Crossing 3: The Power of Healing is a book about depression, which consists of 12 stories written by 12 depressed patients or their families, and is divided into three chapters: traceability, cicada slough and earthly life. The writing is simple, but it tells the serious trauma that mental illness has brought to every family and individual.
The author of this book is Mr. Zhang Jin, the founder of Caixin Media. Mr. Zhang Jin used to be a patient with depression. He personally felt the harm caused by depression and realized that the misunderstanding of mental illness in society brought more harm to patients than the disease itself. After the cure of depression, Mr. Zhang Jin devoted himself to the study of depression, hoping to help more patients through his own strength, and also hoping that the society would change its view of mental patients through his own strength.
Teacher Zhang Jin founded the official account of mental health WeChat "DuDu", aiming at combining patients and their families, psychiatrists and psychological counselors to build a community of mutual assistance and rehabilitation for mental patients. Many patients began to accept their illness, accept themselves and use drugs scientifically because of their concern about "DuDu", and some patients have got rid of the pain.
Teacher Zhang Jin published a series of books on depression, namely, Crossing: Notes on the Cure of Depression, Crossing 2: Acceptance is the Best Cure, and Crossing 3: The Power of Cure. When the new book Crossing 3 was published, Nandeyou invited Mr. Zhang Jin to share his reading experience, which gave him a chance to listen to Mr. Zhang Jin's story and answer his knowledge about depression face to face, and gained a lot.
The core content of this book
Depression is becoming the second largest disease in the world, and the importance of effective prevention and rapid diagnosis of depression is becoming more and more prominent. It is not only a medical problem, but also a social problem.
The book runs through 3, 12 stories, covering all aspects of depression prevention and treatment; The heroes of 12 have different stories and experiences, but they have only one thing in common, that is, they never give up and take active actions in the face of difficulties.
Depression is the sum of a person's physiological relationship, social relationship and time relationship, and it is the imbalance of personal biology, psychology and society, which is gradually formed in the long term.
The "Crossing" series of books is worth us to calm down, read it carefully and feel the difficulty of spiritual integrity.
This book is mainly read in the fragmented time of going to work by bus and coming home from work. Countless times, I burst into tears, which attracted the attention of my family and passengers.
Those words that directly hit my heart:
"With illness and loss, I look down on life and death, and life forces me to become a philosopher." -Xiangguan P4
"Everyone who takes medicine has a hard time accepting the fact that I have to rely on drugs to stay normal at first. Everyone who takes medicine really wants to try, just walking in the world on their own. When we feel that our inner strength is getting stronger and stronger, we often want to try to give up drugs and see if we have really grown up. Therefore, stopping taking drugs, sometimes, I don't think it is an act that needs to be condemned. In fact, it is a person looking for himself and becoming himself. " -Xiangguan P9
"Adults always wring the juice of life without saying a word, so as to wring out a little household, but the problems of life come one after another." -xiangguan P 12
"Anxiety is a silent panic that spread in my turbulent childhood. When safety becomes the most important thing, deep feelings and thoughts have to retreat to the last place, becoming silent and less clear. " -xiangguan P 12
"Everyone has their own' inner parents', which internalizes the parenting relationship in childhood and takes care of us instead of real parents when we are adults." -xiangguan P 13
"Ordinary lifestyle has a resounding ideal."-Xiangguan P 16
"Most exercises are only correct and can never be good. Art ultimately belongs to the audience. When a piece of music can easily pop up for people to see, the artist himself has lost a lot of happiness, leaving only a sense of accomplishment. However, art belongs to artists. Since then, he has a shining key and can freely enter and leave the blocked world of others. " -Xiangguan P22
"The most unbearable thing in life is boredom, and the most unbearable thing is repetition. I am most afraid of doing my best, but I haven't waited for the opportunity to fundamentally change. The most bitter thing is that when others are around, I can't speak my mind. Fu Lei said that bitter tears are the wine pulp that cultivates the soul. Only those who have experienced severe pain will have broad sympathy. " -Xiangguan P23
"I feel the sunshine coming in. These small achievements have ignited the fire of hope in my heart and inspired me to persist and persist. " -The Return of the Savior P46
"When I was a child, the world was colorful and my heart was happy." -The Return of the Savior P48
"If love is an ability, then it must be a unique life trait that controls this ability." -the lost mother P75
"Disease or poverty, the most terrible is never physical defects. Their meanest means are the erosion of your thoughts and the rape of your consciousness. Every inch you advance, it will cut you a foot until you give up, give in and dare not stand out. " -The Lost Mother P78
"Father's love is not only a stroke in life, but also a subtle spiritual strength, an ability to give you love." -The Lost Mother P82
"Frank, an Austrian psychiatrist and founder of Meaning Therapy, said," When meaning is discovered, pain is no longer pain "; The philosopher Nietzsche also said, "People who know why they live can endure almost any pain. ""-inner journey P 103
"Obsessive-compulsive disorder is a tug of war in life. Do you spend more energy on work, entertainment and communication, or on compulsion? " -inner journey P 106
