Everything parents say and do has a subtle influence on their children. Therefore, parents should pay special attention to their living habits and working methods. Life should be regular, that is, normal eating and living. Children's normal life and study must not be affected by hobbies, so as to create a good, harmonious and caring family atmosphere for children. I should have a high sense of responsibility for my work, be conscientious, abide by the rules and regulations of the unit, respect leaders, unite colleagues and so on. These will be deeply imprinted in children's minds and affect their lives.
Second, as qualified parents, we should cultivate children's good living habits and study habits.
As a child, your good habits are not innate and cannot be formed without training. As soon as children go to primary school, they should make a good schedule of work and rest from Monday to Friday, so that they can have a regular life and know when to do homework, watch TV and play. In terms of study habits, the requirements are more stringent, requiring children to complete homework with good quality and quantity, including written and oral homework. If the inspection fails, they should do it again, no matter how late. After finishing his homework in class, he also wants to read some extracurricular books. On holidays, in addition to doing proper homework, I will accompany my children to participate in some physical exercises every holiday, such as climbing mountains, playing ball games and skating. Sometimes I accompany him to bookstores and libraries to read books. Through less than three years of hard work, children's good living and learning habits have basically taken shape.
Third, as qualified parents, we should cultivate children's moral quality and healthy psychological quality.
When I was a child, I lived in a colorful world as I grew older, and both good and bad things in the world would have an impact on it. As parents, we should pay close attention to children's actions and often have close contact and communication with school teachers. Once you find any bad phenomena, you should follow the trend and educate patiently. It is often self-defeating to force children to accept their parents' opinions only by beating and cursing, and it will also lead to personality deviation unconsciously. I remember once, the teacher called and said that my children and classmates went to the supermarket to steal hot dogs. Knowing this, I really flew into a rage, but I immediately calmed down and went to the school teacher to understand what had happened. Take him home immediately after school, tell him the seriousness of this matter, tell him stories he knows nearby, and tell him stories he doesn't know in newspapers and magazines, so that he can realize his mistakes and correct them. Finally, he cried and said, "Dad, I will definitely correct it in the future. If I make similar mistakes again, how can you punish me? " Since then, children have become more sensible. In addition, today's children are psychologically fragile, especially the only child, who can't stand failures and setbacks. Even if he didn't do well in a unit exam and had a small contradiction with his classmates, the criticism from teachers and parents would be unbearable. To this end, I think children should not live in "praise", but appropriate encouragement is still necessary. Praise should be appropriate. If you hurt your child, it should be in your heart. You should guide children to face the reality bravely, sum up the reasons and learn lessons. Only in this way can you cultivate your child into a good and healthy psychological quality.
Fourth, as qualified parents, we should cultivate children's independent ability.
As parents, we should not spoil our only child too much. It is absolutely not advisable to "open your mouth for food and reach for clothes". We should cultivate independent abilities, including study and life, without dependence. In learning, when encountering problems, let children think independently; In life, do what you can, let them experience labor, enjoy the fun of labor, understand the hardships of parents raising themselves, and cherish their parents. As soon as my children are in the first grade, they wash shoes and socks, schoolbags, red scarves and tidy up desks and rooms. If you don't do well at first, help him deal with it. Up to now, I have been able to make my own simple breakfast and help me mop the floor. Seeing this, as a parent, I feel infinite comfort.
In short, as qualified parents, it is best to adopt a rational and natural attitude to communicate with children and let them report good news and complain. As long as you work harder, the stubborn stone will nod one day. The ideal state of a child is to grow up healthily and become a qualified citizen with quality. At this point, you can be called a qualified parent.
