First of all, you should ask yourself, is the primitive personality anxious or neurotic? In fact, in the current situation, the most difficult thing is to live in the middle of the two, that is, to be cautious and not to be too nervous. The three elements of this balance are "willpower", "wisdom" and "determination".
The so-called willpower, that is, the second key point, you must carefully plan the route and process of going out and home hygiene, follow it with willpower, and don't do things with your mood every day. As long as you follow the process, you don't have to worry every day and don't give yourself too much pressure.
The third small step is to talk to your soul through your wisdom. Dr. Deng said that we once thought that technology and civilization could give us a comprehensive grasp of our own lives, but in this wave of epidemic, we pushed mankind back to a primitive starting point, that is, understanding the fragility of life. In this out-of-control disaster, influenced by a lot of news information, we will inevitably feel helpless, nervous and anxious, which is a psychological state that we rarely face up to in the past. Even if we should restart the dialogue with the fragility inside the soul at this time, most people tend to take psychological cutting, that is, ignore or deny the crisis.
Many people will think that as long as all the quarantine people are under control, I will live as usual, or I will often say, "I just go out for dinner, so I won't be so easily infected!" " People who can't bear too much pressure like this may live in the extreme of being ignored if they don't take safety measures. Therefore, in this society, there may be two contradictory extremes of "anxiety" and "neglect", which will lead to the collapse of society. Therefore, Dr. Deng reminded that no matter whether you belong to the extreme psychology of "anxiety" or "neglect", what you need now is to help each other instead of attacking each other and face this "war epidemic" with a more United attitude.
Therefore, the fourth step of epidemic prevention with peace of mind is "concentration". Take the medical staff all over the world as an example. They never give up their jobs. What do they rely on? Is to take safety measures, and then let go of panic and be loyal to your duties. It is necessary to combine the thinking of both ends to stand on one's own position and be Teamin Between under the epidemic storm.
In addition to the above four small steps of psychological epidemic prevention, Dr. Deng also provides you with some daily necessary psychological care suggestions:
First, maintain production capacity in a feasible way and overcome the negative helplessness of waiting. If you can only manage it by yourself or at home, don't just wait for the epidemic to pass all day, thinking that you can return to normal life. With the expansion of the epidemic, anxiety and depression are easy to occur, so it is suggested to develop alternative satisfaction. For example, some people will take this opportunity to record the dishes cooked by three meals, tidy up their homes or contact friends, and so on. To enhance their effectiveness and sense of control.
Second, stay at home during epidemic prevention, and don't treat your family as the object of compensation and control. The object of enhancing control desire mentioned above should be the process and things of life, but don't put this control desire on your family. For example, in the past, no matter whether the other person was watching TV or sleeping, now you have to take care of everything when you have time, but when you make up for your lost sense of control, you spend it on your family, which will only increase conflicts and make the time you need to stay at home more unpleasant and difficult, which is counterproductive.
Three, epidemic prevention pressure is easy to cause group division, and everyone needs to take care of each other. If there is division in the group, it is easy to make everyone's division more obvious because of external pressure. For example, Dr. Deng sees people who are wrong from the beginning. If one of them thinks that home office should be implemented now, and the other thinks that it is not enthusiastic about work, the division between the two sides may be more serious. Therefore, the more at this moment, the more we must find ways to maintain our contact, be considerate and tolerant of different human feelings, and unite to fight the epidemic.
Fourth, please take care of the quarantine and isolation at home. Qixin can fight the epidemic. Many people who are isolated at home are actually taking care of the overall safety, so Dr. Deng said, "All physical isolation is to keep our hearts together." Give them more warmth and care, and let them generate more energy. We are all partners in the same front!
The epidemic in COVID-19 really caught everyone off guard, but Dr. Deng wanted to remind everyone not to let the virus do more harm psychologically. We should spend this difficult time together and find the strength of life together!
* The article is reproduced from Sister Tao, the original site of the article.