1. Emotional injury: When someone experiences negative emotions such as betrayal, injury or being cheated by others, anger, fear or disappointment may occur. These feelings will make them suspicious, hostile or hostile to each other, which will lead to the act of holding grudges.
2. Self-protection: Some people may hold grudges as a self-protection mechanism. They may think that by remembering past injuries and distrust, they can prevent being hurt again. Doing so gives them a sense of security and makes them feel that they can control the situation and avoid being hurt again.
3. Impaired self-esteem: Sometimes, being hurt or insulted by others will cause a serious blow to your self-esteem. In order to protect their self-esteem, some people may choose to hold grudges and be hostile to the perpetrators in order to balance their losses emotionally.
4. Cultural and social factors: Some cultural and social environments may emphasize the importance of correcting injustice, maintaining honor or dealing with injuries. In these cases, holding grudges may be regarded as a reasonable behavior, because it conforms to the values and expectations of society.
Whatever the reason for holding a grudge, it is usually a negative and unhealthy behavior. Holding grudges for a long time may have a negative impact on personal mental health, and will also undermine interpersonal relationships and social harmony. Therefore, for people who are easy to bear grudges, it may be beneficial to seek psychological support, learn to forgive and release past injuries.