American psychologist Holt gave an example: One day, his friend Fred felt depressed. His usual way of coping with depression is to avoid seeing people until his emotions dissipate. But he had an important meeting with his boss that day, so he decided to pretend to be happy. He smiled and laughed at the meeting, pretending to be cheerful and amiable.
Son. To his surprise, he soon found himself really no longer depressed. What Fred didn't know was that he inadvertently adopted an important new principle in psychological research: pretending to have a certain emotion can often help them really get this feeling-having confidence in difficulties and being happier when they are unhappy.
For many years, psychologists believe that people usually don't change their behavior unless they can change their mood. We often make tearful children say "smile". As a result, the child was really happy after he barely smiled.
Emotional changes lead to behavioral changes. Psychologist Aikman's experiment shows that a person always imagines himself entering a certain situation and feeling a certain emotion, and as a result, that emotion will really come in nine times out of ten. An experimenter who deliberately pretends to be angry will have his heart rate and body temperature rise due to the influence of "role". This discovery of psychological research can help us get rid of bad emotions effectively by "having a beautiful heart".
For example, when a person is sad, he can recall more happy times and encourage himself with a smile. Of course, if you laugh, you should really laugh and think about happy things as much as possible. Reading aloud is also helpful for reading and changing your mood, but you should have an expression when reading, and choose a mood that can cheer you up instead of melancholy. A psychological study shows that upset patients will greatly improve their mood after reading aloud with expressions.
The positive effect of good mood on health is irreplaceable by any medicine; Bad mood is no less harmful to health than any pathogen.
People want to be in joy and happiness. However, life is complicated and changeable, and it often rains but it pours. People who are constantly disappointed, angry, depressed and sad are bound to have health problems and even shorten their lives. So, how to keep a good mood when you are unhappy?
In fact, the "weight" to keep a good mood in daily life is in your hands:
1. Transfer emotions. The road of life is bumpy, and it is inevitable that there will be setbacks and mistakes, as well as troubles and depression. At this moment, we should quickly turn our attention to other aspects. For example, if you encounter something unpleasant at home or quarrel with your relatives, you might as well leave the scene for a while, change the environment, chat with others, or participate in some cultural and sports activities for entertainment. This will soon dilute or even drive away the original bad mood and restore the calm and stability of the mood.
2. look to the future. It is human nature to pursue a bright future, and it is also the driving force for human survival and social progress. Only by looking forward to a bright future forever can we always maintain the spirit of striving for progress. No matter where fate throws itself, we should take it calmly. No matter how cruel the reality is, we must always believe that the difficulties will be overcome, the dawn is ahead, and the future will be better.
Step 3 talk to people. If you are unhappy, but you are bored, you will get sick. If you have depression, you should learn how to talk to people. First of all, you can talk to your friends, which requires learning to make friends. If you always guard against others' "aggression" and don't make friends, there will be no pleasure. Without friends, you will not only have no one to help you when you are in trouble, but also find no one to get rid of. Those who can tell their intimate friends the truth of their sufferings and get comfort and even advice will naturally be as clear as opening a door. Besides, we can talk to our relatives and learn to talk to them about our grievances and unhappiness, which will often make our mood turn from cloudy to sunny immediately.
4. Broaden your interests. Interest is an important condition to protect a good mental state. The wider people's interests, the stronger their adaptability and the less psychological pressure. For example, some people feel that they have nothing to do when they retire from leadership positions, and it is easy to feel useless and abandoned. However, some people think that after retirement, no official is light, so they can make full use of this time to read, write, create, draw, play the piano, dance swords, raise birds, fish, grow flowers and so on. In short, the wider your interests are, the richer, fuller and more energetic your life will be, and you will feel that life is full of sunshine everywhere.
5. Be lenient with others. There are always contradictions between people, and there are also quarrels and entanglements between friends. As long as it's not a big matter of principle, we should be kind to others and be tolerant of others. Never fight for three points without reason, let alone blush with shame and thick neck for some trivial things, or even add fists and feet, which will hurt the gas. It should be the kind of broad-minded and upright character that "any dispute is a corner, so it doesn't hurt to let him walk a few feet." The Great Wall of Wan Li is still there today, but the former Qin Shihuang is not there.
6. Memories of happiness and troubles. In the journey of life, sometimes there are thorns, sometimes there are flowers, sometimes there are worries, and sometimes there are rejoicing. This should be carefully screened, and we should not let those feelings of sadness, desolation, fear, anxiety and hesitation bother us. We should always recall those happy, beautiful and happy past events, so as to make ripples in our hearts and inspire people to explore the future. For those unpleasant things, we should try to erase a lot of troubles from our minds, and we should not let shadows hang over our hearts and lose the motivation to move forward.
7. indifferent to fame and fortune. In real life, some people value fame and fortune. It is difficult to fill the valley with a dragon's hope, and the financial fan is full of official addiction. Some unscrupulous for fame and fortune, once personal goals are not achieved, they are worried and suspicious; Or preoccupied and depressed. Don't be so haggle over every ounce, don't take fame and fortune so seriously, otherwise, it will easily lead to psychological imbalance.
Besides, regular exercise, reasonable diet and good living habits are also very important for keeping a good mood.