When I came to Shanghai, there were a few moments of life that infected me:
Once, I took a bus to roam Nanjing West Road. When I got on the bus, I met a woman with gray hair, I think she was in her sixties. But she was still dressed well. A thick needle round neck sweater hoodie, inside with a dress long skirt. Wearing a single black leather shoes.
At that glance, I suddenly felt that women can be elegant in their old age. If you have a requirement for body shape, you can still wear beautifully fitted clothes. That old lady's clothes, it is estimated that the average young woman may not be able to wear that kind of feeling. A kind of refreshing, thin, light, tall and calm.
At that time, think a full head of gray hair is not terrible, can also have a beautiful state. Perhaps, in this process, the mind and self-discipline is the most important factor. Even with the rich are not necessarily related.
Often, the daily elderly woman, may have long given up insisting that "they are an old man", those who talk about it all seem out of fashion. Then, let the body out of shape, let the clothes randomly wrapped around themselves, all the time with the same time to go to the grocery store to buy food.
There is not much left to ask of oneself, giving up one's life and letting the natural aging take its course. Most of the time, as people get older, they really get "uglier". And then decided that the beauty is destined to belong to the young flower season rainy season, just to find a reasonable excuse for their own abandonment.
Then what to explain, the woman has passed the flower age, but can maintain such a form and taste it? The gray hair does not feel old in the least, and even the skin has not aged excessively.
Once again, I ran into a woman who was probably also in her fifties at the supermarket. While standing in line, I was attracted by the big red cartoon earrings on her ears. What's more, she was wearing a pink jacket and a pair of pink sneakers.
Energetic. At first glance, she is a regular sportsman. The posture is athletic. She teased that she bought a lot of snacks to buy, but also threw the cashier two packages, "you also taste it", and then "walk like flying" away.
Perhaps anyone would think that the large pink, crimson cartoon earrings, certainly belongs to the teenage wear. Perhaps, we will say that this "big mom" has a very strong sense of girlishness. But at least, her heart of young girls still in the mood, and do not have to account for what other people's eyes.
In this city, many women are very self-reliant and confident. They or have a good income, and do not lower their choice of spouse requirements, regardless of age. The first thing you need to do is to get married. As long as you have enough money to make a comfortable life for yourself and your parents, you don't have to do much more than ask for it.
Rarely, parents from urging to slowly give up, let them walk their own choice of road. It must be said that financial independence is indeed an important means of self-empowerment for women. With sufficient financial conditions, you can choose the life you are willing to live. None of this is directly related to getting married and having children.
These three or four clips made me curious about how the sea culture of Shanghai nurtures women. Perhaps the openness, freedom, and diversity that came from the sea sculpted women's rationality, and the foreign lifestyle, the exercise of commercial rationality, continued the demand for quality of self-life.
Talk about fashion and beauty, talk about music and movies, linger in the commercial space of the public ****. That's how the commercial atmosphere is cultivated, right? Just as many people are accustomed to the evaluation of Shanghai women, the word "material" is only an objective evaluation of the commercial atmosphere.
I don't know what I'm talking about, but I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do it, so I'm going to have to go back to my old school. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on a new product, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on a new product, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on a new product. This is all every year life needs to plan content.
Here, the traditional values that come from the Chinese vernacular are less attractive. That's why there's a saying that Shanghainese people think foreigners are "country bumpkins". They are always seen as xenophobic. Their sense of superiority is not without reason. Just like the prosperity of Shanghai, just like the superiority of the imperial city of Beijing.
Perhaps, these three insignificant cases around me made me start to think, "What is the exquisite life"?
And directly related to the "exquisite life", the first thing I thought of was a few commercials, and that's the feeling. The first thing that comes to mind is a couple of commercials, and it's that kind of feeling. I don't have a lot of requirements for food and clothing, and I even think that the purity of it can reach the height of the soul, and the traditional "righteousness is not important," which y sculpts one's own judgment.
The advertisements in both videos express a kind of adoration for the "true self". Perhaps this kind of creativity is why I was attracted to the advertising program in the first place, but I never had the opportunity to participate in the creative environment.
A lot of articles also discuss the idea of learning elegance from French women, learning to live a more refined and tasteful life. Of course, this is not superficially manifested in skin care products, cosmetics, perfume, clothing, accessories, wine, etc., should be from their lives within the appreciation of the "real me", honesty, self-confidence to show their own beauty.
When I first read about French culture, I wanted to know where their elegance and taste came from. It is said that French culture favors the feminine qualities of women, which is why it has given rise to so much literature and arts.
In retrospect, perhaps from a very early time, their women began to awaken, in a variety of ways to show their own value, such as George Sand, such as Beauvoir, perhaps it is the woman about the influence of existentialist thinking, early to let women face the true value of the self.
Existentialism, about death, loneliness, freedom, and the exploration and healing of meaning, freedom is a self-choice, meaning are given by their own participation. Others cannot be responsible for their own lives, only the self, hence the phrase "J'adore".
A woman's love of beauty is also natural, just like a woman's natural love of flowers. A refined life should come from the pursuit of beauty in life, just like a weekend of quiet mind flower arrangement, listen to music, let go of irritation, do the most real self, can go to the free choice, and then responsible for this and give meaning to it.
All the life, not to go outside and other people's lives to find, but need to start from the self to find. At this point, is it balanced, is it energized, is it doing what it thinks is meaningful, is it recognizing and accepting its own needs?
Do we really need to account for anything in our lives to others?
It shouldn't be necessary. Just as you can still decorate yourself in pink when you're over 50 and still be lean and stylish when you're over 60, life after old age isn't just a square dance lifestyle. From now on, think, after 36 years old, after fifty years old, after sixty years old, their own days will be like what?
It has been said that looks are also shaped by the heart. Regardless of the process of aging, it will always come. The face will always age, but the demeanor may still be influenced by the heart. Hopefully, growing a year older each year from now on will allow the heart to work a little deeper.