What are the ways to increase self-confidence? Self-confidence is very important in life, because it is not only helpful to work, but also beneficial to life. Do you know the way to increase self-confidence? Let's have a look.
What are the ways to increase self-confidence? 1 first, positive self-suggestion.
To enhance self-confidence, we can first make more positive psychological hints, so how should we make self-hints?
There are many ways of self-suggestion, which can be done silently, said aloud, written on paper, even sung or recited.
Maybe someone will say, I hinted at myself yesterday, why am I still not confident today?
Because to make self-suggestion work, it needs long-term persistence, ranging from three to five months to three to five years. By practicing effective self-suggestion every day, you can gradually become confident in yourself.
What kind of content should you imply if you are not confident? This is also a method problem that many people talk about.
For example, you can tell yourself, "I am first-class in my field." Even if you are not first-class, after long-term psychological hints, you will have internal motivation and start to work hard to advance to the first-class. "
"I have enough time, ability and wisdom to realize my ideal" and so on. Even if my ability is not strong now, when you believe that you have the ability, your potential will be stimulated if you persist for a long time.
Generally speaking, the shorter the affirmative, the more effective it is. Be sure to express strong feelings and give people a strong impression, such as "I like to laugh!" " When we go out every day, we should also smile in front of the mirror and tell ourselves, "I always smile at others, so that more people will like me!" "One day, the power of the spirit will surprise you.
Second, take the initiative to say hello to others.
Seeing the second aspect, some people may not understand it. Why can you enhance your self-confidence by saying hello to others?
Because when you take the initiative to say hello to others, it shows that you value each other more and like each other. And the other person will be happy because of your respect and attention to him. Who doesn't like to be respected and concerned by others? If you take the initiative to greet people for a month, your popularity may rise rapidly.
There is a concept in social interaction called "home court advantage", which means that everyone enjoys the initiative in their own "home court".
In communication, we should also make full use of this theory, take the initiative to greet others, help others, and communicate with others as if we were hosts. Proactive people are often more psychologically prepared and better able to grasp the social initiative. "
Say hello → look at each other's faces → find a topic "is called the social trilogy. In fact, if you work hard to do what you are afraid of, your fear will disappear. Therefore, even if you are afraid, you should get up the courage to be the "first person to say hello".
Third, make yourself look decent.
If you dress neatly, dress appropriately and behave appropriately, then this person will be more confident in social activities.
On the other hand, if you don't dress properly and are untidy, you will feel inferior easily, and it is difficult to really communicate with confidence. Generally speaking, people think that good-looking people have better education, background and quality, which is easy to make people feel good.
Therefore, a good appearance can make people more confident. Therefore, preparing several sets of better clothes in social activities can really increase your confidence invisibly.
Here, it is a little stronger. "Appropriateness" does not mean to wear famous brands or be fashionable, but to suit the occasion. For example, men shave every day, can't wear slippers, and it is difficult to meet others; Women should learn to wear light makeup and tie up their hair before going out. You can't see people with loose hair, which will make people feel that your appearance is inappropriate.
Fourth, practice facing others.
In social interaction, a person's eyes can reveal a lot of information. If you dare not look someone in the eye, he may suspect that you have done something wrong to him.
Once avoiding others' eyes becomes a habit, you will feel inferior and worse than others. Looking into other people's eyes means telling them: I am honest and cheerful, and I am not afraid of you.
Therefore, letting your eyes add points to your social interaction and looking into others' eyes can not only give you confidence, but also win others' trust for you.
Fifth, we must have our own opinions.
This is the key to decide whether a person is confident or not. What is an opinion?
Express your views or opinions on some people and things. Have your own independent thinking ability, don't blindly follow others.
Many people are not confident, just because they panic after encountering one thing and don't know what to do.
In fact, most people have their own ideas, just because their parents or other relatives made decisions for themselves when they were young, so they became dependent after something happened. When I grow up, I still hope someone can make decisions for myself.
It may also be that I am afraid that my decision will have bad consequences, and I don't want to bear the bad consequences. Therefore, I can't analyze it rationally after the incident, but I am anxious. I hope someone can help me and listen to other people's opinions.
A person who has no opinion is immature, and it is difficult for such a person to get respect from others in social activities. Self-confidence is a sign of self-confidence and a necessary quality for success. In social life, people who have no opinions are not only weak, but also difficult to feel trust and respect.
Everyone respects the strong, and for those who are not confident and have no opinion, people will give them cheap sympathy at most, but they will not like it and are willing to be close.
So everyone should be an independent person and send a confident signal to others.
Sixth, dare to express yourself.
If a person is very talented but never shows himself, he may be buried. Because now is no longer the era of "wine is not afraid of the depth of the alley". Only by daring to express yourself can others know, appreciate and like you. A person who always hides himself will make people ignore and forget, and will become more inferior. On the contrary, it is easier to make yourself more and more confident by actively participating in training your psychological quality and honing your various skills.
What are the ways to increase self-confidence? 2 1. Stay away from those who belittle you.