"There is a popular saying in the field of psychological counselors: How far can a psychological counselor lead the interviewer? What ultimately affects the effect of psychological counseling is the counselor's personality. Whether we can unconditionally accept, understand and respect the people in front of us from the heart requires the therapist to make continuous efforts on the human nature level in order to truly raise the heart of compassion from the heart. This is a lifelong practice. " Inner journey P 1 1 1
In the book Self-help of Mental Anxiety Disorder, Wilkes describes the root of anxiety and how to overcome it:
"There are two types of anxiety. A kind of anxiety mainly comes from some situations, which may be sadness and guilt. Patients know what caused their anxiety at the first time and try to fight it. The other is that the patient has been under temporary pressure, not so early after the incident. What patients care about is not the initial problem, but the fear of the current state. When a person is under pressure, his emotions may simply be expressed with normal intensity at first, and then with the increase of pressure, his emotions may become too strong. This is a very painful process, which means that general fear will turn into serious panic. "
The disappearance of symptoms is not a cure, but a cure when symptoms become unimportant. "-resurrection P 136
"Jin Meili upturned face, toward the sun, with open arms. She closed her eyes. She said there was a warm red in front of her eyes. "-resurrection P 140
"According to my observation, in recent years, depression has become younger and younger. Some children have been sick since primary school, but at that time, neither children nor parents knew it was depression. Adolescent depression has become a serious social problem. After many children get sick, they fall into internet addiction and retreat, which breaks their parents' hearts. " -Youth against P 142
"I asked," what do you believe when the treatment fails? "
She replied: "This question is generally qualified to answer in my later years, but I am confident enough to answer it now: I believe in fate and personal principles. Fate is hard to break, but in the face of fate, everyone has different choices. Some people choose to give up, others choose to face it and play with it. Now and in the future, fate and I are also playing a big game. All I can do is take every step. " "-never give up P 198.
"Every life has no standard definition, and there is always only value relative to itself." -Never give up P 199.
"Later, I understood a truth: Don't try to make energetic and powerful people understand their illness unless you have to. In vain, it is also a kind of harm to yourself. " -Never give up P206
"If people's life is regarded as a cup of frothy coffee, those mentally healthy people have only tasted the foam in the mouth of the cup all their lives, but I have drunk every drop in the cup of life ..." —— The promise of thirty years P228
"Our happiest time is winter, with electric blankets on. A family of four crowded together to catch the play. He loves to tease his youngest daughter. When she hits him hard, he pretends to beg for mercy. It's nothing, which makes my eldest daughter and I laugh. " -live like a weed P266
"I don't need pity. I want to hold my head high and live proudly. " -Fear of shame P285
"Writing helped me a lot and gave me strength. Over the past year or two, I have come to understand that my depression is mainly due to internal conflicts. Writing can touch my heart and calm me down.
After listening to her words, I was pleasantly surprised. I have always had a view that writing is the reconstruction of spiritual order, a means of cleaning up and talking to myself, which is equivalent to being my own psychologist. Lin proved the healing function of writing with his own practice. "-afraid of shame P285
"I like naughty, rebellious and smart people in my bones, because I am obedient, ordinary and lonely." -Fear of shame P286
"Writing has been as natural as eating and sleeping, and it has been integrated into my life. I was immersed in writing, forgot the time, forgot my troubles, and forgot that I was a depressed person. " -Fear of shame P288
"My sufferings and sins will eventually turn into light, illuminating my short life." -Afraid of shame P290
"Returning to society and restoring social function are the most important signs of the rehabilitation of patients with depression." -shame P292
"I like climbing this mountain best in winter. The cold wind is bleak, the pedestrians are silent, the drums are ringing at dusk, and the Sanskrit is curling. The mountain birds hide in the forest, and the loess is bare. The mountain in winter is frank, true, calm and inclusive! " -shame P294
"The face is cold and the feet are warm." -shame P294
"They are strong, kind, responsible and pursue perfection. They used to be the pride of their families, but now they are the pain that their loved ones will never erase! " -the second growth P309
"At that time, talking about' strong' was only a superficial feeling; Now I know that "being strong" is really a choice with no choice and no way. Who knows the heartache and helplessness? " -the second increase P3 1 1
"There is love, warmth, joy when meeting, and sadness when leaving. Reading is like chatting with celebrities at any time. I entered their spiritual world, forgot my own pain, and gained the strength and courage to continue living from them. " -the second increase P3 1 1
"Of course, this is a long road, and everyone is still on the road. There are more than 90 million people with depression in China, and many of them are still walking in the dark, praying for a glimmer of light at the end of the darkness. " —— Postscript P32 1
None of us dare to assert that we have stayed out of it. In the field of human spiritual world, there is no clear boundary between disease and non-disease. The perfection and restoration of the spiritual world is a lifelong lesson for each of us.
I hope that if I meet a partner with mental illness, I can treat it normally. This is the greatest respect for them.
May we have less desires, more enjoyment, more dedication, and may our souls be less troubled.