Question 2: How to be a qualified parent and cultivate qualified talents There is a famous saying in the west: "The fate of a country is not so much in the hands of politicians as in the hands of parents, and the hand that pushes the cradle is also pushing the future of mankind." How should parents educate their children? What space and conditions should be provided for children's growth? I think: first of all, we should create a warm, harmonious and rational family atmosphere for our children. The whole family should establish good family relationships, have consistent educational goals for children, be strict with children, and set an example for children everywhere. Secondly, we should care for and help children study hard, give them a comfortable learning environment and cultivate their good study habits. Third, we should cultivate children to develop good moral character, so that they can respect their elders, honor their parents, be honest and upright, and be responsible. Fourth, parents must protect their children's mental health and develop a good personality. These factors are very important for children's healthy growth and will affect and accompany their lives. In modern society, family education, school education and social education are the three indispensable educations in life. In the face of children's growth, many parents think that school is a place to educate people. There are special venues, facilities, courses and teachers who understand education. Therefore, as long as children study hard and listen to the teacher, they are sent to school. Family education is irrelevant, or irrelevant, one-sided and irresponsible. School education is really important, but family education is no exception. In many places, family education is a promotion and transformation of school education in many cases, even exceeding the effect of school education. Because the family is the children's natural school and the parents are the children's first teachers, what parents say and do has a subtle influence on the children. If parents love reading, children will inevitably form good reading habits due to long-term contact. If parents are indifferent to society and others, then the children who have been nurtured for a long time will be indifferent to the collective and classmates ... All these are enough to show that the children's words and deeds are a reflection of family education and a mirror of parents' behavior. It can be seen that family education is very important for a child's healthy growth. So how to be a qualified parent and cultivate qualified talents? An equal, understanding and warm family environment can give children courage and confidence. To overcome children's shyness, there must be such an environment. Don't abuse the authority of parents in front of children. As a parent, you must lead by example in everything, set a good example for your children, and stay in their hearts as an upright person. An upright person should be an upright person, a responsible person, a person who is consistent in words and deeds, a person who is punctual and cherishes time … especially for shy children. In family affairs, especially those related to children, children's opinions should be solicited and respected. With democracy, there is "self-reliance". Good steel is made, excellent children and healthy personality are cultivated. Seed germination needs air, sunshine and water, and the healthy growth of children needs the atmosphere of family democracy. Equality and respect are the life of family democracy. Therefore, children must be respected in the family and treated as equal people. Respect his ideas and listen to his opinions carefully, even if their opinions are childish and immature. We should have full trust in the child, believe in his ambition and believe in his judgment of right and wrong. For example, if you take your child to the park, you should ask the child which park to go to and what to bring to make him feel that he is the organizer and owner of this small garden. In this way, he will appear as a master and build up his self-confidence. In the family, parents should also use more democratic language to their children, such as: "What do you think" and "Is this ok?" If the child does something for you, you should say "thank you!" " "Let children feel that they are equal in the family, which is conducive to overcoming their inferiority complex. In addition, when children make mistakes, they should show their parents' democracy, allow them to defend their actions and feelings, and then give rational help and education after listening clearly and clearly. At this time, simply venting blame and insults is a "self-destruction" of the image of parents, and there will never be any educational gains. A few days ago, one of my students suddenly disappeared after school in the afternoon and didn't go home until dark. Many relatives and friends gathered at home to look around for hours, but they couldn't find him. His mother is crying. Not bad. At ten o'clock in the evening, the children went home by themselves, and everyone was finally relieved. It is thought-provoking to ask the reason afterwards. Usually we only look at scores, not ideological reasons. A few days ago, I tested a unit ... >>
Question 3: How to be a qualified parent A competent parent is not born. In the process of children's growth, parents should be conscientious people everywhere. I am the mother of a child, and I am also a kindergarten teacher. In my dual capacity, combined with my own experience, I will talk about some points that must be paid attention to as a competent parent: 1. As a knowledgeable parent, children are very curious and eager to learn. They want to know a lot from their parents. But if parents always ask questions, they will let their children feel very disappointed. At the same time, it is not conducive to the development of children's early language ability. So it is the key for parents to study and try to answer their children's questions. 2. Spend more time with your children. Some parents often complain that they are too busy to take care of their children, or they always sit in front of the TV when they are free, but put their children aside and pay more attention to TV programs than their children. I think this is wrong. We can think about it: we work all day, and only spend a few hours with our children on weekends and nights. These hours should belong to this family completely. Children ask their parents to play with them for a while, but they are always rejected impatiently. What you refuse is their hearts! If parents stay with TV all the time, they will lack opportunities to play games, read books and go to nature with their children. This will not only lose many opportunities to communicate with children, but also affect children, so that children like watching TV from an early age and are not good at communicating with others. Children's childhood is precious, so parents should spend more time with their children. 3, don't "compare" "You see how capable people are, look at yourself, you are so stupid!" This is a sentence that mothers often say to their children. The child thinks he is very good, and your blame makes him unconvinced and even disgusted. This practice is not good for children's unique personality and self-confidence. Over time, the child felt that he was a stupid child. In fact, every child has unique abilities and interests. We must never ask them according to a standard, but pay attention to their little progress and affirm and encourage them in time. For children who are not as good as others, don't blame or be sarcastic. You can use other advantages to motivate children. You should always say, "You are great, son!" Let the children be themselves. 4. Don't hurt children's self-esteem. In front of guests, children are often more excited and like to show their best strengths. At the same time, some small mistakes are inevitable. This is normal. However, parents think that their children's "madness" makes them lose face, or in order to show that their godson is good, they accuse their children in front of everyone. In fact, children's self-esteem is sometimes stronger than that of adults, and their hearts are relatively fragile. The above practices will cause their strong antipathy, loss of self-confidence and even rebellious psychology. In short, in the process of children's growth, the family is the first classroom for children's enlightenment, and the influence and education of parents are very important. Let's be qualified parents for our children, ourselves and our country! Leave the best education to children!
