First, respect.
The first thing is to have respect. What is emotional disrespect? That is, you worked so hard to stay up late to make a photo puzzle for him, thinking that he would like it, but he said that he had nothing to do all day, so why do these boring things? What is emotional disrespect? That is, you dressed up for the annual meeting of the company, won the annual excellent employee award, won the appreciation of someone at the place, and proudly shared it with him when you got home, but he said impatiently, you don't know how to take care of your family if you show up, and your salary is short. Although equality between men and women is advocated now, it is unlikely that women can't eat at the table, but respect for feelings should be that you can see my intentions, and you can recognize my value instead of attacking and despising my efforts?
Second, communication.
The second is communication. Many people will think that they should understand me if they love me, but no one is a worm in each other's stomach. You have 65,438+0,000 ideas and changes a day. How could he guess? Silence when encountering problems, cold-blooded. In this high-pressure state, he is even more afraid to make a move. He can't guess what you are thinking. Finally, if you don't understand, I don't care and it's not suitable to accuse him and raise the contradiction to a new height. Isn't it a pity?
Third, reciprocity.
As the saying goes, a good relationship will make both sides better themselves. I still advocate that women should be reserved from the beginning, while boys should take the initiative, but this does not mean that girls can appreciate each other's efforts coldly and even test their patience. Unilateral efforts, after a long time, are a kind of consumption. If you can understand each other's difficulties, give each other warm feedback, and spend your energy on progress instead of intrigue, your relationship will last longer.
Fourth, we must have trust.
Without trust, life will be busy and people will be nervous. I was very happy to attend a friend's party, because I had to set an alarm clock to remind myself every half hour and send him a video to report my trip. How can I enjoy this relaxing moment? In addition, if a person wants to cheat, or has any crooked ideas, it is useless to follow a private detective. Why don't you relax? He still can't bear to get along with you. In short, love should be two-way, run by the same company, not unilaterally oppressed, right?