Some people like to satisfy their sense of superiority by belittling others or attacking others. They usually base their happiness on the suffering of others. When they meet such people, they will resolutely stay away!
Step 2 stay healthy
A healthy body may not bring us confidence, but an unhealthy body will definitely affect people's psychology, which is why people are very fragile when they are sick, so keeping healthy is the foundation of everything!
3, bodybuilding figure
There is no denying that having a strong figure can greatly enhance one's self-confidence. Whether boys or girls, if you want to improve your self-confidence, you should put fitness on the agenda.
4. Clothes and shoes
Never ignore the self-confidence improvement brought by a dress that shows temperament. This may be the fastest and easiest way to get. Exquisite external dressing is of great significance to improving internal self-confidence.
5. Learn to keep smiling
A shallow smile can make us become positive from the subconscious, which not only enhances charm, but also enhances self-confidence. Why not?
6. Positive body posture
For example, positive body posture can instantly increase our self-confidence, so when we need more self-confidence, we might as well straighten our backs, hold our heads high and take bigger steps. That kind of self-charm is greatly increased, and self-confidence is instantly enhanced.
7. Positive psychological suggestion
This is probably the most easily overlooked good way to improve self-confidence. When we need more self-confidence, we might as well talk to ourselves, praise ourselves, cheer ourselves up and encourage ourselves, which can influence the subconscious level and then give ourselves spiritual strength instantly!
8. Learn to face it squarely
When talking with people, learning to look into each other's eyes is not only a respect for each other, but also an affirmation of the conversation. More importantly, such positive actions will make you more confident and proactive.
9. Complete the established plan,
Making plans is a double-edged sword. When the difficulty of making a plan is appropriate, it helps to improve our self-confidence, but when the task is too difficult and cannot be completed many times, it will destroy our self-confidence. This becomes harmful!
10, act now
Procrastination and evasion will seriously damage a person's self-confidence. Only taking immediate action to do what you want to do can help improve your self-confidence.
1 1. Overcome your fears
Face up to your fears, find out what you are afraid of, and take risks to overcome what you are afraid of. When you overcome what you were afraid of before, your self-confidence will improve.
12, record successful experience,
Record every successful experience and feeling, even if it is a small success. Once such a habit is formed, our self-confidence will continue to accumulate. Every time we look through the records, the memory of successful experiences will inspire us, and gradually we will understand our own value and produce more self-confidence.
13, constantly improve yourself.
When we constantly improve ourselves and strengthen ourselves, this kind of action and self-strengthening knowledge and skills will always inspire ourselves and give us uninterrupted confidence and calmness!
14, the ultimate self-confidence improvement method: the continuous accumulation of wisdom and experience
Deng Ning-Kruger's psychological effect shows that when we are in a state of knowing that we don't know this knowledge (the second state of the four knowledge realms of life is introduced in my previous article, and interested friends can check my previous article), we can only continuously improve our self-confidence through the accumulation of wisdom.
What are the ways to increase self-confidence? First, tear off the label of "shy and not confident" and believe that you can change.
First of all, introverts should change their definition of themselves from the cognitive level and reject "stereotypes". Only by changing your own ideas can you make further changes in your behavior.
For example, many introverted people, after encountering several social embarrassing scenes, will be very depressed and label themselves as not good at socializing. When this idea was deeply rooted, it began to close itself and refused to contact with the outside world, and finally it became more and more autistic and unsociable.
The interesting phenomenon is that if a person who occasionally encounters social failure actively tries many times, he is likely to become more and more sociable and eventually regain his social self-confidence. And if this person completely denies his potential in this respect because of one or two failures, then he completely loses the opportunity to get a successful social interaction. Therefore, if you don't tear off your label in time, introverts will become more and more introverted and less confident.
Second, step by step, overcome shyness and regain self-confidence.
When your cognition is corrected, you can make further self-change from the behavioral level. In the behavioral school of psychology, a classic method to overcome introversion and shyness is put forward, that is, "gradual exposure therapy". Specifically, this method encourages people to try to do things that made them anxious before, and gradually overcome their introversion and self-confidence.
Because for introverts who lack self-confidence, it is often difficult for them to bravely break through the comfort zone and get in touch with external interpersonal and practice. So, you can start with the simplest things, such as saying hello to your colleagues or nodding and smiling.
Gradually, when you are not so afraid, you can try to chat with people around you. Through this little change, I finally encouraged myself to communicate with others, boldly express my inner thoughts, and let myself understand that "I am also a great person and can do as well as most people".
Third, always remind yourself not to care about other people's opinions and evaluations.
In fact, for most introverts and people who lack self-confidence, the reason why they feel anxious, afraid and timid when doing things is actually because they care too much about other people's opinions and are afraid that one of their actions will not be done well, resulting in an embarrassing situation. Therefore, if you want to overcome this kind of psychology, you must change your unreasonable beliefs.
In this world, no one can do everything perfectly, and the opinions of others will not have a great impact on themselves, so don't worry too much. When you insist on reminding yourself to find your true meaning instead of caring about other people's opinions, you will naturally find true self-confidence and be able to cope with all kinds of emergencies in your life more calmly.