Question 4: How to become a qualified parent The standard of qualified parents is often to educate children correctly and tap their interests to guide them. The first step is to give children a comprehensive interest test, starting with knowing them.
Question 5: How can qualified parents care for their children, care for their families, set an example, guide their children correctly, and strive to earn money to support their families!
Question 6: How to be a competent parent Many parents want to be a good father and mother in their children's minds, but they often ignore many basic elements. The following suggestions can be consulted: A. Understand the sensitivity of children. A very sensitive child can know whether you are sincere or false. An expression, a compliment, or a look can make a child aware of what his parents think of him, so parents should pay attention to it and face their children with sincere love. B. Children also have self-esteem. Children are also individuals with souls and thoughts. He knows when others humiliate him and make fun of him. Therefore, parents should respect their children and don't criticize them in front of others. When children are willing to share their secrets, parents should be competent listeners and protectors. Don't openly discuss their secrets with others, or their trust in their parents will be greatly reduced. C. Don't cheat the parents of children. In order to get their children's cooperation, they often make some promises that can't be fulfilled. This will make children lose trust in their parents. Don't teach children not to be sheep-herding children, and shout,' Wolf is coming! D. don't compare. Many parents often compare their children with other people's children because they are eager to get better, so that children can learn to work hard. In fact, this will only backfire and put their children under great pressure and blow. In the eyes of God, every child is a different individual and unique. But many children's individual characteristics have been erased by secular standards, and even their biological parents can't give positive influence and protection. Aren't you sad? I believe that your children will step out of their own sky one day. Just because he is inferior to others now does not mean that he will be inferior to others in his future achievements.
Question 7: How can we be a competent parent and pay more attention to children's inner thoughts?
Question 8: How to be a good parent? Generally speaking, children's intelligence factors include attention, observation and memory.
Strength, thinking, imagination and creativity. After more than 20 years of teaching, I found that children can basically be divided into
Four categories, and all have corresponding educational methods. The premise of teaching students in accordance with their aptitude is to know their children.
The first kind of children: children are active and don't concentrate on their studies. They belong to the first three, but the last three can.
The force is stronger. It means that your grades are below average.
The second kind of children: the opposite of the first kind of children. Sensible, introverted and attentive in class. The first three can.
Strong, the latter three abilities may be weak. It means that your grades are above average.
The third kind of children: the development of six abilities is relatively uniform, and individual abilities may be more prominent. Show it
Excellent grades in all subjects.
The fourth kind of children: they belong to a special category. One is: particularly active, suffering from ADHD; in addition
The other is: particularly simple, naive, and psychologically young. It's hard to do things with your heart,
Mainly by interest.
Parents, what kind of children do your children belong to? If you know your children well, you can start the next step-teaching students in accordance with their aptitude.
How to teach students in accordance with their aptitude on the basis of understanding?
Dear parents, every child is unique and is the treasure of parents. Never compare your child with other children often. Every child has a corresponding education method.
The first way to educate children: This kind of children is a headache for both teachers and parents. After many times
Years of practical experience have found that if these children are educated from an early age,
Method, many achievements in the future. Because of their thinking, imagination,
Creative.
The specific measures are: 1, talk to your child more and listen to him or her more.
2. Spend more time with your child, such as doing homework with her (him).
Reading and playing.
The second way of educating children: these children are good children, and both teachers and parents like to learn.
Don't worry your parents. But it's too quiet. I found that this kind of child
Son, although I don't talk much, I have content and ideas in my stomach.
The specific measures are: 1, so that children can express their views and opinions more often, which is enlightening and intentional.
Ask him (her) carefully, ask your child for advice, and if it's not too outrageous, just
Do more according to their ideas, and gradually let children build self-confidence.
2. Let children show their best projects and give more encouragement and praise.
The third way to educate children: these children are excellent in all aspects and are liked by parents and teachers.
