The healthy development of sex includes the healthy development of sexual physiology. Everyone should know their own sex organs, know how to clean their genitals correctly and how to protect their health.
But in real life, most girls don't know the correct way to wipe after defecation, and boys don't know how to turn over the foreskin to clean the genitals. If a person's genitals are often infected or sick, it will affect this person's health and even the relationship between husband and wife.
Once, I gave a lecture in a school. There is a high school boy of 16 years old. His father never taught him the correct way to clean his genitals, so he was afraid to tell his parents after genital infection. I persisted for a week, and the genital infection was very serious before I told my father about it. It can be seen from such things that children's knowledge of sexual physiology is really lacking.
The second level: the healthy development of sexual psychology.
The healthy development of sex includes the healthy development of sexual psychology. I once met a case where a woman refused to let her husband touch her body for half a year after marriage, and her marriage was in trouble. I asked her why she didn't let her husband touch her body. She told me, "My mother told me from an early age that men should not touch my body. If a man touches my body, he is a hooligan to me. Therefore, whenever my husband wants to touch me, I feel sick, and my mother's words will ring in my ears. I can't accept him playing hooligans on me. "
Mother's teaching destroyed this woman's healthy emotional psychology of both sexes, and unhealthy sexual psychology led to problems in marriage. We all hope that our children will be happy in the future, and the happiness of marriage is an important part of a person's happiness. Helping children to establish healthy sexual psychology is the foundation of their future marriage happiness.
The third level: the healthy development of sexual values.
Children's sexual values should conform to the mainstream social health values. The mainstream social values in today's society include two of a kind, responsibility, not hurting others, obeying the law and other elements. Such sexual values can ensure our health and pleasure in sexual relations.
The fourth level: the healthy development of sexual communication ability.
The ability of sexual communication is the most lacking ability in China. In our traditional culture, there is no culture of sexual communication between husband and wife. Whenever there is a problem in the husband and wife's sexual life, which leads to tension in the relationship, it is difficult for both sides to talk about sexual problems, but to vent their dissatisfaction with each other with other problems, which leads to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife.
There was once a case that when a husband needed sex, his wife only needed him to touch, kiss and hug, and let him leave when he was satisfied.
Later, my husband didn't go home to sleep, but let himself sleep in the lunch bed at work, not because he didn't love his wife, but because he was worried that one day he would be unable to control his impulse after being asked to caress you. Not going home to sleep is afraid that his wife will seduce him and not satisfy him, which will cause contradictions and conflicts between the two sides. He actively avoided such conflicts.
In this case, the wife simply doesn't understand why her husband treats her like this, and her husband has never told her how he feels in sexual life. This shows us the marital problems caused by the lack of sexual communication ability.
If we understand that children's sexual health development is an important guarantee for their future happiness, then children should be cared and helped by adults at every stage of their sexual development-germination, germination, flowering and fruition. In this way, we can expect children's sexual development to bear healthy and fruitful fruits.