Standards for healthy families
There are many types of healthy families, both differences and similarities. The difference is that every healthy family has its own history, culture and function. Similarly, a healthy family can not only meet the basic needs of family members such as clothing, food, shelter and transportation, but also do the following:
1. Respect each other. Family members know how to take care of others' feelings and respect others' personal belongings and privacy. They don't eavesdrop on other people's phone calls, and they don't use other people's things privately. They will not bully others, nor will they undermine others' confidence.
2. Spiritual support. Family members know * * * adversity, * * * honor and disgrace. There are many forms of spiritual support, such as listening to others, sincerely praising others, thanking others or helping others. Some people hope that when they are alone, their families will not hesitate to give themselves time and space to be alone.
3. There are rules at home. The way for healthy families to support their families is to agree on certain family rules. From the parents' point of view, it is to make certain family rules to restrain children, such as not coming home too late and not attending parties from Monday to Friday night. Brothers and sisters can also urge each other. For example, Wang Hao's sister can't write a composition. In desperation, she begged her brother to lend her the composition to copy. Wang Hao told her sister that it was not good. But he promised to help her clear her mind and give her some hints. In fact, Wang Hao is helping her sister learn to finish her homework independently.
4. Division of labor and cooperation. Sharing housework enables everyone to contribute to the family. Sharing housework also helps family members to establish correct values and create a harmonious family atmosphere. Many families even regard responsibility as a sacred right. For example, two sisters, Zhang Li and Zhang Na, will invite friends to their home on Saturday, so they should take the initiative to do housework before and after the party.
5. communicate effectively. Effective communication is one of the most important values that a healthy family should have. Good communication skills do not mean that family members must "speak with one voice". When people get along with each other, it is inevitable that there will be bumps and bumps. Members of a healthy family not only know how to listen to others, but also know how to solve conflicts creatively and constructively.
6. Respond to change. Nowadays, families will face all kinds of changes, such as moving, promotion and demotion, suffering losses, marital change, illness and death, etc. After the accident, the family members had to make corresponding adjustments. When family members try new roles, they often feel particularly stressed. Members of a healthy family will face these difficulties together, listen to others' opinions, provide spiritual support, and put themselves in others' shoes when necessary. That's what Zhang Li and Zhang Na did when their parents divorced. Since then, the two sisters have become closer.