A healthy person who can take care of himself has lived for a long time and outsiders feel very happy. Their children and families will also bless themselves. If your long life drags others down, then living too long is a heavier burden for others. This kind of longevity, which adds burden to others, is definitely not blessed. When future generations regard you as a thorn in their side, what happiness can they enjoy? Living too long in this situation is definitely something that will disgust future generations and make them suffer.
If you live without burdening others, future generations will be filial to you. Of course, you also want to live longer, enjoy your children and grandchildren, and see the happiness of your family. But there is such a thing in life, because people who live too old are good to themselves, but they don't want to live any longer. This is an old man in Indonesia who has been reported for several years. It is said that he lived 140 years old and had nearly 100 children and grandchildren. He has married several wives himself and has always been in good health. But in the end, he was painfully unwilling to regenerate. When you are sick. He refused to be treated by his descendants. Later, in order to die at an early date, he chose a hunger strike and ended his life in this way.
We all regard it as a good thing, but it is a great pain for him. He said that he had lived too long and that he had seen too many people closest to him leave him. This kind of pain of losing the closest relatives makes his life worse than death. He not only sent white-haired people to black-haired people, but also sent black-haired people for generations. Today's grandchildren are very kind to themselves. After all, he is a descendant of several generations, and his feelings are not so deep for him. Before I saw it, all the people who grew up together, even those much younger than themselves, were lost after several generations. That inner loneliness and pain is really painful.
So this kind of living for too long has added a lot of pain to myself, but it is helpless and not a kind of happiness.
Life has a life, and wealth is in the sky. If you pursue something unilaterally, you will lose more than you gain.
Is it a blessing or a curse that people live too long? Many people have this saying, as long as you can take care of yourself and not drag down the next generation, you can live as long as you are blessed. Is that really the case? I don't think so. A little biased. Let me get straight to the point: when an old man lives to be nearly a hundred years old, his or her children are nearly 80 years old, and the youngest is 70 years old. Even if the elderly can take care of themselves, how can they be completely at ease as the next generation? A person gets old before his feet get old. After all, he (she) has tired feet and needs people around him. Some people with good conditions may go to nursing homes with high fees, and those with better conditions may find a nanny to take care of them one by one, but in any case, the next generation will visit them every once in a while. Children aged 70-80 sit with the elderly. Outsiders look like a group of old people with bad eyes and can't tell who is who. Therefore, as a child, having a centenarian at home is very stressful. As long as the old man is here, children can't relax. In addition, the old man is slightly uncomfortable in the nursing home, and the hospital will call his children immediately. At this time, no matter how busy it is, the nanny will get a raise every year. As soon as she opens her mouth, she will pay 500 yuan, and she will leave without permission. This makes the next generation uneasy, which can be said to be unspeakable. As for some people, as long as they can take care of themselves, they can live as long as they are 120 years old, which is still a blessing at home. I think it's easy to talk standing up, but I don't understand it myself. Then once the old man is over 95 years old, it can only be a curse to the next generation, but it is different in size.
Tell you the answer with the experience of my husband and an old man in the village!
Li Shu is an honest man, an intellectual, and his first half of life is particularly beautiful! Once a soldier, once a factory! It's a pity that there is a disappointing son who idles around every day and doesn't go to work. Anyway, there is plenty of money at home. Li Shu's work is so busy that he has no time to take care of the children. His wife died of cancer when the children were 10 years old, but before his death, he loved his son in every way and gave him everything he wanted, which led to his son's character as a playboy.
It is not easy for Li Shu to be both a father and a mother, but his son is not close to him at all, and he is too nagging to listen to his son's reason. Instead, it has intensified.
Later, I dropped out of junior high school without finishing school, and several years passed.
Li Shu asked his son to help in the factory and learn management, but he was too lazy to take care of those things. He plays in the same village with several gangsters every day.
Later, the customer introduced an object to his son. When people saw that he was rich, they agreed. It can be said that "it is not that one family does not enter one household." Daughter-in-law married him to enjoy happiness. She is really a gold digger.
Later, due to poor management, Li Shu's factories slowly began to slump, and life can only be said to be making do! It is really hard for him to go back and forth between the factory and home every day.
Once, I fainted directly in the factory and went to the hospital. I was rescued, but I can only lie in bed from now on. We all went to see him when he was paralyzed. When my mother-in-law and I went, only the nanny was at home, and my son and daughter-in-law didn't see him. Uncle Li is usually very nice and approachable, and he didn't treat us coldly because of the gap between the rich and the poor. It's polite to laugh every time. I feel that he is very different this time, with despair on his face and helplessness in his eyes. Looking at us is also a forced smile, we don't want him to pretend to be so tired, sit for a while and leave.
Later, I heard from my mother-in-law that her son had been to the factory several times, and when he went there, he wanted to find financial support, but he didn't dare to give it. After all, this factory will be his in the future. Later, Li Shu couldn't even speak clearly. I had to let my son handle it. He really took care of it. A year later, the assistant found Li Shu. Only then did he know that his son had sold the factory and his assistant had been dismissed. He also threatened him not to tell Li Shu.
Li Shu's anger and vomiting blood is, after all, his life's work. Neighbors advised him not to be so angry, but how could he not be angry? I am like this, my son and daughter-in-law don't care about themselves, and my family is also a loser.
My son swore as soon as he got home. Fortunately, Li Shu has some savings of his own, otherwise, life would be impossible. We went back to our hometown the other day and visited him by the way. His hair is all white, unlike the energetic Li Shu before.
Life is so ups and downs, things have changed! Nanny said that at one time, Li Shu went on a hunger strike and wanted to end his life. But he used to be very kind to the nanny, and the nanny advised him to relax and enlighten him every day. Now he is much better, but he never laughs, but he never loses his temper with the nanny.
In fact, the longer people live at this point, the more painful they are. If Li Shu is not a good man and has financial security, how sad will his life be if he doesn't meet this nanny? How unfortunate. "There is no filial son before the bed for a long time", which means a life like Li Shu! If you are strong, you can take care of yourself no matter how long you live. Once the body collapses, you can only rely on others, and living for a long time is a kind of pain.