Interpersonal communication and mental health of college students

University is the cradle of cultivating talents, among which cultivating college students' good interpersonal skills is the requirement of contemporary society, and it is also a lesson that cannot be ignored in higher education. Contemporary college students are in the stage of exploring life, mastering professional knowledge and recognizing society. The quality of their interpersonal communication directly affects their life and study at school. College students need to establish good interpersonal relationships, so they need to overcome the obstacles that affect their interpersonal communication, master the skills and principles of interpersonal communication, and establish harmonious interpersonal relationships. Only in this way can they complete their life goals with the help of the wisdom of others in an era full of challenges and competition.

Keywords: mental health of college students' interpersonal communication

introduce

Interpersonal communication refers to the process of behavior and psychological communication between individuals and people around them. In this process, people communicate all kinds of emotions, thoughts, opinions, attitudes and opinions with a strong purpose. The process of interpersonal communication has the characteristics of subjectivity, complexity, practicality, interaction and sociality.

Nowadays, college students belong to a group with naive psychology and great pressure. Faced with various pressures from society, environment, schools and individuals, some students can establish a certain degree of social normality and social balance and maintain a relatively balanced psychological state. However, some students are often at a loss in this process, showing loss, loss and depression, often troubled by nameless troubles, or fidgeting because of unwarranted fear, and some even lead to personality dislocation, schizophrenia and psychological collapse. Although the proportion of these students among college students is not large, according to relevant statistics, this proportion has increased significantly in recent years. This is a problem that cannot be ignored in today's society.

Second, the standard of mental health

Simply put, mental health means that there are no symptoms of maladjustment. For contemporary college students in China, the measurement of college students' mental health can be summarized into the following suitable standards.

1. A sound personality. The behavior and attitude towards the outside world and oneself conform to social norms, are coordinated and stable, have good social adaptability, and have certain self-control and self-control ability. Love learning, actively participate in social activities, and get satisfaction from social and learning activities.

2. Normal intelligence. In observation, thinking, memory, operation, imagination and other comprehensive abilities have reached a certain level, and they can be competent for university study, life and work, showing more positive creativity.

3. Unity of self-awareness. Being able to understand and accept yourself means being able to correctly understand, demand and evaluate yourself, and acknowledge and love your true colors. Be pleased with your strengths but not arrogant; Don't shy away from your own shortcomings and don't feel inferior. Only under the control of the correct world outlook, outlook on life and beliefs can we clearly understand the meaning of our lives and form realistic aspirations and lofty ideals.

4. Emotional stability and coordination. Be able to maintain a happy and confident mood steadily and continuously, have a full sense of happiness and security, and be full of fun and vitality in life. Can maintain psychological harmony and balance, not troubled by negative emotions, can get rid of mental burden and eliminate psychological obstacles. Can do the best, rely on their own wisdom and diligence to achieve success, so as to obtain the joy of success.

5. Harmonious interpersonal relationship. Willing to associate with others, able to get along with others with a positive attitude of respect, friendship, trust, understanding and tolerance. I am keen on giving others love and friendship, and I am willing to accept them. Sincerity, patience, tolerance, kindness to people, love group activities, belong to a certain group, and find fun in group life.

6. Be decent and generous. People of different ages have different behavioral and psychological characteristics. Behavior conforms to one's age characteristics and is a sign of mental health. Young students should be cheerful, flexible, energetic and energetic. However, being old-fashioned and depressed does not conform to the characteristics of their time and belongs to the performance of mental health.

Thirdly, the adjustment of common psychological problems in college students' interpersonal communication

1. shyness psychological adjustment

College students with shy psychology need to correctly understand their abnormal psychological problems. The treatment of shy psychological disorder should focus on psychotherapy, which can be used in suggestion therapy and behavior therapy, combined with effective social and skill training, to eliminate and overcome one's shy psychology; On the other hand, college students need to enhance their self-confidence, participate in more group activities and establish harmonious interpersonal relationships, which is conducive to avoiding and preventing shyness.

