1. The significance of children's mental health education
Mental health education is closely related to moral education. When we emphasize that ideological and moral quality is the "soul" of comprehensive quality, school moral education is obviously in an extremely important position. Mental health education can't be independent of moral education, and it is more an activity to form personality characteristics from the inside. The improvement of children's ideological and political level and the cultivation of good behavior habits require schools to strengthen moral education, but some children's understanding or behavior habits are not only manifested as ideological and moral problems, but also reflect psychological problems in most cases. If we only emphasize the external socialization requirements in education without psychological counseling to promote children's inner world to form their personality characteristics, it often has little effect. For example, from a macro point of view, patriotism and collectivism education are the basic contents of moral education, and it is very necessary for children to form a good ideological and moral level through the implementation of these education. How to internalize this socialization requirement into children's quality and form a complete personality needs to be guided from children's psychological reality. If you want to cultivate children's healthy psychology, you must grasp the reasons why parents attach importance to children's mental health.
2. Why should parents pay attention to their children's mental health?
It is the unshirkable responsibility of all parents to pay attention to their children's mental health and clear away psychological obstacles for their growth. Real life fully shows that a person who is full of vitality, confidence and optimism about life is often healthy. On the contrary, a person who is negative, pessimistic, depressed, anxious and loses confidence in life is prone to illness and aging. Therefore, mental health has an important impact on physical health, and mental health is an important guarantee for physical health. People with mental health generally show relaxed, happy and optimistic mood, which can not only enhance people's memory and interest in learning, but also make people's thinking active. Especially in the period when children are learning knowledge, if children are in a good emotional state for a long time, they will not only be energetic in learning, but also have excellent grades and high intelligence. People with unhealthy psychology are anxious and depressed, which will lead to cognitive impairment, slow response, slow thinking and memory decline. This will not only affect the normal development of children's intelligence, but also hinder the development of intelligence in the long run. Eliminating bad emotions and maintaining a healthy mental state are important guarantees for strengthening intellectual activities and promoting intellectual development.
Children with mental health can adjust quickly after receiving bad stimulation, and generally do not have bad psychological reactions such as inferiority, indifference, loneliness, conceit and paranoia, and do not form personality defects. Children with mental health can spend adolescence more smoothly. Education experts point out that adolescence is an important period for people's physical and mental development. A healthy child should not only have a strong body, but also have a healthy mind. The World Health Organization puts forward: "Health means not only the absence of disease, but also the healthy development of physical, psychological and social adaptability. Therefore, it is particularly important to pay attention to children's mental health and prevent mental illness. We regard physical and mental development as a whole. If a child has a healthy body but no healthy psychological quality, he is still a "sound" person.
Mental health can not only make children healthy, but also make children full of enthusiasm and confidence in life and study, so that children have good personality characteristics, but in fact many personality characteristics actually reflect a person's ideological and moral character. For example, love the collective, help others, be compassionate, have a sense of justice, be impartial and so on. Therefore, to cultivate children's good ideological and moral character, we must let them have a healthy psychology. Mental health is an important guarantee to improve children's physique and personality.
3. Children's mental health standards
1. Normal intelligence is the basic requirement. His mood is relatively stable and harmonious. Generally speaking, he has a positive and optimistic mood, generally showing an optimistic attitude and a state of full confidence in life.
3. He has good social adaptability and good interpersonal relationship, is willing to associate with others and help others, and can adapt to the changes of environment and interpersonal relationship in study and life.
This child has a good self-awareness and can know himself correctly. He should know his own advantages as well as some shortcomings. He also knows that he is interested in his specialty, that he is realistic and has development goals for himself.
A mentally healthy child should have a sound personality, be relatively cheerful, honest and able to overcome difficulties, and the whole behavior conforms to social norms.
6, can have a certain moderate reaction ability, when he suddenly encountered some special changes, have a certain adaptability, can correctly treat the real situation.
4. How do parents cultivate their children's healthy psychology?
First, cultivate children's goodwill. Love is a child's nature. He should not only get the love and attention of others, but also learn to love his parents, relatives and friends. So parents should educate their children to love their parents and their loved ones. Bill Gates, the richest man in the world, once said, "The last thing I want to wait for is to honor my parents." Parents can set March as the month to honor their parents, let their children prepare gifts for their parents' or relatives' birthdays, order their favorite dishes when eating out, and choose dishes for their parents. Second, cultivate children's compassion. Children are the most compassionate and willing to help others, but this kind of emotion needs the guidance and cultivation of parents or family members, so that they can feel the feelings of others and feel their happiness, pain, trouble and disappointment. For example, if parents, grandparents or relatives are hospitalized, they will take their children to the hospital to visit and participate in various charitable donation activities.
Third, cultivate children's sense of responsibility. Everyone should have a sense of responsibility, but it is not innate. So parents should cultivate their children's sense of responsibility from an early age. Parents can educate their children to do their own things, such as cleaning the room and school supplies, preparing their own food for travel, and raising their favorite animals.
Fourth, cultivate children's sense of obligation. Some people may say that the child is underage. What are their obligations? In fact, children have all kinds of obligations when they live in a group. Have the obligation to clean the classroom in class and participate in housework at home. How to cultivate this sense of obligation? The author thinks that parents can teach their children to do housework, make a plan for them to do housework, ask them to complete a certain amount of housework every week, or give them a specific task. Only in this practical operation can we cultivate their sense of obligation.
Fifth, cultivate children's frustration. Modern families have superior material conditions. Some children live a life of "clothes to reach out, food to mouth", and there is a little trouble or difficulty in life, which often cannot be handled well. In order to avoid the difficult situation that children may encounter in the future, parents can create some setbacks for their children from time to time, so that children can face some small setbacks from time to time and learn to deal with them themselves.
Sixth, cultivate children's happiness In 2004, at the children's health care meeting held in Nanjing, an expert pointed out, "After investigation, it is shocking that 80% of children now feel unhappy." Nowadays, children have excellent family living conditions and their parents love them very much, but why can't they feel happy? Because happiness is a feeling, parents need to guide their children to understand and inspire them to experience. In daily life, parents can discuss with their children what happiness is, and also let their children experience the hardships of life in specific situations, so that children can learn to cherish the existing life.
5. Overprotection will affect children's mental health.
1. Overprotection hinders the development of children's independence. Children will feel inferior because of their parents' overprotection, afraid of challenges, and lead to their inexperience. When an overprotected child reaches the age of growing up, it always makes people feel that he has not grown up. You can't stand on your own feet when you are 30 years old, and you will panic without your elders. Overprotection suppresses children's thirst for knowledge and enthusiasm for learning, but it is also not conducive to the development of personality. Studies have proved that excessive protection will make children too dependent, poor interpersonal skills, lack of self-confidence, poor self-care ability, timidity, poor physical flexibility and so on. It will be that children feel that they are worse than others everywhere, can't integrate with their peers, gradually lose self-confidence and are not interested in anything. 2, excessive protection, so that children lack tempering in the process of growth, easy to cause children's weakness, occlusion, timidity, incompetence, and gradually develop a timid character, while erecting a wall between children and society, children are invisibly far away from society, and it will be difficult to adapt to society when they grow up. Therefore, children who grow up under excessive protection will encounter many problems in society.