When we were young, we didn't know love. We don't think he is allowed to smoke because he doesn't have lung cancer. He is not allowed to drink to protect his liver; He is not allowed to watch TV and surf the internet all night to ensure sleep; In order to prevent him from neglecting his career and achieving nothing, he is not allowed to play cards and eat with his friends.
If we love him, we should give him some space. We can't deprive him of his hobbies and freedom because of love. Men smoking and drinking, just like women shopping and dressing, is a kind of heartfelt happiness. Without it, men are not very happy. Therefore, if you are not addicted to smoking and drinking, if it will not affect your health, then light a fire for him when you smoke and have two drinks with him when you drink! Maybe you will find that his happiness is actually your happiness-
What a man likes, just stay with him. Stay in his arms, watch him laugh, watch him crazy, and watch him frustrated. You stay with him. Don't complain Maybe he forgot you at that time, so that you fell asleep, and he didn't even know it. But when he's finished, he will definitely hug you gently. If a man falls in love with the internet, let him go to the internet bar. Sometimes, a man can find a sense of accomplishment and heroism in the network, and people always have a little spiritual sustenance. Of course, men need friends. As long as he doesn't get together with friends every night, you should be happy for him. A person with friends will not be lonely or paranoid. Don't be jealous of his friends. Don't say that you are not as important as his friends. A person's life, in addition to love and affection, he also needs friendship-
When we have it, we don't understand love, and we tend to treat closeness as alienation. We will find that the man we love is good to everyone. He can have a cordial conversation with strangers in the car; Seeing the old man, he will enthusiastically give up his seat; He greets everyone he knows on the road; He seems to keep everything in mind outside, but for us, he is so easily overlooked. He will forget your birthday, he will forget to go shopping with you, and even after the holiday, he will fall asleep and he won't even talk to you. You will wonder, why, why is this person good to everyone but me? He can chat with his friends until late at night. Why can't he say anything to me? Why can he watch TV with me? He says he wants to sleep when he is tired. Honey, don't think so. He is kind and considerate to everyone, because he has a distance from them. A man is vain, he wants to save face, and he also wants to socialize. And you, you are his lover, in his eyes, you are one of our own, and he doesn't have to live so tired in front of you. Therefore, you have to understand that men ignore you and actually treat you as one of their own. So don't complain that he ignores you. Remember, as long as he can hold your hand when talking with others kindly and hold your body tightly when sleeping at night, then you don't have to torture yourself. You have to believe that he loves you as himself-
When we have it, we don't understand love, and we tend to regard willfulness as coquetry. If you love someone, you have the right to say, "Don't wear that dress, it looks terrible." Wear this one. It's my new one for you. "Zhang Xiaofeng said in" Women's Love ". In fact, many women are so overbearing and willful in front of men. We think that if we love him, we have the right to want him this way, not that way. We think that if we love him, we can go through his pockets, read his chat records and check his emails. We think that if we love him, of course we can vent our emotions in front of him without hiding-
We can be overbearing and willful. As long as our overbearing can make him feel our dependence and our arbitrary performance makes him happy, then all emotions are lovely coquetry: in the silent night, you refuse to sleep in his arms, which is coquetry; It's coquetry to let him carry you when he is tired of walking. When he is angry, you shake his arm and kiss his face, all of which are coquetry. In short, coquetry is the spice of love, the natural expression of intimacy and love, and coquetry is by no means the fuse of quarrel. When our coquetry becomes stubborn, when our willfulness becomes unreasonable, when our love becomes distrust. Honey, love will drift away from us-
When we have it, we don't understand love, and it's easy to take doubt as ridicule-
We love him, really, this kind of love can even go deep into the bone marrow. We think this man is the best in the world. We think that the man we love will be liked by other women. So, we put him in our mouth for fear of melting, and held him in our hands for fear of breaking. We don't know how to cherish. We become anxious and nervous-
Because I love him, I am afraid of losing. We are afraid that if we are not careful, he will be abducted by some woman. As a result, we began to lose ourselves and become sensitive and suspicious-
If we love him, we must trust him. Only by trusting him can you be happier. Because you feel happy, you will love him more and he will love you more. And once doubt is implanted in your heart, your love will disappear little by little. Because, you always think the worst of him, naturally, psychologically suggesting that you are getting away from him day by day. You suffer in pain, you hurt yourself and your lover. Love is not possession, but tolerance, understanding and consideration-
In the Chinese divorce, Lin Xiaofeng finally understood this truth. She said: Love needs ability. Because I didn't have this ability, I failed, so the person I love left me so desperately-
Love needs ability. That ability is to make the person you love love you-