First, praise children as much as possible. Children will be willing to learn only when they have a certain degree of self-confidence. Let children feel that they have made progress in their studies every day, even if they have corrected a shortcoming.
Second, pay more attention to children's learning content and actual progress. Parents should ask their children more about what they have learned recently and how they have mastered it.
Third, often set a few small goals for children that are easy to achieve. This can make the child feel that he can do it, and the child is confident, which is conducive to the child's potential.
Fourth, stimulate children's desire to learn. We should seize every opportunity in life to let children practice.
Fifth, help children build a sense of responsibility. Let children learn to wash dishes, wipe handkerchiefs, make beds and tableware, and do their duty well.
Sixth, set an example in front of children.
7. Try not to talk about teachers in front of children, especially not to belittle teachers in front of children.
Eight, formulate family study rules and implement them from beginning to end, thus forming good study habits and work and rest habits.
Nine, guide children to be good at asking questions. Cultivate children and ask why.
Ten, let children pay attention to school, try to avoid the absence of children.
How to cultivate a spiritual child;
First, the education model, "let the top students" become "problem students" with such a girl. When she was in primary school, the teacher gave lectures above and she played below. For this reason, she doesn't know how many times she has been kicked out of the classroom by the teacher. But she was very good, and the teacher kicked her out of the classroom. She happened to watch the ants fight.
Someone asked her why she didn't attend the class. She said, "Well, the teacher said that I can understand some things as soon as I read a book, and I can listen to some things in class, but what about the teacher? It's annoying to talk and practice over and over again! " She was considered a problem student by the teacher at that time.
But it is this problem that students graduated from Beijing No.8 Middle School with excellent results and went to the United States to study undergraduate courses. One year later, they stood out because of their excellent results. Ranked among the best in a chemistry competition in the United States. After graduating from college, seven or eight famous universities sent invitations. Finally, she chose MIT as a graduate student.
This example reflects the disadvantages of traditional education in schools at present. Traditional education is a model education to a great extent. They ignore children's personality differences, set unified goals for students, use the same textbooks, do the same exercises, require the same pace, and use the same test papers. This will inevitably lead to top students not having enough to eat. Forcing children to speak and practice again and again will only make them feel uncomfortable, produce weariness, make their curiosity and initiative to learn disappear, and lose their original spirituality. It is good to cultivate a learning machine with high scores and low energy.
The girl was lucky enough to enter the junior class of Beijing No.8 Middle School, which is famous for being good at cultivating children with extraordinary intelligence. The relaxed learning environment can give full play to children's character strengths and make this problem student become an excellent student.
Second, relax the environment and give full play to children's personality advantages.
There is another boy in Beijing No.8 Middle School who didn't like doing homework in primary school. His reason is: "Homework is just for us to practice. I see, why do you still do it? " Her mother went to consult the teacher first, and the teacher didn't agree that the child could stop doing it when he was ready. Later, my mother imitated my son's calligraphy and helped him with his homework every day. Mother thinks that repetitive work will stifle children's creativity. It is said that it is this child who makes the teacher in the child's class set a "rule": children who pass the teacher's exam can not do their homework.
More interestingly, this boy has a little cousin who was as clever as him when he was a child. In the past, my younger brothers had more ways to see who climbed the wall, and the result was neck and neck. But my cousin often writes a wrong word in his homework and is fined 100 times. Later, his energy was confiscated by this punishment.
The more exercise, the better. The sea tactics may make children get high scores in a short time, but it will increase their burden. Children's homework should aim at mastering knowledge and review appropriately to deepen their impressions. Because the homework assigned by the school is based on most students, children can be allowed not to do homework on the premise that they have mastered the knowledge. Don't force children to do those simple and repetitive questions, which will wear away their learning advantages as defects and lead them to be tired of learning. Doing fewer questions can make children focus on developing their learning ability, and their stamina will be great. To do this, we must have a peaceful attitude and don't look at the score very uniquely.
Third, expectations are too high, which makes children miserable.
Yang Yang's grades are average, but parents are eager for their children to be admitted to famous schools. This school ranks among the best in all primary schools, with more than 95% students entering key high schools every year. In the third year, Yang Yang took the penultimate place in the whole school, but failed to get into the ideal high school, and stayed to repeat.
