How to be calm and have no distractions?

Self-cultivation: it is to purify one's mind. Nurturance: Cultivate one's morality even if one's nature is not damaged. Through self-reflection and observation, body and mind can reach a perfect state. Personal cultivation is not only full of wisdom of being a man, cultivating oneself and dealing with the world, but also includes always having a normal heart to deal with daily troubles and misfortunes. [1] 1. Don't be angry: the ancients said, "Anger hurts the body." Anger is one of the negative emotions of human beings. If a person is often angry, it will damage his body and mind. 2. Avoid inferiority: Inferiority can easily destroy a person, and it can also make people rise because of self-improvement. 3. avoid jealousy: instead of spending limited energy on the success of others, it is better to seize the opportunity to do something practical. 4, quit the villain: the villain will not only help our lives, but will become a stumbling block for you to fall at a critical moment. 5. Avoid temptation: We should avoid all kinds of temptations such as power, money and beauty, constantly improve our own quality, strengthen personal cultivation, improve moral quality and maintain a healthy and peaceful mentality. Avoid rage: rage can easily make people lose their minds, so you must learn to control your emotions. 6, peace of mind: sit still and think about yourself and talk about others. Those who can bear hardships are people with lofty ideals, and those who are willing to bear hardships are not idiots. It's not incompetent to stay away from a gentleman. The field is wide and wide, so that the back three points are safe. 7. One of the essentials of self-cultivation: detachment from self and awkwardness; Cut something, no repair; Become indifferent and lose calm; Think calmly and do good for it. 8. The second key to self-cultivation: a noble spirit, clean sleeves, three points of Ao Shuang bone, four points of diligence in reading and writing, abundant crops, constant six spirits, temperance of seven emotions, wide affinity in all directions, spiritual ambition and full of kindness. 9. Ancient people's self-cultivation: China feudal society's personal self-cultivation mainly instilled Confucian self-cultivation thoughts, and the so-called "three cardinal guides and five permanents" was the core content of personal self-cultivation. "Three cardinal guides" refers to "loyalty of monarch and minister, closeness of father and son, and the sum of husband and wife"; "Five permanent members" means "benevolence, righteousness, reason, wisdom and faith". "Three cardinal guides and five permanents" is actually a measure of personal accomplishment. [Edit this paragraph] Third, the method of self-cultivation 1, the ten methods of self-cultivation 1 1, live in the present. Don't always worry about tomorrow, and don't always regret what happened yesterday. Focus your attention on what you want to do today. Second, live here. There is nothing we can do about what happened in the distance. Worrying doesn't help anything. So remember, you live here and now, not far away. Third, stop speculating and face the reality. You may have encountered such a situation: in the unit, when you meet leaders or colleagues, you say hello, but they don't respond, and Lian Xiao doesn't even smile. Think about it, why do they treat themselves like this? Is there something wrong with this person? Are you demeaning yourself In fact, maybe you didn't expect you to say hello to him, but he may be absent-minded and in a bad mood and didn't pay attention to your greeting. Many psychological barriers are often caused by "taking it for granted" without practical basis. Fourth, stop thinking and feel more. Modern society requires people to think more and feel less. What people think about all day is how to do a good job, how to get good grades in exams, and how to improve the relationship with leaders and colleagues. So it's easy to ignore or have no mind to see beautiful scenery and listen to good music. One of the characteristics of Gestalt therapy is to emphasize "feeling" on the basis of thinking, which can adjust and enrich your thinking. However, nowadays people overemphasize logical thinking, while intuitive thinking is often ignored. The terrible consequence is that people will become a machine without feelings. Fifth, accept unpleasant emotions. People usually want to have happy feelings, but they are unwilling to accept melancholy, sadness and unpleasant feelings. Happiness and unhappiness are relative, and they also exist and transform each other. Therefore, the correct attitude is: not only to accept happy emotions, but also to be psychologically prepared to accept unpleasant emotions. Sixth, don't judge at will. When others make a small mistake or fail, people tend to jump to conclusions. The correct way to treat people and interpersonal relationships should be: don't judge people first, say your own thoughts first. In this way, you can prevent and avoid unnecessary friction and conflict with others, and you can also avoid unnecessary trouble and depression. Seven, don't blindly worship idols and authority. There are many disguised authorities and idols in modern society, who will imprison your thoughts and bind your hands and feet, such as education, money and so on. Don't blindly agree with public opinion, thus losing the habit of independent thinking; Don't succumb to others unprincipled, thus being deprived of the ability to act independently. Eight, I am me. Anyway, if I were someone, I would have succeeded. We should start from our own starting point and give full play to our potential. Don't complain, start from me, start from now, try your best to give full play to your talents and do what you can. Nine, be responsible for yourself. People tend to pass the buck easily. For example, if you don't do well in the exam, you will blame the failure on your poor family environment, you will say that your leadership ability is poor and your conditions are too poor, and you will blame your mistakes and failures on objective reasons. This important principle of gestalt therapy is to ask yourself to be responsible for what you have done. X. Correct self-estimation. In other words, put yourself in a correct position. Everyone occupies a specific position in society, so you should fulfill your rights and obligations according to the requirements of this specific position. If you don't act according to this universally recognized and observed norm, you will be condemned and opposed by society and others.