clothes and housework do not touch the ......
Gradually, she knew that she had changed, into a " The first time I saw this, I was in the middle of the night, and I was in the middle of the night.
She found that since she was less understanding, much more relaxed, no more pressure, no more hard to do things you do not want to do, there is no hard time for themselves, life seems to be cheerful, there is time to look up at the window, look at the ceiling, long out of breath.
And at the same time, just when she was looking around for a house ready to move out, she also found that since then, her mother-in-law has changed.
It may be out of guilt, or it may be to see her face fall every day, mother-in-law has become particularly diligent, square dance does not dance, began the old, clean up the house, make breakfast, make dinner, wash the dishes, and will also be in her face is extremely difficult to see a cup of ginseng tea.
She finally realized that the original excessive understanding of a long time, not only other people will ignore you, even their own will also ignore their own. The people who always know how to think about others will be doomed to forget their own pain.
And when she is in pain, others will focus on the place where she is concerned.
When my mother-in-law's brother celebrated his birthday, he went to the mall and bought her a festive dress.
"Lina, mom is sorry for you. Mom did not do the right thing in the past. And did not treat you as a daughter. Mom knows that you are also very angry. Just, we have been like this is not good ah, in the future, you give mom a smile face can not ......"
In Wang Qi desperately make eyes, she agreed to try the clothes.
The mother-in-law, on the other hand, began to nag and plead.
For months the mother-in-law has been careful and whispered, and the words that have been left unsaid have finally come out.
But what do these words mean?
She understands that, on the surface, it looks like repentance, but in fact, it is just that she is too tired and wants to let her take over again, a dress that is only a hundred dollars to achieve the goal? A hundred dollar dress to achieve the goal?
She also understands that as long as she smiles, everything in the house will gradually be handed over to her, and they, as a matter of course, lounged on the sofa, waiting for her to do a good job of cooking called "dinner", waiting for her to clean up gently said "feet lift a little", waiting for her to do a good job of cleaning up the house. ......
She didn't want to, she knew it was her mother-in-law's way of keeping her from moving out.
"Mom, Wang Qi and I are moving out next week, and we've found a house. It's in the middle of both of our companies. In the future, if you want to come over, give me a call, I'll cook for you."
She barely pulled up a smile, and in an instant lost any expression.
"Fine, as long as you are happy, mom agrees, all agree."
The mother-in-law responded with a full mouth, turned around and raised her hand to wipe up her tears.
"Mom, look at you why ah, and not abroad, from our place is very close. You and Dad can go if you want to."
Wang Qi busy to go forward to persuade.
"Husband, close the door ah, I change clothes."
She deliberately shouted in the room, Wang Qi returned to close the door the moment, she heard her mother-in-law constantly read, "Qiqi, you really do not want mom? Mom can't bear to part with you ah ......"
She attached her ear to the door, wanting to hear what her husband had to say, knowing that since the beginning, Wang Qi was her only comfort in this house.
? "Mom, do not blame people empress empress, people began when you are a pro mother, you, do called what things ...... well not far away, want to when to go over to go over to see, in fact, this is quite good, too close there is always a contradiction ...... "
Fortunately, Wang Qi Mingliang, did not let himself down.
On the day of the move, my mother-in-law ran behind the car and shouted, "Mom, in a couple of days, I'll do a good job of sending the empresses' favorite ribs to ......."
Wang Qi's eyes were red, and she did the same thing, turning her head and pretending to look out at the scenery.
"Wife, you regret?"
"No regrets."
She returned. The mother-in-law said this is right, the fault is that the mother-in-law is not the same person as the mother-in-law.
Between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, understand or not, but also look at each other.
Otherwise, for the wrong person, excessive understanding is stupid.
(END)
The first time I've seen this is when I've had a chance to talk to my mother-in-law.