In the case of Yang Yang, one can imagine his situation at school. Entering key schools or key classes can enjoy high-quality teaching resources. Although it has its advantages, it is easy for children to lose confidence if they are kept in that kind of learning environment with a big gap for a long time. If a child like Yang Yang went to an ordinary middle school, he wouldn't have this kind of trouble.
There is a person whose screen name is painstaking. He said: "After entering middle school, children do their homework every day until around 22: 30 or 23: 00 in the evening, and they still can't finish their homework after spending all their weekends. It often happens that the words in the last class are not remembered and the previous math content is not mastered. Doing it too late every night is exhausting, and it also affects the digestion of new lessons. " I said, "If he really can't finish his homework, then contact the teacher for a while, do less questions and concentrate on really understanding the questions." Others advised him to leave school. But he felt that this showed that he had failed, and it was hard for him to accept.
Some parents expect their children and their daughters to succeed. They are unwilling to face up to the gap between children and expect too much from them, which can only make them exhausted. It is necessary to set learning goals according to the actual situation of children and let them jump up and pick peaches. Children like this netizen should aim at mastering basic concepts, and let them do relatively simple topics first, such as class A topics in exercise books, and the number can be less, so as to truly understand the topics. In fact, the basic concepts are reflected in type A questions. The key to doing the problem lies in understanding, not in more. Basic concept questions occupy considerable weight in the exam. Only in this way can children move forward step by step.
Fourth, make the best use of the situation and let children enjoy learning.
Every child is an independent individual. Because of their growing environment and their own reasons, they not only have different levels, but also have different learning styles, which requires us to have flexible educational wit and guide them according to the situation. In this way, children will be in a happy state of mind and regard learning as a kind of enjoyment, thus improving learning efficiency.
Allow children to choose the learning style that suits them. For example, some students like to strengthen their knowledge through discussion, while others like to think quietly and alone. For the former, we should try our best to create an atmosphere of discussion, while for the latter, we should provide them with a quiet learning environment. Other children like to help them remember English words by word formation, while some students are good at increasing their vocabulary by reading. For the former, we can provide children with books about word formation, while for the latter, we must provide some interesting English reading materials at the same level. Some children like to extract, and some children are used to reading their favorite articles repeatedly, which can improve their writing level. Therefore, there is no need to ask children to extract the latter, and providing some corresponding extracurricular books for children to read can also achieve the purpose of learning.
It is necessary to master the psychological characteristics of children, find the right starting point, and guide them according to their hobbies. If some people like idolization, you can explain to them how stars are successful, thus stimulating children's positive and enterprising heart; For children with strong personality and self-control, they can make their own relevant regulations, so that children can feel respected and consciously abide by them; For children who are relatively weak in self-control, but like to "wear a top hat" and are more obedient, they can be properly supervised by combining praise and punishment, so that children can develop good habits.
Five, teaching students in accordance with their aptitude, every child can become a talent.
Otto, Nobel Prize winner in chemistry? When wallach was in middle school, his parents chose a literary path for him. At the end of a semester, the teacher gave him a comment: "Otto? Wallach works hard, but he is too rigid. Even if such a person is perfect in morality, he will never be able to play in literature. " Therefore, parents have to respect their son's interest and let him learn oil painting instead. However, wallach is neither good at composition nor polishing, and his understanding of art is not keen. His grade is the lowest in the class, and his comment is: "What a pity: your artistic quality of painting is disappointing, and I'm afraid it will be difficult to achieve anything in the future." Faced with such a "clumsy" student, everyone thought he was hopeless, but the chemistry teacher found that he was meticulous and patient and had the quality to do chemical experiments well, so he suggested that he change to chemistry. After wallach switched to chemistry, his potential was activated and he finally won the Nobel Prize in chemistry.
Robin, a successful expert, once said, "Everyone has a special talent. That talent is like a sleeping giant, waiting for us to wake him up. " Every child has his own bright spot. As parents, we should have a clear understanding of children, understand their advantages and disadvantages, tap their potential, teach students in accordance with their aptitude, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and each child can become a useful person.
