Tell a true story before the analysis:
When this matter came out, it caused a heated discussion. On the one hand, some people say: blood is thicker than water, and we are all a family, so we won't be so stiff. Some people say that if the needle doesn't stick to you, you won't feel pain. This doctor must have had an unspeakable childhood.
From this incident, we can know that the family environment is very important for children. Let's look at this problem from another angle. Is it because he pursues higher education so hard that he can escape from this family environment? So how did his dissatisfaction with the family environment make him work so hard and so resolutely want to cut off all ties?
In fact, it is his own will to go home or not, and it is also his own right to forgive his family. Thankfully, even though he lost his wonderful family life, at least he is satisfied with his present life and leads a positive life. Other examples are not so lucky.
For example, according to statistics, many famous criminals almost have a "standard" dark growth environment, with their fathers drinking heavily, their mothers doing nothing and abusing their children by words. When they were young, they buried this pain in their hearts. When they grow up, they have enough opportunities to rebel and eventually ruin their lives.
1. Try to establish a communication relationship with your family.
Communication is the best way to solve problems, and there are favorable factors: family. When you are dissatisfied with your family environment and feel depressed, you can try to confide in your heart and tell your family what you think. If you can understand, the problem will be solved.
2. Give each other a cool time.
In the case of ineffective communication, you can choose to give each other a calm time, and you may get along for a long time. Everyone shows their bad side without scruple and brings trouble to your family without you knowing it. At this time, you can choose to live in a relative's house for two days, so that your family can have a buffer time.
You can keep a pet or make other friends.
Because this family environment leads to inner emptiness, you can join a "new member" to make it a bond to maintain family relations and give your heart a sustenance.
What should I do if I am in an unhealthy family environment and my heart is empty? ? You all realize that you have such a family. You should be healthy and self-disciplined. First of all, you should take care of yourself, including life, hygiene, habits and so on. Do you know what a good habit is? Learn self-discipline from people who search for positive energy from Baidu. Second, you must correct your good behavior mentality. Honest people must correct themselves, correct all bad behaviors and habits, tell them with actions, and drive them to change their bad behaviors and habits. Third, if you have the financial ability, try your best to help them, and still don't mourn those behaviors, then change yourself with actions, move out and rent a house by yourself. Of course, you should be prepared to face all difficulties, including adapting to a person's small life, telling them with actions that you don't like the life they lead, and you should meet new challenges and live the normal life you want. Don't worry too much, in fact, you are fully capable of living a good life, because you have realized that these unhealthy family environments are extremely empty and boring. Be yourself, try to change yourself with positive energy, and let your positive energy also drive you to change unhealthy families, remember! All actions change you, me and him. Work hard, [Come on] [Touch Boxing] [Heart] [Come on] [Touch Boxing] [Heart]
Being in such a dual environment is really unfortunate and worthy of sympathy. Therefore, the following suggestions are put forward for your reference.
First, if you can go out, you can temporarily leave the unhealthy family environment and choose a city you yearn for to work and get employment.
Second, do everything possible to find a job that you like and pay well, so that the work can squeeze out the vacant time and even think about other issues when you are too busy.
Third, after receiving the income, be kind to yourself, eat well, play well, and make your mood healthy and positive.
Fourth, think about your own destiny, set a goal in life, act for this goal, learn knowledge, strive for academic qualifications, obtain professional and technical titles, and be a capable, capable and well-paid person.
Fifth, after changing yourself, think about changing the family situation and use your new ideas, new technologies and new abilities to get the family out of an unhealthy state.
The above ideas may not be comprehensive, but you can refer to the actual situation of yourself and your family. Don't be pessimistic, don't dream, take active action, and you will definitely get rid of the present state.
Emptiness is generally caused by the fact that the heart is not full and the fantasy is unrealistic. There are two ways to solve this problem: 1. For the emptiness of young people, let them establish correct values suitable for their own lives, work hard for them, be good at solving problems when encountering setbacks, and persevere; For the emptiness of middle-aged people, our values have been formed by middle age. To solve this problem, we need to keep learning new things, make up for what we didn't know or didn't have time to learn before, and do ourselves a favor? Get up, live and study, and set an example for young people.
Psychology and philosophy are "compulsory courses" for everyone's life.
I strongly recommend that you study psychology and philosophy.
People living in this world need to face two worlds at the same time: the external world and the internal world. The "external world" you face is the outward projection of your "internal world".
You don't need to look outside, all the answers are hidden in your heart.
Psychology mainly studies people's inner world. By studying psychology, you can better understand the outside world by studying your inner world.
When psychological research reaches a relatively advanced stage, it will certainly rise to "philosophy" and "spirituality".
