The second method: simplify life.
Case 17 Let's enjoy such an article together!
The third method: divert attention.
When you are excited, in order to prevent it from erupting out of control, you can consciously divert your attention, change your focus, divert your attention from things, and divert your attention from situations that cause adverse emotional reactions to other things or activities. There are many ways to divert attention. We can watch movies, enjoy pictorial, do things we are usually interested in, or go for a walk in the suburbs, and so on. But for us, sometimes when we are in class, the unreasonable mood comes. What are we doing? No way. I took this course. Shall I go to the playground to get some air? In this case, we can try this method: one more minute? Sometimes waiting is much better than trying to catch up, because such waiting can calm you down after one minute, so you shouldn't be angry and angry. If you wait for him for one minute, the student will be much better. So, if necessary, give yourself some time. Even if the students do a minute of consolidation exercises, you can look out of the window quietly first, which is also a way to distract your attention and wait until it cools down. Actually, there is no need to deal with it.
The fourth method: reasonable venting.
Taking a reasonable way to vent is an effective measure of self-care. It's like if there is too much water in a reservoir, there is a danger of crossing the dam. At this time, in order to ensure the safety of the dam, it is necessary to release excess water through the spillway. Reasonable ways to vent are usually the following:
(1) Find someone to talk to.
This is the most common and reasonable way to vent. People often have this experience. When there are troubles and grievances, if you can't find someone to talk to, it often makes people feel uncomfortable. If you can talk to your friends, even if you can't get their advice, you will feel much more relaxed. In recent years, some psychological counseling hotlines are very popular because they provide a good target for people who need to talk but can't find a suitable audience.
(2) keep a diary.
If you can't find the right person to talk to and don't call the hotline, you can also choose the way of talking to yourself, that is, talking to yourself by keeping a diary. This way is indeed a very suitable way to vent for those introverts.
(3) self-venting.
Here refers to the venting methods that can be used when you are alone, including some behaviors that are harmless to society and others, such as crying loudly in places where there is no one, or shouting loudly in empty places, or even smashing some waste products and cushions, which can play a venting role.
(4) Action adjustment.
The purpose of releasing negative emotions can also be achieved by participating in some sports, especially some intense and antagonistic sports, such as boxing and football, which has a more obvious regulatory effect.
Fourth, how do teachers put out the flames of anger in their hearts?
[psychological prescription]
First, acknowledge human differences. People in life are often all kinds, including excellent people and poor people. This is an objective existence and a basic fact that is independent of people's will. For growing students, some bad behaviors are normal in a certain sense, and there is no need to get angry. Of course, this does not mean that we should ignore them, just don't get angry. With this understanding, you will treat different students with a normal heart and will not always have too high personal expectations for them. Dell has a famous saying:? The only way to avoid getting angry is to get rid of the thoughts in your heart. You wish you were like me. ? It is impossible for an adult to treat his peers, let alone immature students, by asking others to meet his own standards.
Second, show weakness appropriately. Don't always think that you are a teacher and have supreme authority in front of students, or always hold a belief in your heart: I am a teacher and I will be able to control you. These two kinds of mentality are embodied in a strong sense of dignity (students are not allowed to offend me, otherwise it will be shameful) and a sense of self-ability (that is, self-righteous psychology, believing that they have the ability to make others listen to them completely). Are these two kinds of psychology produced? Teacher hegemony? The main factor of psychology. In fact, teachers are ordinary people, and it is impossible to cover everything, and it is impossible to have shortcomings and deficiencies. Exposing weaknesses in front of students is not a scandal, on the contrary, it may make students feel intimate and close. I often feel that I am an ordinary person. Can I downplay it? Hegemonic psychology? ; When you have conflicts with students, it is a good strategy to give in to some extent and show your helplessness. This is to eliminate conflicts and reduce conflicts. At the same time, it will not lower your prestige, and it may also arouse the sympathy and support of other students.
Third, always remember. Anger is a sign of incompetence. Anger and shouting are not the solution to the problem. Although they show your dissatisfaction to a certain extent, they also reflect your poor cultivation and helplessness. Avoid anger, calmly face the reality, analyze the ins and outs of things, and recognize the truth; Second, we should respect others, even if we treat students with irregular behavior, we should take respect as the premise; Third, we should consider the consequences. The consequences of anger will only intensify contradictions and even develop into uncontrollable situations. People who are out of control often do deviant things. As the old saying goes:? If you don't think twice, you will regret it. People can bear it without worry. ?
Fourth, some trivial things between students can sometimes be ignored and frozen. Especially in the classroom, we should focus on the interests of the vast majority of students and not be influenced by the sections of individual students. Therefore, as a teacher, we should learn to be tolerant. Being tolerant is always the virtue of being a man, no matter when and where. In fact, tolerance and strict requirements are not contradictory. People who tolerate others must be open-minded.
Fifth, the adjustment of teachers' mental health.
(1) reasonable cognition
1, cognition determines mentality, and mentality determines behavior.
Case 18:? Selling salt and umbrellas-rain or shine? The story of a mother and two sons.
Case 19: The story of two Taiwan Province tour groups traveling to Izu Peninsula.
Case 20: Inspiration from airlines and/or volcanic ash; Different understandings will lead to different behaviors, and behaviors determine interests.
Discussion: Case 2 1: A third-grade primary school student said in his composition that his future wish is to be a clown. China's teacher criticized: No ambition! ? ; The foreign teacher said: May you bring laughter to the whole world! ?
Conclusion: As elders, we not only tend to demand more than encourage, but also define success more narrowly.
Discussion: Case 22 The story of a family owning a dog and a cat:
So some people say, teacher? Treat students as angels, and they will live in heaven; If a student is regarded as a devil, he will live in hell. ? From a certain point of view, teachers' posts are provided by students, who are both teachers' educational objects and teachers' parents! Especially those students who are difficult to educate, and even provide opportunities for teachers to improve their educational ability. Because students don't like learning, teachers exercise the ability to stimulate students' interest in learning; Because the students who can't learn exercise the ability of teachers to teach students to learn to learn; Because of all kinds of heterogeneous students, the teacher's ability to change students has been exercised.