If it is because of some restrictions in learning, no matter how to improve your ability, you can only stop somewhere, so you must accept it frankly. Because everyone must have their own shortcomings.
Mom often hears people say that children in the first grade of primary school can usually finish their homework in about half an hour if the teacher doesn't deliberately toss about. But this situation is not feasible for most children.
Usually it takes children several times to do their homework, and it may not be completed. This makes the mother very headache, and time almost binds the child to death, and nothing can be done.
When attending kindergarten, parents often have not clearly felt their children's procrastination. After the average child enters primary school, homework, assessment and examination papers follow, and they will immediately "show their true colors".
So, what should parents do if their children are procrastinating in their homework?
Psychologists say that children procrastinate.
-master the child's distraction.
When we clearly know that the child's concentration quality is not good, the first key is to let him have self-knowledge and understand his state of concentration. Children must know what they should do now, whether they have been attracted by irrelevant things, and whether they can turn around and come back immediately.
If the concentration can't go back, the things that should be done will always be put aside, so parents must fully understand the quality of their children's concentration and his distraction. Among them, the reasons that may lead to children's distraction are as follows:
First, visual interference.
Some children's weakness is that they are easily disturbed by visual stimuli. Too many irrelevant things in front of them often take away their concentration. At this time, please remove irrelevant things, so that the desktop and study space can be kept simple and refreshing, and there is nothing extra except essential items.
Does the messy desktop induce children's creativity? Parents are requested to put this idea aside. Unless the child is prolific at ordinary times, finish the task on time. Otherwise, the messy desktop will only bring more distractions and delays to children.
Second, auditory interference.
Some children have weak control over auditory stimuli. As long as there is some irrelevant sound interference, it is easy to interrupt what is going on, and the longer it takes.
For such children, we can keep them in a moderately quiet atmosphere as much as possible during the learning process. Parents also need to eliminate irrelevant stimuli, which helps them to continue to focus on what they should do.
Third, create a good learning environment.
Instead of constantly complaining about children's inattention, it is better to spend some time to create a situation suitable for children to concentrate on their studies.
However, this appropriate situation has to vary from person to person, because different things themselves will produce individual differences.
Regarding the creation of situations, if you don't have a clue at the moment, you can start with your parents' own experiences, observe what kind of situations can maintain good quality concentration, and then extract key elements from them and apply them to children.
The situation that can make people concentrate may be: good sound insulation, clean desktop, limited stationery, corner study, etc. Let's put these elements into children's learning situations and observe their concentration. When the quality of concentration is improved, the problem of procrastination will also be improved.
Fourth, take "non-verbal" reminders.
We may often complain: "The child's heart has flown away again." "His attention was distracted again." Should I remind my children aside?
When we decide to remind him, we can take a "nonverbal" reminder. Reduce the way you use words, especially those that are too vague, for example, "you concentrate!" " ""What are you doing! " "Why do you stay! "These conversations will not help to improve children's concentration, but will only have the opposite effect.
When the child is distracted, you can try to knock on the desktop and give an "hmm" as a hint at most.
Fifth, pay attention to the state.
Observe the time a child spends on each activity and understand his attention span-a child who is inattentive always stays in an activity for a short time.
The child's three-minute fever often touches the east and touches the west, and runs to do other things halfway, which makes many things fall by the wayside and has no concrete results.
This is usually the first symptom of attention problems. So parents need to pay special attention to observation.
When this happens, parents may wish to let their children concentrate on one thing as much as possible and keep it for a while.
The length of time depends on the child's attention duration. It can be set to fifteen minutes at first, and then it can be gradually extended for fifteen minutes according to the child's performance and situation.
Sixth, pay attention to changing attention.
The so-called alternating attention refers to the ability to smoothly transfer attention from one activity to another. For example, children are required to play online games after finishing a period of homework. Can attention return to homework smoothly after ten minutes?
Sometimes it's easy for children to jump away from what's in front of them, just like when we are halfway through, we will open Weibo, leave a message, like it, and then go back to WeChat. It's natural to switch halfway, but it's not easy to switch back smoothly.
As long as there is one more thing, you have to face the psychological wear and tear caused by switching between different jobs. It seems busy, but in fact it's in vain.
Even adults will naturally stop when they encounter difficulties. It is harmless and necessary to jump out of a situation occasionally. The point is, can the child's concentration come back smoothly? How long does it take for each conversion? These problems are all related to "switching attention".
Please pay attention to whether the child's transition between things is smooth and clean.
Every transition is an unnecessary distraction. When children are too attractive to change things in the past, such as playing games, it will be more difficult to pull them back to their original activities, such as doing homework, and the habit of procrastination will worsen.
The more times you change, the easier it is for your heart to get tired. Going back to the next activity often takes more time to adjust. Therefore, when we find that children have poor conversion attention, please give them the necessary restrictions and tell them that they can only do one activity at a time.
Seven, the scope of judgment ability
If the child is familiar with several specific units, such as the seventh-grade mathematical rational number unit, it is advisable to give him a test of this unit to observe his ability to complete and whether the time spent is reasonable.
Track whether children procrastinate in every subject. If it only happens in a single subject, such as Chinese and English, and mathematics needs more time, it is necessary to further measure whether it is on a mathematical basis or concept.
Parents should also remind themselves that not every child is good at all fields or units. Difficult content, of course, takes a long time.
If parents are worried that children's procrastination is caused by concentration problems, generally speaking, children with attention deficit or difficulties will usually be affected in their academic performance, which can be used as daily observation indicators.
Eight, force him, it is better to teach him.
When children do their homework, they often get stuck in obstacles and waste a lot of time.
When the core reason of children's procrastination is their own lack of ability, it is better to try to teach them than to let them waste their time.
For example, when doing a math test, if the child is stuck in the seventh question and can't continue, we might as well guide him to jump to the next question first, and then return to the seventh question after all the questions are finished.
If he still can't do it, it's time to teach him one-on-one
Have you mastered all the above eight methods? Does your child usually have the habit of having a fever of 3 minutes? Will there be these bad behaviors? Let's discuss it together.