Philosophy is the basic operating law of the world abstractly summarized from all things, and it is also the highest wisdom of the human world, which is universal, that is, I often say Tao. As long as "Tao" is fluent, "Shu" will be self-taught. So I never watch Shu, which is totally unnecessary.
This is why many great scientists, such as Newton and Einstein, turned to "theology" in their later years. What science can explain is really limited! The top floor of the Science Museum is also philosophy/theology/religion.
I mainly studied psychology in previous years. But now, psychology can't satisfy me at all, so I began to study philosophy and spirituality.
Interestingly, since I started studying philosophy, I found that in fact, most psychology also talks about "technique". I suddenly feel that all the psychological books I have read before are meaningless, so I don't recommend them.
Philosophy is very interesting and I like reading it very much. Besides, all I read are those big books that burn my brain.
China's Confucius and Mencius, Laozi and Zhuangzi's philosophy, Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, Freud, Jung and Kant. I have only read some of the books of these "thought giants" at present.
This part alone will last me a lifetime! Especially after I started my business, only "philosophy" can guide me.
Recently, I often have a feeling of "seeing through the world"-yes, I am alive, independent, sober and without any confusion.
I intend to read all their works. Then, see if I can become a Buddha/immortal. I'll try [covering my face] [covering my face]
-Liu Yusi Angela
Everyone's destiny is his own. Don't use your emptiness as an excuse. To find problems from yourself, emptiness is your own business and comes from the heart. Without dreams, goals and directions, of course, it is emptiness. You have to talk to yourself, ask yourself what you need and what kind of person you want to be, and then set goals and break them down into annual, monthly and daily. So you won't be empty.
I often feel lonely, I feel distant in the crowd, and I am afraid of loneliness when I am alone. In my own trajectory, sometimes near, sometimes far away. Even if there are intersections sometimes, I know that they will eventually separate, and everyone only belongs to their own trajectory. The more I grow up, the more I hate it.
Why are there such negative emotions?
This is actually a subjective and self-imposed negative experience. This feeling stems from the gap between the value and reality of some of our inner desires and needs. The greater the sense of gap, the stronger the sense of emptiness. Therefore, a person may still feel deeply lonely in social occasions, or he may be enriched in solitude, but he will be confused and at a loss psychologically.
When you are lonely, you will feel lonely, empty, depressed, anxious, helpless, indifferent and even desperate. When the degree is serious, you will feel invisible mental stress. Short-term or occasional loneliness will not have much impact, but being in this state for a long time will lead to mental health and physical immunity decline. I'm also hesitant at present, and I'm facing it.
There are many reasons for loneliness and emptiness, and the time period is very long.
The influence of family background can last a lifetime. Children who grow up in an unloving and doting environment may become unprincipled giving and taking personality, which is unacceptable to people who get along with each other and will be reflected in their social and intimate relationships when they grow up. Therefore, their feelings in this area can't be satisfied normally in their communication with others, which directly leads to loneliness, emptiness and strong sense of inferiority.
A person who lacks confidence in himself cannot reasonably face his own advantages and disadvantages. The biggest influence is that he will be particularly sensitive to the advantages and disadvantages of others. He may find fault with others, or he may be ashamed of their goodness. Because he can't face himself frankly, he can't accept others frankly when he gets along with others, and he can't establish a trust system for communication. Others will feel this kind of negativity or hostility, stay away from others, and cannot maintain healthy and friendly interpersonal relationships.
People can't always communicate perfectly. At this time, how to face these imperfections is what everyone needs to learn. If one or two disappointments lead to bad feelings, it will hurt yourself and others, making it impossible or unwilling to continue to get along, so it will become impossible to establish communication with others again and again. Therefore, it depends on whether you can open your heart, chat with friends more, do something you like and stagger that loneliness.
The answer to this question depends on age. In the absence of adults, to be honest, children's three views have not yet formed, and they can't save themselves without the help of others, which is extremely unfavorable to their future growth and society. If you are an adult, that would be great. You can go home with less energy, or you can stop unhealthy things at home and call the police. You'd better make more friends, read more books and see the outside world. Thank you for your question.
1 Self-reliance and self-help. Develop the good habit of "relying on yourself". Success that is universally recognized by the society through hard work. If you are still studying at a young age, you should try your best to read the book well. Your parents may not care about you, but the books you have read carefully will surely live up to you. What's more, "good grades" is also a success widely recognized by society.
Find another way to rebuild family ties. You can't make everyone in the world like you, and of course not everyone will hate you.
Maintain a strong and stable friendship. Sometimes friendship can also be a good sustenance, which can comfort the injured heart.
Talking about a high-quality love is to have a clear goal, an independent personality and economic ability, follow your heart and understand your needs, and then you will fall in love seriously.