We are worried that children will burn their mouths when drinking water, drown when swimming, be abducted when going out and get hurt when running. Even children who stay up late and don't eat vegetables are afraid of affecting their health, but they are too lazy to pay attention to whether their children are happy or not and don't want to think about what they are angry with.
Don't you know that suicide is the biggest harm to teenagers' health now? According to statistics, there are more than 280,000 suicides in China every year, and 2 million people have attempted suicide. /kloc-among people aged 0/5-34, suicide ranks first among abnormal deaths.
It is reported that about 65.438+0.9 billion people in China need to receive professional psychological counseling or psychotherapy in their lifetime. There are more than 65.438+0.6 billion people suffering from various mental diseases and psychological disorders, and there are 30 million teenagers suffering from emotions and pressures among the 65.438+0.5 billion teenagers.
In the past two years, students in a local key middle school have jumped off buildings almost every year. The school is treading on thin ice, with strict management, and it is still difficult to stop the incident.
The reason is that the relationship between parents is not good, or the relationship between children and parents is tense. When the child is in the most painful time, parents not only don't help the child calm down, but constantly criticize and accuse.
Psychologists have confirmed that the root of all psychological problems in adulthood can be traced back to his childhood relationship with his parents. Therefore, we should pay more attention to children's mental health, instead of transferring anxiety to children and becoming the last straw to crush children.
Cousin works in a government department, and her husband has been doing business outside for a long time. When the child was young, my cousin often worked overtime in the office at night, leaving the child alone at home to do his homework. When you are tired, wash and sleep by yourself. Sometimes at home, she will be immersed in her own world and seldom play with her children.
Slowly, the child became more and more silent and didn't like being near her. She didn't realize the seriousness of the problem, thinking that children just need to be sensible and obedient and study hard.
Unfortunately, the good times did not last long. Although the child was admitted to a prestigious school outside the province through his own efforts, he was found to have severe depression and suicidal tendencies in his second year of high school.
Now it seems that the root of the problem is that children have not been nourished by love since childhood. What seems smart is actually sensitive, fragile and scarred. A little trouble will lead to a big problem. However, when children need company most, parents are seriously absent, but when children are older, it is different.
Nowadays, many parents send their children to so-called famous schools in other places early in order not to let them lose at the starting line. They think that studying well is a tangible vested interest, while psychological problems are as imperceptible as a mirage. As we all know, in the growth stage of children, the psychological nourishment given by parents is far more important than the accumulation of knowledge.