Huan. Usually parents pay a lot for the growth of such children. such
Children are used to being excellent forever.
Therefore, parents are advised to:
1: Let children understand and pursue the first one, but the second and third ones should also be accepted. Pursuing success,
And learn to face failure.
2. Teach children that "poverty is the only way to be immune, and reaching for it is also for the good of the world". Always take the initiative to help others.
People, to participate in voluntary labor. Cultivate children's endurance and ability.
The fourth child education method:
1: ADHD children are a mild behavioral disorder. Many of his or her actions are subconscious.
Yes, I can't help myself. There are many reasons: living environment and experience.
And the mother's pregnancy.
Therefore, parents are advised to:
(1), spend more time with children and communicate with them calmly.
(2) Consult relevant doctors and teachers.
2. Children with young psychological age have pure hearts, relaxed living and education environment and large spiritual space.
It is easy to absorb beautiful things, but they study for a short time and rely on interest.
Therefore, parents are advised to:
(1), spend more time with your children and be patient.
(2) The requirements for children are slightly lower. Never compare them with other children of the same age.
Relatively speaking. Multi-purpose ... >>
Question 9: How to be a qualified parent and how to communicate with children to be a qualified parent?
Teaching objectives:
Understand the important role of communication with children and know how to be a qualified parent.
Teaching focus:
Clarify parents' responsibilities and attach importance to family education.
Teaching objectives:
Parents of eighth-grade students
Teaching methods:
Example infection and dialogue teaching method.
Teaching time: one hour (60 minutes)
Teaching process:
First of all, the introduction of the conversation: Good afternoon, dear parents!
It is a great honor to discuss family education with you and serve the healthy growth of children. First of all, please allow me, on behalf of the school, to extend a warm welcome to all of you for taking time out of your busy schedule to participate in this parent-teacher conference in our school, and express my heartfelt thanks to all of you for your concern and support for education.
You are all parents of the eighth grade students. Although we come from different families, our love for our children is the same. We are willing to give our best to our children. Most of the parents here are over 30 years old. In terms of age, you are all parents with new ideas in the new era. I think you must have your own unique methods and experience in educating children. In daily life, our parents have done a lot for their children, but
Have we really achieved the expected educational goals? Let's first look at a social survey background material: (courseware demonstration)
1. Investigation on the current situation of family education in 700 households in Changzhou, Jiangsu Province: the people you dislike the least, among whom parents account for 54.4%.
90% of the 500 manuscripts of "Mom and Dad in My Heart" by Hunan People's Broadcasting Station expressed their dissatisfaction with their parents.
In Shanghai, 90% teenagers are dissatisfied with their parents, 70% students think that their parents don't know themselves, and 34% people don't like their home. The survey in Shanghai shows that 86.4% people are confused about their children's education, and 15% people are very confused and distressed.
4. Beijing Institute of Education conducted a survey of 1242 families, and 70% of the children were not well educated in their families.
These survey statistics really shocked our parents and deserve our deep thought.
Thinking: Why did such a high investment not get the expected return, or even backfired? So many children don't like their parents and hate them. Even in 2000, a boy of 17 years old in Zhejiang province, Xu Li, killed his parents? What is the reason? Yes, the key to the problem lies in parents' educational concepts and methods. Many parents don't know enough about how to be good parents, don't know how to educate and treat their children, or value intelligence over morality, and only care about their children's exam results. Or believe in "filial piety" and educate children to be simple and rude; Or dote on children too much and take care of them in every possible way ... There are many misunderstandings in family education, which have a negative impact on children's minds and will definitely delay their lives. Gorky once said: "loving your child is something that even hens can do, but how to educate him well?"
Son, this is a serious problem. "From this perspective, how to be a parent and how to be a qualified parent requires us to study hard for a lifetime. Today, we will discuss how to be a qualified parent. (Courseware demonstration) Teaching:
Of course, this topic covers a wide range and involves many problems. We can't cover everything through this course. Combined with the characteristics of eighth-grade students, I communicate with you from the following two aspects.
First, parents should have good habits and moral cultivation, teach by example and set an example for their children. Good habits are a necessary condition for success, so whatever we ask our children to do, we must do it first; We will never do anything that children are asked not to do. (Don't play mahjong, watch TV without restraint, behave in a civilized way, respect the elderly ...) Parents are the first people to approach their children. Whether parents realize it or not, your words and deeds are affecting your children. Therefore, parents not only need to have scientific knowledge of family education, but also need to set an example for their children with good behavior habits and lifestyles. If parents are addicted to TV programs all day, it is really hard for their children to believe that reading is more important and beneficial than watching TV. Parents with good habits and noble moral cultivation can guide their children to develop in a healthy direction.
