Children's grades are determined by many factors. Some children are born with a dislike of reading or average intelligence. No matter how hard their parents try, their children haven't changed much. Under the baton of today's exam-oriented education, if you don't like reading, you can't enter higher education institutions.
As a parent, anxiety, helplessness and pain will accompany you every day. We can't help but compare with the people around us and get a psychological balance from the comparison. If children are better than their own children, they will have a kind of joy and pride. On the contrary, if children are not as good as their own children, they will have a sense of shame, jealousy and more self-blame.
This self-reproach and shame will gradually turn into an invisible anxiety, and then consciously or unconsciously turn anxiety into rage. The pent-up anger will flock to children, making them feel ashamed and give up on themselves, and the family will fall into a vicious circle.
Actually, it's not necessary Every child is a flower, but the flowering period is different. Some children develop early, while others develop late. As parents, we should learn to appreciate our children and wait for flowers to bloom quietly.
Li Bai, a great romantic poet in China, wrote in It's Hard to Go to Heaven: Since God has given talents, let them be used! , spin one thousand silver, all back! . Chairman Mao, the great leader, once wrote that he is confident to live to the age of 200 and hit the water for three thousand miles. Since God gave a man life, he gave him his own value. As parents, we should learn to discover and cultivate children's strengths and specialties, and focus on guiding and cultivating them according to their interests.
Throughout a person's life, learning is only a small part of life. More is to learn to learn, learn to grow, learn to find their own happiness, and learn to make due contributions to the motherland with their own advantages.
It is extremely difficult for a child to grow up. As long as a child learns to persist, learn to be optimistic about life, and be good at discovering small happiness in life, he is the leader of life.
Learning is not the only way out. Nowadays, with the support of the state for vocational education, learning an exclusive skill has become a new trend of career choice. High school students no longer have to cross the wooden bridge with thousands of troops, suffering from the tactics of being thirsty for talents, and sinking into the sea without submitting resumes in the huge team of employment.
If children can choose their own life path according to their hobbies, parents can unload their burdens and go into battle lightly. No more anxiety, no need to send them to sky-high cram schools, and no need for parents and children to compete with each other because of homework problems.
As parents, we should be good at discovering children's bright spots and guiding and encouraging them in time. I believe that children will become more and more confident. How can a confident child accomplish nothing?
From the horizontal comparison, his own children are not as good as others' children, but he is eloquent, knows how to share with others, treats others sincerely, and is optimistic, warm and friendly, which is inexhaustible wealth for his children in their later lives.
Parents' beloved son has a far-reaching influence. As a child's first teacher, we should focus on cultivating children's optimistic and brave spirit, kind and sincere personality, peace and generosity, and being kind to others, instead of being the company of school teachers and forcing children to study.
Lide is the foundation of people. As long as their children have excellent qualities, can go forward bravely in the face of wind and rain, consciously resist temptation and grow up healthily and happily, parents can put down their anxiety and wait for flowers to bloom.