A good parent wants to create a bright future for his children. Spring reminds us of the following points:
One: treat children as equal members of the family, respect their personality and dignity, and let them think independently and choose freely. Letting children choose freely does not mean that parents do nothing. Parents can guide and help with analysis, and the final choice is in the hands of children. If the child makes a mistake, she will take responsibility for it herself. Once she realizes that she is wrong, she can correct it quickly. If you help her make a choice, even if she is right, she may not do well; If she is wrong, she will resent you, because the responsibility lies with you.
Two: Listen carefully and patiently to the children's opinions. If you want to be friends with children, you can't "talk at home". Parents are in charge. Especially when it comes to children, parents must discuss with their children and listen to their opinions. They should accept the correct opinions and explain the wrong ones. When parents decide to do something at home, they should also ask their children's opinions, which is conducive to the healthy growth of children, and children will feel that they are equal members of the family, and they will actively consider the family in the future, on the other hand, it is also conducive to the completion of things.
Third, try to understand children, go deep into their inner world, understand their wishes, respect their choices and support their legitimate demands. At the same time, we should also open our hearts to children, let them know their parents' thoughts, feel their parents' joys and sorrows, and strive for their trust and understanding. This can not only help parents truly become friends with their children, but also help parents better guide their children to grow up.
Fourth, in the success of children's growth, we should use practical and reasonable methods. Don't make comments and instructions on children's behavior easily, but try to guide children to think. We should pay more attention to children's thoughts and behaviors. We should communicate and understand each other through talks and consultations, and finally get a fair and reasonable answer.
Five: Being a child's friend does not mean giving up the principle and accommodating the child's mistakes. We emphasize children's freedom to develop hobbies, but we don't let them go. We should grasp certain standards and set strict requirements. If the child is really wrong, he can't make any concessions. He must point it out carefully and make corresponding explanations to avoid repeating it next time. If you are wrong, dare to admit it to your child. We should set an example for our children with our words, deeds and styles, and guide them to form a good personality.
Six: Take the initiative to communicate with children. The purpose of communicating with children is to enhance mutual understanding. Clarify your views and requirements to your children and let them understand what their parents mean. This is communication. In fact, this is not enough, because it is only one-way, and the purpose is only to let children know their parents and let them do what their parents expect. Have these parents ever thought: You ask your children to be obedient and understand what you mean, but have you ever understood their thoughts? Communication requires parents to actively express their inner world to their children, and at the same time listen to their children's voices, listen to each other and understand each other. Only in this way can we understand what the child is thinking, and then "prescribe the right medicine" and give appropriate guidance to let the child grow up healthily.
The following ten sentences are best not to say to children:
1. Why can't you be like-
The contrast between children is likely to increase their instinctive hostility and even disgust.
You should explain your specific requirements to your children. Focus on the bad behavior you want him to change.
Why are you so ignorant?
Children who are stabbed by words will only resist and make things worse.
Only kindness and patience can achieve the expected goal.
You are simply stupid.
This can only hurt their hearts greatly. Some people feel inferior and don't work hard to make progress.
The active encouragement and effective help of parents is the fundamental way to help children develop good habits and master life skills.
Go away, can you leave me alone for a while?
It will make them feel redundant and feel indescribable loneliness.
If you really want to be alone for a while, you can patiently explain to your child: I am very happy to be with you, but I am too busy now, please forgive me.
5. Cut the crap and shut up
Children will feel that their parents don't value my opinion at all. In this way, children will become indecisive, dependent and regard themselves as insignificant people.
6. Do it honestly, otherwise-
Empty threats will eventually damage parents' prestige. Instead, children will continue their bad behavior. See what you do.
The best way is to choose specific compensation and punishment means according to the actual situation.
7. Mom, please.
Education is most afraid that rewards will not work and punishment will not be used. Children don't eat hard or soft, but don't say mom please. This means that parents will submit, and children will look at you more from the heart.
8. I have no skills
Show your inferiority when talking to children. Most children's inferiority complex is induced by their parents.
If parents can be confident and optimistic, then children are full of confidence in the future.
9. Kill you
When you say that, you can't think of any good ideas. This is a big lie that cannot be fulfilled at all. Children will not stop their activities because of this.
10. Go away and go where you want to go.
The ultimatum overwhelmed the children. Although he doesn't want to run away from home, he doesn't want to bow his head. A wayward child may want to be a hero and really run away from home.