Case: If adults only ask children to obey certain rules, but they can't set an example, then family education will inevitably lose its original weight.
For example, a mother made a strict schedule for her 7-year-old child at home, going to bed at 8 o'clock every night and getting up at 6 o'clock every morning. At first, the child is very obedient, press .................................................................................................................................................................. & gt.
Question 10: Qualifications of Qualified Parents: Ten Suggestions from Excellent American Teachers to Parents in China;
First, praise children as much as possible. Children will be willing to learn only when they have a certain degree of self-confidence. Let children feel that they have made progress in their studies every day, even if they have corrected a shortcoming.
Second, pay more attention to children's learning content and actual progress. Parents should ask their children more about what they have learned recently and how they have mastered it.
Third, often set a few small goals for children that are easy to achieve. This can make the child feel that he can do it, and the child is confident, which is conducive to the child's potential.
Fourth, * * * children's desire to learn. We should seize every opportunity in life to let children practice.
Fifth, help children build a sense of responsibility. Let children learn to wash dishes, wipe handkerchiefs, make beds and tableware, and do their duty well.
Sixth, set an example in front of children.
7. Try not to talk about teachers in front of children, especially not to belittle teachers in front of children.
Eight, formulate family study rules and implement them from beginning to end, thus forming good study habits and work and rest habits.
Nine, guide children to be good at asking questions. Cultivate children and ask why.
Ten, let children pay attention to school, try to avoid the absence of children.
How to cultivate a spiritual child;
First, the education model, "let the top students" become "problem students" with such a girl. When she was in primary school, the teacher gave lectures above and she played below. For this reason, she doesn't know how many times she has been kicked out of the classroom by the teacher. But she was very good, and the teacher kicked her out of the classroom. She happened to watch the ants fight.
Someone asked her why she didn't attend the class. She said, "Well, the teacher said that I can understand some things as soon as I read a book, and I can listen to some things in class, but what about the teacher? It's annoying to talk and practice over and over again! " She was considered a problem student by the teacher at that time.
But it is this problem that students graduated from Beijing No.8 Middle School with excellent results and went to the United States to study undergraduate courses. One year later, they stood out because of their excellent results. Ranked among the best in a chemistry competition in the United States. After graduating from college, seven or eight famous universities sent invitations. Finally, she chose MIT as a graduate student.
This example reflects the disadvantages of traditional education in schools at present. Traditional education is a model education to a great extent. They ignore children's personality differences, set unified goals for students, use the same textbooks, do the same exercises, require the same pace, and use the same test papers. This will inevitably lead to top students not having enough to eat. Forcing children to speak and practice again and again will only make them feel uncomfortable, produce weariness, make their curiosity and initiative to learn disappear, and lose their original spirituality. It is good to cultivate a learning machine with high scores and low energy.
The girl was lucky enough to enter the junior class of Beijing No.8 Middle School, which is famous for being good at cultivating children with extraordinary intelligence. The relaxed learning environment can give full play to children's character strengths and make this problem student become an excellent student.
Second, relax the environment and give full play to children's personality advantages.
There is another boy in Beijing No.8 Middle School who didn't like doing homework in primary school. His reason is: "Homework is just for us to practice. I see, why do you still do it? " Her mother went to consult the teacher first, and the teacher didn't agree that the child could stop doing it when he was ready. Later, my mother imitated my son's calligraphy and helped him with his homework every day. Mother thinks that repetitive work will stifle children's creativity. It is said that it is this child who makes the teacher in the child's class set a "rule": children who pass the teacher's exam can not do their homework.
More interestingly, this boy has a little cousin who was as clever as him when he was a child. In the past, my younger brothers had more ways to see who climbed the wall, and the result was neck and neck. But my cousin often writes a wrong word in his homework and is fined 100 times. Later, his energy was confiscated by this punishment.
The more exercise, the better. The sea tactics may make children get high scores in a short time, but it will increase their burden. Children's homework should aim at mastering knowledge and review appropriately to deepen their impressions. Because the homework assigned by the school is based on most students, children can be allowed not to do homework on the premise that they have mastered the knowledge. Don't force children to do those simple and repetitive questions, which will wear away their learning advantages as defects and lead them to be tired of learning. Doing fewer questions can make children focus on developing their learning ability, and their stamina will be great. To do this, there must be equality ... >>