2. Psychological adjustment of inferiority complex

First of all, we need to correctly understand the inferiority complex and gradually form a correct self-cognition. When college students feel inferior because of poor interpersonal communication, they can get rid of bad emotions by participating in activities, talking and listening to music. Because on the one hand, it gives vent to one's bad emotions, and at the same time, it more or less increases one's opportunities for interpersonal communication, and invisibly cultivates one's interpersonal communication ability. College students must establish confidence. Only in this way can all kinds of measures to overcome the inferiority complex in interpersonal communication be unimpeded and play the greatest role.

3. Psychological debugging of alarm

College students should have a correct understanding of alert psychology, and do not need to worry about it and have fear of communication. We should cultivate self-confidence. Only when we communicate with others with confidence, will we not be full of fear of communication. When college students find themselves in an inappropriate state of psychological alert, they should quickly restrain themselves and tell themselves that unwarranted suspicion is inappropriate and will have a bad influence on their interpersonal relationships. At some time, college students need to expose themselves properly, eliminate their closed psychology, and frankly reveal some secrets with their associates, which can promote the formation of good interpersonal relationships and relieve their psychological alert to some extent.

4. Psychological adjustment of loneliness

College students need to overcome loneliness, first of all, they should be open to themselves, communicate with the outside world more and be honest with each other. Secondly, we should be brave in communication, not afraid of setbacks, and be good at summing up experience and learning lessons in the process of communication to enhance our communication ability. Thirdly, college students need to strengthen and cultivate their hobbies and interests. They have hobbies, they have pursuits, and they won't feel lonely. Finally, college students should strive to overcome their inferiority complex. Loneliness caused by inferiority is like being trapped in a cocoon. It is difficult to get out of loneliness without breaking through this cocoon.

In addition, the common problems of college students in interpersonal communication are perfect psychology and jealousy psychology.

It is normal for college students to have some shortcomings and deficiencies in their growth. We should treat each other's shortcomings with an inclusive and peaceful attitude, even if we want to point them out, we should communicate sincerely, not criticize them.

Fourthly, the cultivation of college students' interpersonal skills.

1. The cultivation of college students' interpersonal skills by schools

Schools are the main places for students to carry out education. Only by paying attention to the combination of practice and theory can interpersonal communication education really play its role. Interpersonal communication among college students mainly includes individual counseling, group activity training, case discussion and research.

(1) Individual tutoring. Individual counseling refers to the method of giving individual guidance to individual students' communication problems in order to improve their communication situation and promote the healthy development of their communication ability.

② Case discussion and research. Using case teaching method, case discussion and research in college students' interpersonal communication classroom teaching is the main method to cultivate students' communicative ability. Under the guidance of teachers, according to the teaching purpose, students are organized to implement research-based learning methods by means of case discussion and research.

③ Group activity training. The characteristics of group activity training are mainly suitable for people who have the same communication problems or the same psychological problems, while growing college students do have the same psychological problems and communication problems. The main advantage of group activity training lies in the interaction of group members, which is diverse, practical, applicable, vivid and interesting. With the gradual strengthening of interpersonal communication education, this way will surely become the main way of interpersonal communication training for college students.

2. The cultivation of college students' interpersonal skills.

① Raise awareness. College students should know themselves correctly and be aware of the problems in the process of communication with an optimistic and positive attitude; Evaluate others from an objective perspective, fully respect and affirm others; Look at interpersonal communication with a positive and optimistic concept and win the friendship and enthusiasm of others; Learn to understand and tolerate, and maintain harmony and harmony in the communication environment.

② Mastering social skills. College students should establish a good self-image, master body language and behavior norms, pay attention to speech and language art when interacting with others, be good at listening to each other's conversation, be sincere, open-minded and patient. In addition, college students need to enhance the attraction of interpersonal communication, form good interpersonal relationships, grasp the characteristics of the object, respond flexibly, have clear goals, and expand their social circle.

Five conclusions

In short, college students need to establish good interpersonal relationships and overcome the obstacles that affect interpersonal communication. We must strengthen self-cultivation, treat people equally, integrate people into the collective, cultivate politeness and treat each other sincerely. Only in this way can we learn from the wisdom of others and surpass our own lives in an era full of challenges and competition.

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