In fact, a person has different troubles at every age. You envy those retired people who don't work. They can play cards and dance square dance every day, but many old people are not as healthy as before, or even sick. You envy those young people who are energetic, carefree and have higher education than you, but they have insufficient work experience in the workplace, and many people have not found a suitable platform; You envy your children for being naive and growing up under the care of their parents, but you are also worried when you study, especially those children with poor academic performance, who are ashamed to see their parents and are very depressed.
When you learn to put yourself in the other's shoes and adjust the perspective of life, you will find that people of every age have different troubles and different happiness. A person will get better and better in the future as long as he sticks to his happy life and grows old slowly. You have to believe that society is constantly developing, everything will be better and there will be no retrogression. As long as you follow the pace of social development, life and family will advance with the progress of society. If you just stand still, don't want to change yourself, or even run counter to the development of society, then your life will get worse and worse, and the older you get, the worse you will be.
When people reach middle age, men should keep the following "Five Blessingg" to avoid the bleak evening scenery. What a person will look like in the future and whether he will be happier is in his own hands. As the saying goes, "Three points depend on God's will, and seven points depend on hard work." You should have a good vision of life and keep your blessings.
Many middle-aged people get angry because of a little dissatisfaction and complain that society is not good to them. God has no eyes, and the more they complain, the more painful they feel that life has fallen into a bottomless trap. Actually, it's useless to complain. It won't change anything, but it will affect your good mood.
A person, rather than complaining, is better to change actively. All your sufferings will become a fortune, even if you don't get money, you will get life experience. When a person loses, it is actually to improve his endurance, hold back his temper and control his emotions, and then he will get good luck in life.
A person who is mixed up in society and calculated by a villain is definitely unhappy and wants to get back at him, but the more you get back at the villain, the worse you will be. The villain will use despicable means to deal with you, and you will "deal with a man as he deals with you", then you will also become a villain and use despicable means. If you let the villain go and make a clean break with him, you will live more and more easily. The benefits calculated by the villain, you should be a summary of experience and lessons.
Middle-aged men, "losing money is a blessing", are unwilling to lose money in middle age, and lose money when they are old. That is really a bleak future. What you are suffering now is a blessing you will enjoy in the future. Measure for measure, what is lost will come back in another form.
Uncle Wu in our community is seventy-three years old. He lives alone in the garage and leads a lonely life. He was married twice and then divorced. The reason for the divorce is that Uncle Wu did not devote himself wholeheartedly to his wife when he was young and had an extramarital affair. Uncle Wu opened a furniture factory in middle age, and his business was booming, but he looked down on his wife when he had money. He always thinks that finding a young woman as a wife will make him face and deserve him.
Because Uncle Wu is divorced and the children seldom come to see him, he is always alone. Worst of all, in the second divorce, all his property was taken away by his wife, and he has been poor ever since. The garage where he lives now is rented. Although the rent is cheap, it is small and humid. Every spring and winter, the garage is damp. Uncle Wu's rheumatism is very serious, and he often can't walk for days. He relied on his neighbors to send him some leftovers to eat.
Middle-aged men should know that "a wife is a blessing". A man who loses his partner will become more and more lonely when he is old. Some men quarreled with their wives when they were young, but they didn't divorce. They are old and have a companion who is taken care of when they are sick. Such a day is also happy. Also, a man's career development is inseparable from his wife's help. As the saying goes, "husband and wife are United, and their profits are broken." With the help of his wife, a man's career is getting better and better, and he will be happier in his later years.
Some people say, "Children are the people who come to ask for your debts." Middle-aged men with heavy family burdens often find their children annoying. Some men give their children to their wives regardless of their study life.
Whether children are good to their parents depends largely on the exchange of feelings. For example, a man who works outside all the year round will feel strange to his children when he returns home; If you don't go home for several years, it is estimated that the children won't recognize you. Those men who often accompany and educate their children have established deep feelings with them, and they will be better filial to them when they grow up.
Some men, because they are incapable, don't send their children to school and force them to work. As we all know, this practice will turn their father and son against each other. If you are old and your children don't care, it will be a bleak night scene. Therefore, it is a happy thing for middle-aged men to spend more money and energy.
Some middle-aged people have developed some bad habits of smoking, drinking, gambling and staying up late, thinking that they are still young and it doesn't matter what they do. But what he didn't know was that he lost his health and everything. Without a healthy body, work is listless and even dismissed by the unit; Entrepreneurship will also lead to poor management because of poor health, and finally entrepreneurship will fail.
My cousin, Gu Zhijun, runs a wood processing factory with an annual income of more than 100,000 yuan. But he hangs out in the casino every day, plays mahjong all night, and smokes and drinks in his room, which is full of smoke. Last winter, he suffered from severe pneumonia. He stayed in the hospital for more than two months and spent tens of thousands of dollars. When he was discharged from the hospital, he found that the wood processing factory lost hundreds of thousands because no one was in charge. This is "the house leaks and it rains all night." If he doesn't actively change his bad habits and exercise, then his life will collapse.
Middle-aged men, no matter how hard and tired they are, should plan their own time, exercise more, correct bad habits and live a healthy life. This is the blessing. If you lose your health at this time, it will be more painful in old age, and dragging your sick body every day is a bleak future.
Middle-aged men, the greater the pressure, the more troubles. Many people, because their careers are unsuccessful, live very confused; Some people often do immoral things, even violate the law and discipline, because they have made some irresponsible friends. Some people feel that life is hopeless because they have desires in their hearts.
Everyone needs to be alone. Only when he is alone, will he think about himself, calm his mind, find his ideal and firm his direction in life. As long as you live without confusion, you will be full of confidence.
Middle-aged men, "being alone is a blessing", such a blessing can only be enjoyed by themselves, so that their lives can develop in the established direction and their emotions are very stable. A good mood can help you succeed step by step.
Life is a process, and the middle-aged process is the most difficult. Middle-aged men are often the pillar of the family and the most tired person in a family, but you should not complain about life, make long-term plans, be filial to your parents, care for your wife and children, make steady progress in your career and face life positively, and everything will be fine.
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