1. Is happiness greater than sadness or sadness greater than happiness?
It is recommended to start from your own feelings. From this perspective, you can judge your true state in this relationship. For example, when you get along with your partner every day, you are happy most of the time, or you are not very harmonious and always angry. If the former is like this, it means that it is a benign relationship. In the latter case, it shows that you have many unpleasant moments, and you should consider whether it is necessary to continue. Because maintaining a relationship, whether the partnership is healthy or not, the feeling is the most intuitive and can best reflect the state when you get along.
2. How did your partner behave at some critical moments?
In fact, when they are in love, they eat, drink and have fun together. It is too easy to see any information. Do you really want to see if a relationship is healthy, or if the other person acts at a critical moment? For example, love anniversary, on this important day, did your partner take any practical actions to commemorate it? As long as you show something, it's nothing. After all, in front of an important day, you can still test your partner's attitude towards feelings. Because the maintenance of feelings requires the joint efforts of both sides, if even this time, you are too lazy to show it, or don't remember it at all, it naturally shows that this relationship is not important in your partner's heart.
3. Does being with your partner make you better or worse?
There is also a basis for judging whether being with your partner is getting better and better or not as good as being single. Because a really good relationship must make the other person better, and such a relationship is a healthy relationship. If you find that after falling in love, your partner not only doesn't make you better, but consumes you and even holds you back. Then it is obvious that such a relationship is not necessarily a healthy relationship. The most obvious thing can be judged by your mood. If you are in love, you are smiling every day and your mood is very stable, that goes without saying; If you start to lose your temper easily after being with your partner, it means that your relationship is wasting you, not nourishing you.
In short, if you want to see whether your relationship is really healthy, you must see whether two people are comfortable together. If they are uncomfortable, it means that this relationship is sub-healthy.